Looks : Doest it matter or not?
By juggerogre
@juggerogre (1653)
Philippines
September 1, 2010 5:34pm CST
I just remembered one of my friends "challenging" question when we were in high school. He asked can we ever fall in love with someone who is really ugly physically? He goes on by describing how ugly that person is: face with lots of acne, huge scar in one of the cheeks and other adjectives that can describe an ugly face. One of my friends say yes and then the one who asked keeps on making the person uglier.
Despite that my other friend keeps on saying yes. She said "it doesn't matter as long as he's beautiful in the inside".
Well for me to be honest I think it will be hard for me to fall in love with not so beautiful physically. But its also impossible for me to fall in love with a very beautiful girl with hideous personality. So for me looks matters.
How about you? Do you also consider looks?
Despite that my other friend keeps on saying yes. She said "it doesn't matter as long as he's beautiful in the inside".
Well for me to be honest I think it will be hard for me to fall in love with not so beautiful physically. But its also impossible for me to fall in love with a very beautiful girl with hideous personality. So for me looks matters.
How about you? Do you also consider looks?4 people like this
21 responses
@kristin19 (86)
• United States
2 Sep 10
hi juggerogre,
once i did have feelings for a man who was so fat that he had a ring of neck fat too. i mean, can you imagine a person who is so fat, he has a spare tire of fat around his neck? well, what happened was that he rejected me. maybe he only liked fat girls.
some of those people that we deem to be ugly are probably really picky too and have their own standards.
so i have to tell you that it is possible to fall in love with an ugly person. however they might reject you because ugly people have their own standards too.
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@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
It is really possible to fall in love with an ugly person. Its just HARD for me.
I think he's definition of beauty is different from most people but at least you have shown that it doesn't matter if you are fat or whatever, they can still be loved.
I think he's definition of beauty is different from most people but at least you have shown that it doesn't matter if you are fat or whatever, they can still be loved.@kristin19 (86)
• United States
2 Sep 10
hi juggerogre,
i think it is possible to fall in love with an ugly person but the connection has to be really intense for this to happen. only then can one overlook their ugliness.
it depends on the two people involved too. if they are both not focused on finding an extremely attractive mate, it could happen.
@rosebinas (180)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Don't you worry about the physical looks of a person. With the introduction of innovative surgeries that could totally transform an ugly face into an instant beauty, who would still worry about a person's ugly looks. So, the best thing to consider now is finding someone who is more beautiful on the inside because that's a kind of beauty that can never undergo surgeries.
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@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Yes technology today makes all of that possible but its too expensive.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Physical looks does matter. I don't want to offend anyone but surely I can't bear myself to be sleeping or seeing a person regularly with that kind of face. But honestly I know I should not be saying this because I am not that good looking wither. But what can I do I just love looking at pretty face.
But I am not looking for a perfect face either just want something good to look at. I could never possibly like someone who is very beautiful yet the attitudes is similar to that of the devil himself.
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@blue_raine (257)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
well there was a joke someone had told me..he said which do you prefer a person who has an ugly face but a good attitude or a one who is beautiful but ugly inside. its hard to answer the question. so i just keep quiet. he said if he will going to choose, he will choose the one that has beautiful face, because attitude may change but face will not. well he has a point, but i think it will depends upon the person. REMEMBER BEAUTY IS IN THE OF THE BEHOLDER.
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@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Our technology makes it possible to make an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan. But its just too expensive. So I'll choose the same as your friend.
So I'll choose the same as your friend.
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
for me, it does because relationships usually begin with physical attraction. when you get attracted to an individual, you try to know him better and you try to get closer. everything else follows then and it will only depend on whether the said person feels the same way for you or not.
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@tryptech (6)
• India
2 Sep 10
well it depends from person to person.
an individual who is not so conscious about his/her appearance,
will seldom worry about how another does,
coz this person values other qualities above looks,
like maybe discipline, ethics, overall personality ... etc
so to me , this is a very subjective question.
and will vary from person to person .
@voldrox (7191)
• India
2 Sep 10
Hello juggerogre,
Everybody says looks matters, well at least to some extent, and it's the same with me. Looks might be of the lowest priority but it is there in the scale. What people want most is that they should respect, care and love us for who we are.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Physical appearance is not everything. you can find a beautiful person who is ugly on the inside. you have to look past the physical aspects and see deeper into the person. Good looks will fade with time. What you have inside will always be there/1 person likes this
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
2 Sep 10
for me doesnt matter really bcs all guys i loved till now were never very handsome ^^ they were just normal guys^^ actually i always look to personality and even if a guy was very ugly if he was funny and caring i might fall for him^^ for me to love a guy he just needs to be caring much for me and making me laugh much^^ i like to smile always and to feel loved^^ actually looks shouldnt matter bcs we all get old sooner or later and if we both are old with someone we loved by their heart we are happy then but if we choose someone just bcs is cute we cant be happy ever also when this person gets old beauty disappeared already what we have? someone that always was empty inside that just had beauty and it disappeared now so. we must always look to person heart^^ face doesnt matter at all^^
@Vincentangelo (50)
•
2 Sep 10
To be true, most man looks first in physical appearance before looking in the inside characteristics of a women. They like looking for a pair shoes, they first satisfy the physical requirement then decide for functional requirement. I agree that my decision when it pertain to love is greatly affected by physical appearance, but the period of relationship is greatly affected by inside characteristics or personal characteristics.My decision to choose is greatly affected by physical attraction but the length and how long the relationship is greatly affected by personal attributes. Therefore for me I prefer both.
@romania2 (237)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Looks matter, but not as much as people think it does. Of course, the initial attraction is due to the looks! But, as time passes, it becomes more about the personality. So I guess you have to have enough looks to attract someone to at least spend time with you... As for those with looks and no personality, well, there are shallow people.
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@farmgirl2010 (8)
• China
2 Sep 10
To tell the truth, I think looks really does matter. Because if two strangers meet with, I think the first important factor to affect the empression is the appearance, and maybe the next is good behavior.
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@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
honestly, it is really hard to answer that because LOOKS is the first one that we consider in making relationships or making friends. But it is really nice if we consider the totality of the person. LOOKS maybe the starting point but its really the ATTITUDE that really counts.
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@jeffyryi (78)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
For me, of course it does matter, hehe(Im ugly). - It is really pleasant to the eyes when both of you are good-looking, well-paired. Many would mind whether you like it or not denounce couples whom are obviously mismatched. Though we witnessed many couples throughout the world bonded with husbands and wives having pretty faces..they were blessed. What ever appearances we have, how we look to others for now is just temporary, we all get old just be happy with it. Your mind would decide if you really like someone,but if you truly love the person your heart will tell.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
24 Sep 10
I guess looks tend to matter a lot for people because that's how people judge others, but wow you talking people being so ugly you guys might think that you are so beautiful to do that which is really wrong. That kind of makes me mad and sad lots of mixed emotions people with a lot of acne can be beautiful too ok. People who have acne are not ugly that is just so cruel and mean to say it's not ok to say that just because you know maybe you never had it or your friends doesn't give you the right to do that because that will hurt peoples feelings. I have seen some very beautiful people and they have lots of acne. Anyway not trying to be mean or anything, but I am just saying that their is a lot of people out their with acne including me so I guess that makes me ugly, oh well.
@jerikjames (1041)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I believe, no matter how much we deny it, looks greatly matters to everyone. The first thing you see in a person is his/her looks. And this would already have an impact on your impression on the person. However, looks is not a factor when it comes to love (I mean true love, not infatuation). Later on, we'll fall for someone not because of what he/she looks like. But for his/her personality and how he/she interacts with us which greatly attracts us.
So yeah, looks would matter at first. But it's really the personality and nature of the person which will attract you.
So yeah, looks would matter at first. But it's really the personality and nature of the person which will attract you.1 person likes this
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I don't want to sound hypocrite, so I say looks will be taken into consideration. I mean, he doesn't have to be that handsome or totally boy next door type or a hunk, but he should just be at least presentable and pleasant to look at. That is how a first attraction develops. However, his personality and attitude will be weighed more. So I will prefer a not too handsome but presentable with a good personality and attitude, than a gorgeous looking guy with a rotten personality. Looks does matter but will not be the final judgement factor for me to love someone...
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@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
2 Sep 10
the physical appearance of the person does matter to me. but you don't have to be really pretty or handsome to look appealing, right? as long as you comb your hair, wear clean clothes, bath a day everyday (harhar), and conversely appropriately, then you're ok in my book. :)
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@chayapathys (2111)
• India
2 Sep 10
Good looks really matter in the initial stages.As it does not last long one has to see the inside beauty of a person.Experience shows that good looking people whether male or female are generally very very proud and arrogant in nature.It cannot be generalized.Many fall in love at first sight seeing the outer beauty and many. Soon they divorce because the is no inner beauty. We come across many ugly couple living very happily together . How do you account for this.Therefore dating before marriage may be helpful in many cases
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