long distance relationship

hello rhinarea, I feel for you my dear. I'm sorry to hear that you're sad because he'll be leaving outside the country for work. That's a sad inevitable fact that we can't escape. I've heard from someone that most long distance relationships don't work and only a few of it does. It really made me miserable for a couple days when I kept on thinking about it. Until I pondered on the the bright side of it... I knew a lovely couple who had the same situation as yours. The guy went to Taiwan to work for a two-year contract in a certain company and his girlfriend was left in the Philippines. I don't know how long they have been together before the guy went to Taiwan but you know what, when the guy finished his contract in Taiwan, he went back to home in the Philippines and married his girlfriend. Just think on the positive side of it. Trials may come in your way, but never lose faith. Think of it as a challenge that you both have to face. In your 7 years of being together, now is the time that your relationship is being tested. Remember God doesn't give us problems that we can't solve. God is giving you this test to make your faith, trust and love for each other grow stronger. I hope you'll overcome this test rhinarea... Take care.. Have faith.. God speed.. Happy mylotting ^_^!

you guys are in your 7th year relationship and through those years you have hopefully gotten to know each other. trust has hopefully been planted so there must be no reason fo you to ponder if long distance relationship works. as you mentioned, his leaving to Singapore is a positive in that he'll be saving up for the future, so let the relationship, as well as his experience abroad, remain a positive for you two. but to answer your question, it depends on how much effort is put to keeping the relationship intact. of course you guys have a lot of history together (7 years!) so holding on to each other might not be a problem^^

yes^^ dont be sad^^ he is doing that for your future with him^^ for both to be happy together :) also if you are together since 7 years is too long already so im sure there exists a lot of love between both of you^^ sure you will miss him but soon he will be near you right?^^ also you can always call him and talk with him using the computer right?^^ dont be sad im sure all can be fine as long as both keep your love feelings^^ and caring for each other^^

Why not? If you are in love and you can feel each other then why should you be afraid of the distance of space! It does not depend upon the locational distance, rather it depends upon the mental distance. If your hearts can feel each other near then nothing to worry about.

It truly depends on the couple involved and in this matter I would suggest if your heart is in it as well as his then do not let anyone stop you. True love is not easy but worth the hard work. Save big for your future because if your heart is singing for him then you will need that money :)

hi rhinarea... i think it doesnt matter if it is a long distance relationship or not. What is important is you keep the communication line always open, because without this it will never work. The key to a long and lasting relationship is open communication as well as the trust you have with yiur partner. That amidst the circumstances you are inright now, you are sure that he will not do anything that would break that trust that you have given him. Im actually in the same situation but so far my relationship with my partner is great. So just keep loving. LOVE!LOVE!LOVE! :)

same here girl.. my boyfriend of 3 years is going to singapore maybe 3 weeks or a month from now and i'm anxious coz i've never been apart from him since our relationship began.. i'm just sad coz i don't know what will i do when he finally leaves.. deep inside me wants to make him stay but i know that this is for his future.. he says he is doing this for us and our future.. it just makes me sad coz i do not know if i can endure the days without him to hang around anymore... :( the day for him to leave is approaching.. it makes me sad but i do not him to see me sad.. i want him to leave with a happy memory of us.. i know this is just temporary..but still i am sad.. *sniff*

I know couples who can work out long distance relationships. I know myself, and I think I won't be able to wait too long. There is always a chance that some other guy will win your attention while the love of your life is away and he can't be there when you need him. Anyway, it all depends on the people! So, I think you will be fine!

Long distance relationships can work. You've been together for seven years now and I'm assuming the two of you have really gotten to know each other. Have you had problems before that would make you question him leaving? Sweetheart if you have a good relationship that is based on trust and love there should be no problem with him leaving to go to work. This is a step in the right direction for your futures. Have faith in your partner. I know it's hard being the one left behind but it's hard for him too. You're both alone but you at least are surrounded by familiar things. Your home. Your friends. It will be hard for both of you but thank god for today's technology. You can keep in touch without it costing you a fortune.

Hi rhinarea, Your relationship seems to be holding together pretty well. If you and your boyfriend are committed to each other all these years, there is not reason to doubt that it will not last even longer. It doesn't matter whether he is near are far away, you can make it last. While he is away keep busy, planning for the future with your "Mr. Right." And, don't forget to write him lots of love letters, so that he will have some visions about what he is missing and what he has to hurry home to. Good Luck

You've already received a lot of positive encouragement, so let me add mine. It's all up to you, but remember even if it does'nt work out, you would have at least had the experience of having loved which is never a bad thing. Good Luck

I am so happy for you knowing that your still together. 7 years is hard. I just broke up with my boyfriend and we had each other for 6 year. I envy you because your boyfriend are planning things now for your future. I hope my boyfriend was mature enough like your boyfriend. Don't worry about long distance relationship because I know it will work for both of you. Trust is already there. You just have to be patient enough to wait for the right time so that you two will be together again. Goodluck! Wish you all the happiness.

Actually, you can answer that by your own self. You said that you and your boyfriend are together for 7 years already. Taking into consideration the trust that he gives you, do you think that's enough already for you to feel relaxed when he leaves soon? What I mean is do you think you have complete trust towards him and are you really suitable on his upcoming leave? Think about it, dear. :) Ask yourself and analyze how things are going between you and your man. If you think it's good, then you just have to give your complete trust to him. Some people who are involved in this kind of relationship tend to be broken because of unfaithfulness and so forth. But you just have to be strong.

In my opinion long distance relationships do not work out. In my case i need to feel my girlfriends touch once in a while, her love expressed in small gestures and such. i could not be appart from my girlfriend for too long.

Well, as long as you have a strong commitment with each other your relationship will last. It is all about trust, faithfulness, loyalty, and strong commitment. You've been together for 7 years now and I think that you already have a strong bond. I understand how you feel, but, you know, you have to trust him and to be supportive of him because he will be working for the two of you. I wish you best of luck in everything that you have with him.

I am a romantic at heart! i believe a long distance relationship can last. Of course we want the one we love ro be close by to us. We get out of any relationship what we are willing to put into it. The distance does not matter if you truly love someone,

It will work if both of you will exert effort to be in constant communication. However, being distant should not last long. Part of a healthy relationship is that physically, you express your affection towards one another like holding hands and a hug. A year apart may be enough. I hope you get together soon. One of you must sacrifice so that the other can be with the one he/she loves.

Good to hear from you that you reach both 7 years in your relationship. congrats for that! It doesn't matter how far you both, The matter is how you both love each other and how you trust each other long distance are not meant to say goodbye to your love ones instead for the two who really love each other in their heart will always stay.

long distnace relationship works... especially nowadays that all kind of communication is available for everyone. its just that it is hard.. there are a lot of rough and tough times. and you really have to work for it. its so different compared when both of u are together. but you just have to be patient, open, and no nagging. you have to get away from having quarrels coz its hard to make up again.. both of you must also be sensitive and suportive to each others needs... aalways understand.... i can say this because m married. and my husband is working from afar also... uknow what... its really a good thing because as females... we are not geting so involved and very dependable to them.. then when he gets back it feels like the relationship is just startin. so full of romance and love.. goodluck! :)

If you and your boyfriend have trust and faith to each other, it will work.. long distance relationship is not easy. If you both are for each other,whatever happens in the long run you will be together til the end.