I'm not flirting!!!

:( Same here, Ybong. It was very painful for any wife in that situation to find out his husband was flirting while she was putting all her strengths and wits to be a good mum to his kid... It makes me wonder sometimes if it is very difficult for a man to have networks without being flirtatious? I don't see any reason why we should flirt when what we seek are friends and networks except when we are looking for something else...

I see. :) I checked your profile again and I wonder if you are married. But I guess, you are. I must have read it somewhere. So, that is your stand. Well, I do agree but not totally. Just like what I've wrote it is like tempting fate. I may find it interesting or thrilling enough but I'd rather not.I acknowledge that something so interesting and exciting may never disappear and might get deeper. If ever you are married, would you flirt? It is ok if you are still single and unattached but married... Hmmm... Good morning, dear.:)

It's not difficult to avoid flirting it's just that flirting more often adds excitement to the conversation especially if the other party don't push you away. It makes you look forward to seeing or in the case of facebook, interact with that other person again. It starts subtle, just like what the guy in your story did until it was becoming too obvious. Its just like he was testing the waters before making the plunge. The guy as well as the girl know what they're doing but they didn't stop because they both loved it. In my opinion, it's OK to flirt every now and then so long as you know your limitations.

You say - "Men needs encouragement to go on further, don't you think, dear?" It is correct, he needs encouragement and if he does not get any liberty (from the girl), he cannot move further. You see there is no guarantee or say hard and fast rule that a decent married woman would not flirt. I believe internet gives you this kind of opportunity to flirt with anyone (without revealing your actual identity) (this is a general statement and may be read in that context only and remember exceptions are always there to a general statement). You see if you know the boy too well, then you would be surer than me about his character and antcedent. I cannot comment on that. (My mind says if two people of opposite gender are indulging in such flirting, they both are responsible for it).

Oh, dear. I must have been very busy responding to other posts that I did not notice your response here. Sorry for that. I'm not sure really. Maybe a confirmation that this man is indeed trying to flirt with her (if he wasn't flirting with her yet). Of course they are wanting to be friends and obviously the girl did enjoy his flirtations with her.Men needs encouragement to go on further, don't you think, dear? :)But, the one who obviously initiated it was the man. I think , a decent, married woman would not flirt (though she was vulnerable then) without being tempted by the pretentious guy. Or it is really difficult to be decent at times especially when there is something missing in your life? I get your point, Deepak. It takes two to tango, remember? Sigh...by the way, I know the boy too well to conclude this.

Harmless so it seems at first but to keep a conversation to the same ton everyday for a year or longer isn't flirting yet? Oh, maybe, not.:) See this the reason why I posted it here because until now there has been an argument regarding this issue. Maybe, other people's opinion may help resolve the issue. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Reckon.:) It is much appreciated....:)

Unfaithful... There are just so many of them in this world and very less of those men we could really trust our hearts with.... If the wife had known her husband to be an a$$hole, I'm sure she'd think twice spending the rest of her life with him...

i know right. gosh! im just thankful that my man never showed any sign of being unfaithful. he never made me feel less important :)

Sweetloveforeve, thank you for reading the link. Yes, this is the sad reality when one irresponsible married man met a vulnerable woman online. I sometimes wonder why there are men like this.... I can only hope and pray that my daughters will not fall in love with a guys like this... Yes, I do agree with that, too. He should have at least tell his wife that she is not making him happy anymore so that the wife will know where to stand and what to do.He was so unfair to her.:(

Yeah, that's how I was seeing this thing, too. the woman loves the attention he was getting from the man...i'm not sure if she has an idea that he is married. Too bad that morale isn't so popular nowadays, especially to married men...