Stupid couple! Grrrr...
By kodukodu84
@kodukodu84 (1569)
Malaysia
September 2, 2010 6:04am CST
This incident happened last night while my fiancé' and I were going home from his work. It was about quarter past 10 in the night. We caught a bus and picked our seats next to few other people.
At the next stop, a couple came in, young couple, probably somewhere between 24 to 26. They were talking to each other quite loud that almost everyone in the bus could hear them. They were not talking to each other like normal, sounded like there was an argument going on. Bad luck for me and my fiancé, they sat opposite us.
We could smell a very strong smell of an alcohol from the guy, while the girl kept of saying something that I couldn't really catch. They continued their argument louder and louder, and the guy was swearing over and over again in front of everyone. My partner and I tried our best to ignore it by reading a newspaper and not even looking at them once!
Then this guy looked at my fiancé and said, "hey you silly c**t! Can you tell me how it would feels like for you to be dumped?" My fiancé paused, looked at the guy and said, "no". (Ok, so we knew what was going on with them - oh and the girl was then started being busy apologising to us for her man's behaviour ). The guy stood right in front of him and shouted, "if you do not get out of this bus right now, I will smash your face!!". Ugh, I could feel my heart beating even faster than ever, I was honestly scared, plus the guy was on alcohol as well.
No one said or done anything. The bus driver pretended like he was deaf, but I understood that no one would like to start a fight, nor do we. I just looked at the girl and I said, "next time if you wanna solved your relationship problem, please do it in private, not in public especially bus! both of you should grow up". Yeah I was angry, I was most angry at the girl who was trying to dump her man in public!! and in the bus??? Come on , we were tired! I didn't think anyone would bother to be proud of their behaviour and how they handle their problem.
So we asked the driver to stop the bus, and we went off 15 minutes away from our house. But the time we were leaving the bus, we heard the guy shouting, "I just need to hit someone tonight!!". Oh God, how terrible!
We had to go through all of that after having to work from 10 in the morning to 10pm! Looooooooooong day :(
Right now, I'm still trying to get over it. Hmmmm...seems like the power of love will not work on someone who is under control of an alcohol and anger.
And I definitely don't want to see my love one's face get smashed!!
Have a better day everyone!
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8 responses
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
2 Sep 10
I can understand your fear, anger and frustration at the situation. Since nobody else seemed willing to do anything about the harassment you were getting from this guy, I think that you did the right thing by getting off the bus before something really bad happened. I can even understand why you were angry at the girl, because she was with this guy and not really "helping" the situation. However, I don't really think it is fair to blame her for his actions, especially since you do not know the entire situation. Maybe she didn't try to dump him in public. Maybe she broke up with him earlier in the day or even the day before, and then he got drunk and obnoxious and she was called to come get him and take him home or something like that. She might have been trying to do the right thing and make sure that he got home safely. On the other hand, maybe she just couldn't take any more of his behavior and did decide to break up with him. I agree that it shouldn't have been done in public, but again that does not necessarily mean that she did it in public, either. She might have done it in private, and it just carried over onto the bus. Still, I do not think that his behavior is her responsibility, especially if she was not instigating the situation by saying things to make him want to hit your fiancee or anything like that. You said that she kept apologizing for the guy's behavior, which suggests to me that she was embarrassed by it and did not approve of it but also could not control it. Maybe she was afraid that if she did anything else that he would hit her, too.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Yes, you are right that she should not have continued the argument while they were on the bus. I read the discussion and realized that they were arguing as they got on the bus, but I must have misunderstood that they continued arguing after they sat down. I thought that she was just apologizing for his behavior and being rather meek once they sat down, but after reading your response here and then re-reading the discussion, I got the impression that she was being loud and arguing as well. I think that she definitely should not have been acting like that on the bus, and it probably did get him even more worked up, so I change my opinion. I agree that she is just as much at fault for the incident as he is, because if she had not continued arguing and getting him all worked-up, even if he was being rude and nasty to her as well, then he probably wouldn't have been as rude and aggressive to your fiance. You are completely right that a public place, especially a bus, is definitely not the place for such drama.
@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
I'm glad you two had come to an understanding. I agree with Purple that I wouldn't blame the girl in this situation for I didn't know what happened before and I understand your situation too kudokudo. I would say the EQ level of the guy is very low and he is an embarrassment to all the male species in this world.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 10
That's OK purple, thanks a lot.
One thing that we were wondering when we got off the bus though if he then continued misbehaving to other passengers in the bus after. We really hoped that the girl managed to handle it then after seeing what he does when he gets all worked up.
My fiancé had to think about me as well the time it was happening in the bus, because if he did get attack then, and if I cried in the bus, I really don't think the guy is going to apologize to me. And if I decided to call a police, then I might get attack too. Unless the other passengers and the driver decided to help! So the only option we had was to get out of the bus without fuss.
Getting smashed on a face must be terrible as well, since we have our nose, eyes, and mouth there lol. You know what I mean :p
@Rich70 (18)
• United States
2 Sep 10
I take it your boyfriend is kind of a wimp. I would have kicked that dude in the balls and palmed him in the nose and preceded to beat his hind end and than say "guess what you got dumped and beat up".
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
2 Sep 10
I wouldn't say her fiance is a wimp I think it takes more courage and more responsibility to walk away from a bad situation then to play into it...
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 10
@Rich
Hmmm....where did you think he got the courage from to walk away after he was called as a "silly c**t" and was warned for his face to get smashed.
Basically, he was not a wimp. He would fight, but what is a point to pursue such fight with man who is not even sober? Worthless, ain't it? Plus, my fiancé was not by himself. I was there as well, so he was just considering our both safety. And after working for the whole day, there was no more energy left, yeah fight is fight, but we got a lives too, and a lot more better things to do out there.
I was actually quite proud at him for being able to give a second chance to the man to behave better than that (who knows if the man then got beaten by someone else), even though we decided to get off the bus. Some people won't even give any, and the problem gets bigger and more complicated, we just wanted to be home faster, rest, and have food, because there was another day for us after. Why did you think we took a bus that night?
@Rich70 (18)
• United States
3 Sep 10
You being with him is all the more reason he should have put the guy straight to the ground. Some people can not be walked away from turning your back on him could have provoked him to attack you. Because you walked away doesn't mean this guy didn't beat on someone else on the bus who was in far worse shape to protect themselves. One day it might be someone who means to do you real harm than are you going to have someone who can protect you or not.
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
3 Sep 10
Hi kodukodu,
Haven't seen you for a long time!
What a terrible experience! You are smart to get off the bus early or that man might really get violent and start hitting you since you are such close targets. You might end up more tired or hurt than you are already.
Take care and always be careful.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 10
Hi Blue, how are you doing nowadays? Yeah, it has been a busy time last month for me and now since few days I could log in to mylot again :(
You are right, it was a terrible experience and I'm glad that it ended so soon when we decided to get off of the bus instead of making more fuss. And we were honestly tired that day. We had to work all day and it was really busy with some customers complaining, fussy, angry, and whatever a customer can be :) And we had no more desire to handle another unreasonable person for that day. We had enough lol :)
I will definitely will be extra careful with people next time. Thanks a lot.
Have a nice day!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Sep 10
oh sorry for it. it was pretty scary. if was me i would be trembling already if i had bf and that guy says that he wants beat him. the guy didnt know what he was saying. i guess he loved the girl and being dumped was making him act crazy. you did right thing leaving the bus bcs the driver wasnt even caring about what was happening and maybe if you continued there he would really beat your fiance. im happy he didnt hurt him.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
You are right sweetie. I also believed that the guy must still very in love with the girl, otherwise he wouldn't get angry so bad, but bad luck that he was drunk too. They must had a lot more other arguments before that, who knows.
I'm glad that we were fine too. And to look at the bright side of the incident, the guy actually gave us "an option" to avoid such thing to happen. He probably knew that he couldn't handle himself anymore, who knows. So leaving him alone probably was the best thing to do. Thanks a lot for responding and enjoy mylot :)
@david_valles (24)
• India
2 Sep 10
some people really don't know how to handle their relationships. Dumping someone or being dumped in public is the most atrocious thing..In addition, when one of them is drunk. I'm glad u n ur fiance escaped unhurt. Forget the incident n concentrate at making ur realtionship with ur fiance more meaningful n happy. All the best n good luck :-D
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 10
You are right. To be honest I would go even more sad if I get dumped in public lol, but I wouldn't get angry to people around like that. I would just go home and cry until I get sick of my own tears. My fiancé and I agreed that it was an unhealthy relationship, because if it was a good one to carry on with, then there surely should be a co-operation and maturity between each other, even when it comes about breaking up.
I'm thankful my fiancé is not like the guy, but that would be probably depends on me as well in the future, anything can change. At least to encounter with such incident teaches us to respect each other more and learn about what should not be done at the wrong place and a wrong time.
Thank you for your respond and have a nice day :)
@devildog683 (74)
• United States
2 Sep 10
someday that drunk is going to do that to the wrong guy (check out youtube vietnam vet bus fight)
You fiance is a very patient man for putting up with that in front of you...I would have probably lost my temper and made the situation worse, but you guys did the right thing..
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 10
Well, if that guy continues behaving like that, I too believe someday he will do that to a wrong person. I guess he was just too lucky that he did that in the bus. I was quite surprised that my fiancé actually did put up with it and didn't say anything else or do something worse, you know. Because I've been with him for 6 years, and I know his limit very well.
But since the guy said, "he just really need to hit someone that night" when we were getting of the bus, who knows if he did something even worse after that. But hopefully not in the bus again!
@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
You really had a terrible night. I just wished that after you get off the bus someone overpowered the stupid guy and smack his face to sleep. The girl was pretty helpless in this situation. The driver should have really done something about the situation because he is responsible for the safety of his passengers
@markamemory (264)
• India
2 Sep 10
Guess it was just a bad day, forget it like a bad dream and go on with life. You are lucky to have escaped with no injuries though, thank god for that. Any probably its just a bad day for the couple too, you can never judge a person in one meeting or the first impression.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 10
Yeah, but it would've been nice for them to be a bit considerate with other people around you know. Just because they were having a bad day does not mean everybody else are not.
Even my fiancé was nice enough to hold his anger when he was called as a "silly c**t" and was warned for his face to get smashed!
He only didn't say or do anything further not because he doesn't know how to fight, to be frank, his is so much bigger than the guy lol, but he was just sparing the other passengers a thought.
Not judging, but come on, it was their relationship matter which is shouldn't involve a stranger like us with nasty words and behaviour, you know.
Thanks for responding, and happy mylotting :)
