where is the end of the rope?
By aendzie
@aendzie (571)
Philippines
September 2, 2010 7:38am CST
I don't really get easily irritated,I didn't know why I get annoyed with my friend today,or am I just having this mood swings that suddenly I felt offended of her jokes?
this friend who is also my co-worker always love teasing people,saying comments out of nowhere and before she came into the team,she already advised everyone of her attitude and that this is what she is,so to make the long story short,I shouldn't feel bad anymore,but I felt that she's too much,she would notice everything and would comment abruptly.Am I just sensitive or having a bad day or is she too much?
5 responses
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
3 Sep 10
I don’t think you are being over sensitive but that it was your bad day AND also, she was too much. Sometimes a combination of these two can erupt abruptly and make us react in anger and irritation. You might now be able to put your finger on it, but something much be bugging you and on top of that, when she teased you, you just burst out…it happens to all of us, all the time. You can just walk up to her and say sorry and that you were just not in the right mood to appreciate her funny comments.
@dipsapra (4)
• India
24 Sep 10
Hi this reminds of a day in last week, i was on the receiving end. This colleague of mine was getting worked up on something. I tried being nice to her by joking around but it just got back fired. She got irritated and asked me to mind my business. I can understand the pressure but then cant' take such behaviour. Stopped talking to her. im sure she's feeling sorry about the whole episode but i cant let her get away without apologising. Anyway her problem, let her deal with it.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Well, maybe it's a little bit of all of them. You just might not have been in the mood. PMS maybe? =) If we're in this mood, the slightest things can set us off. At least you didn't snap back at her. Since she's really like that, she wouldn't notice if she's already offending someone. If she's tactless, then she's partly to blame for the situation. So maybe, when you're in a better mood and she says something inappropriate again, maybe you could tell her calmly not to do that. It might help or it might not. At least you tried.
@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I burst it out!lol!I wasn't able to compose myself and shouted at her,she was saying comments again when I told her that it's none of her business and she should get lost...she got quiet and try to appease me, after that,I realized I was harsh on her and said sorry, and she said she didn't mind.Anyway,we're in good terms still,only that I extended my patience more this time. thanks for the response!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
A pleasant day to you aendzie,
Maybe, your friend exceeds the limit. Limit of throwing jokes, teasing and saying comments. Since your friend already advised everyone of the ways that she has, thinking that you already accepted her and understand in everything she does. And because of this, she is not observing anymore or considering what would be the consequence of her attitude. Aside from that, she does not even think if she already hurted somebody.
For this reason, perhaps, this add-up to your annoyance.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Sep 10
I would say that perhaps it was just a bad day. I would say that she made herself clear the first day of work, but clearly it is bugging you so either you just simply say to her I am not in the mood today. As she stood for her right you can do the same back.
As not every day is a happy day so there is no reason to deal with it. Or you can learn to complete avoid her on a day you are just not in the mood.
Good luck dealing with her every day. 
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
She's just using the "I'm like this so be used to it" excuse so nobody can comment on her because you all agreed to her. There's such a thing as being tactful and having office etiquette. It's not like she can say anything she wants at any given time...nobody wants someone who's overly opinionated about everything. It's called respect.
