Talking About Your Family Problems To Anyone
By klaudine
@klaudine (3650)
Indonesia
September 2, 2010 12:17pm CST
I believe that every family has its own problem. I know it. Even the most harmonious family sometimes has to deal with the family problem, and I think it is common. The real problem came when there's an unsolvable problem. Something that can't be solved between family members.
Do you think it is wise to talk about our family problem to the outsider. Of course, it might open the family secret, or our family's dirty secret. Maybe it will change how people would perceive about our family forever. But in the other hand it probably will help us to solve the problem.
What do you think about it? Are you still going to talk about your family secret to the outsider, or you keep it to yourself and your family and deal with the problem again and again?
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7 responses
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
2 Sep 10
I have a really good friend that I will talk to about problems not so much my family problems but my problems....I also speak with a councelor that helps me deal with issues better....But it is so hard to find people you can trust to talk to...
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@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
3 Sep 10
In some areas councling is offered through health so you don't have to pay...As for the consultant I ment a family friend that might be willing to be there.....I get councling for free through health services in my area...
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
I'd rather keep my family problems for myself rather than sharing it out with an outsider. I'm not really an expressive person, so I am used to handling personal problems regarding family matters on my own. As much as I would like to share my problems to a couple of people, its just hard to find someone you can really trust nowadays. Even your own relatives backstab and betray you. If my family can still handle and deal with our problem on our own, then I guess there's no need for me to tell anyone about it. It's like we don't need their help kinda thing. As well as to avoid the possibility of having our family secrets out in the open just because I told an outsider about it.
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@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
2 Sep 10
I can so agree with that it is really hard to find a friend or anyone you can trust to talk about your problems with....
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
3 Sep 10
I agree that it's so hard to find someone who you can trust to share your family problem. But the burden to hold a family secret is just so hard, isn't it? I think it is good if we can find someone to talk to. Even better, if they can help us find a way to solve a problem.
But I think you're right about being careful to talk to someone, since it is so embarrassing if we get our family secret blew up. Thanks for your response, meemingNEW
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
3 Sep 10
Dear friend,
I do have family problems, I do avoid to say to strangers. Moreover I do tell to my close one whom I beleive. At times they could give me better suggestions and helps in solving my family problems. May be we have to find a right person to express our family problems,if we did not get a right person hope it would do more mess.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Hi, klaudine. No. not in public do I talk to a stranger. I may do so when I am on myLot. That is because no one on here knows who I really am. A lady was talking to me yesterday about her family problems. I don't even know her at all. She usually waits with us to get her son from off of the bus during the afternoon.
I know that I just don't tell an absolute stranger, my personal business. Not unless it is an counselor or someone that I will talk to in confidentiality.
I know that I just don't tell an absolute stranger, my personal business. Not unless it is an counselor or someone that I will talk to in confidentiality.1 person likes this
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
3 Sep 10
Sharing your problem in mylot is indeed a good option, cream97. I did that a lot with my problem. People don't know who I really am, so it is good that you can share some embarrassing problems anonymously. Even better, there are many people who will deliberately share their opinion, and can help us find a solution in the discussion. Thanks for your response cream97
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Every person has problems; thus so does every family. While it would be ideal to be able to solve problems within the family itself, sometimes that's the problem - they can't be solved by the family as a whole. Choosing outsiders in whom to confide is important re the very issue of confidentiality. A clergyman or religious counselor might work best.
To balance that out, we can be people of transparency re many issues; deep dark "secrets" have a way of getting out, and sometimes they are more hurtful when you try to bury them and then they get out. And we can better help people who are having the same problems we have experienced when they know we have gone through them and have come out the other side.
So, it's a matter of balance, wisdom, and common sense.
Remember these issues and failings are common to us all.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
3 Sep 10
Yes i share my family problems with one of mine friends.. he is my best friend.. so i share everything with him.. and many time he gives me a good suggestion that what can i do.. in this situation.. i think that i am lucky that i have a good friend.. which i can share anything..
