Accepting a New Friend When.....

Depends on that one if they have posts ya can read to see what they think. and no ya not to picky I do the same i look at them first sometimes I try them if they never post any more they are gone!

Yep, I would. Some people prefer to remain anonymous here, and that's fine with me. I just don't want to be spammed...

Sure, I'd accept a ghost or alien as a friend. I accept everyone else, so why not? LOL I didn't always though. Back when I was still new to mylot, I didn't accept anyone's friendship. But the more I learned about mylot friends, the more I was willing to add anyone that wanted to be my friend. After all, if someone took the time to request my friendship, the least I can do is accept...even those that are aliens and ghosts! LOL Happy mylotting!

Whenever I join a new place, I join as one of those "ghosts". I'm not sure what type of people are there, I'm just trying the place out and don't want to give any more personal info than necessary. Later I might fill in personal details but not too many. If I looked at the ghost's profile and saw a lot of banners, I wouldn't approve them. If they had no discussions or replies, ditto. But there are plenty of people who prefer caution now over damage control later! Just another point of view for you to consider.

I am real picky too when it comes to new friends I know I would not accept someone that has a profile like the one you describe And I definately would not accept someone with nothing but make money banners all over their profile

Whoa! I think you're reasonable. I accept people as a friend here in mylot because they are posting some sensible discussions that I can dwell. I rarely accept alien friends and most of the time regret for it.

I don't think you're too picky. I've probably rejected more friends requests than I've accepted over the years I've been a member on here. Mostly I reject them for the same sort of reasons you have mentioned. I'm not interested in being spammed and I don't see the point of randomly collecting "friends" just for the sake of it. I will only accept a friends request if I'm interested in what the other person has to say. I don't have to agree with their views - actually there is quite a large number of people on my list who often post opinions and views that I totally disagree with - but I'm still interested in what they're saying. Age, nationality and gender are not consciously a factor I consider, but I do like to have a sense of the person I'm having a discussion with, and it's quite difficult to do that if they're not going to disclose anything at all about themselves - even the most basic of information like whether it's a he or a she I have as a friend! So a ghost (or an alien) is not likely to make it onto my friends list either I'm afraid.

I am still pretty much a sucker for a friend request, until I get spammed and then they are gone. Many times these ghostly people will just disappear into the woodwork, never to be seen again. That happens to me more often than the spam. I do have my reservations when the name is something freaky or gross.

I had to look at my profile after reading this! I do get choosy, I will atleast usually look at their profile and their discussions. Sometimes THAT isnt even enough! lol oh well...

Heather, I don't think you are too picky at all. When someone requests me to be a friend, I first check to see why they would want to do that in the first place. If they haven't responded to anything I've posted and haven't got many points then I would either reject them, or leave them for a while to see how active they are. If they haven't been active on any posts that I've replied to, then I would probably reject them eventually. I wouldn't reject someone just because they don't give much information about themselves, as I can understand that a lot of people don't like putting information about themselves on the internet. Even if they do put information, how can you tell if it is true or false anyway!! If they start hounding you for money making schemes then you are free to remove them as friends any time.

Okey, you should accept them I think there is no harm to be done against you. i do it sometimes too. i want to be secret. But after knowing each other I can exposed my private information towards you.

I don't mind accept everyone here... be it she/he is from outer space. The point is, does it matter if we'll have a thousand friends, a hundred or below 20 friends here in mylot? I'm new and I don't know how all these things/features here work. I'm having fun though posting and reading. It would be nicer though to know most of you in a personal level but then the question, are you willing to open your world with almost everyone without being taken advantage of?

as for me, i'm still at the stage that i'd approve anyone who'd ask to be my friend. i don't really have any problem with keeping their age or gender a secret. it is their choice to have their privacy. also i sometimes keep my gender to myself too, i don't think that's any important. it's up to you if how you pick your friend, because as you said you'd like to keep it in a manageable number and it's good to keep friends who'd keep in contact with you even if its answering discussions, once in a while. ^^,

so funny question,if if really happen,I'll accept:) because I want to try new feeling about make friend like ghost or alien(may be I'll be eat by alien=)))

There are a few things I do not include in my profile, strictly for privacy purpose, and do not want to display way too much, as there are so many computer savvy people these days and well, I cannot risk being too all out there. But if I do not know if it is male and female, how do I know it is not my ex or something. But yes if would worry me if it where a bot of some form.