Have you ever thought what now what do they want????

I know how you feel, I have different type of friends and most of them are the type of friends I'd love to talk to at least once or twice a year only. It doesn't mean that they're not real friends, it's just there isn't really anything that we need to talk about most of the time. Unless of course there are instances or situations that has happened and we need to bond up. I think when you grow older, your need to talk is not as much as when we're younger. You see, when we grow older we have other priorities in life, we no longer have time to just worry about ourselves we have other people who we worry about (children, spouse, work, etc.) Soon, we find ourselves not having much time to socialize with our friends but doesn't mean that the friendship is gone. It simply means that if we're really good friends or if they really are our friends they (and of course we) should understand that it doesn't take a lot of talk to keep the friendship growing. Even in silence, friendship will not fade.

I used to have a couple of Friends like that but I slowly come away from those Friendship because the only time they contacted me was if they needed something or wanted a Favor or just to complain about things and to be honest at that time I had more then enough Problems on my Plate without having to deal with these 2 Friends

blueangel two complainers have singled me out as a friend and I like one but dislike the other. The one complains a lot but she also has told me about her life and her childhood and she really did have it rough, I can empathize with her, but the other never stops complaining and whats worse she grabs my arm which I hate, only close friends do that with me, not people I barely know.I think I am normal as we all have comfort zones where we feel at ease with other people and closer zones really do bother us a lot.

One of my husbands friends i feel like this towards,like what is it this time.I also feel very uncomfortable when my husbands friend is here.My husband is also getting really fed up of his friend keep popping in aswell,as he even do it when we have company.

...i have experienced something like this...it's like they are your friends but you are not enjoying their company..somehow, your likes and preferences are not the same, but for the sake of the friendship, you still pretend that you are interested so that you won't be able to hurt their feeling...

I really hate to answer this with a "yes" answer, but I'm afraid I have to... I've known a number of people over the years and I ended up with that "oh no, what do they want now?" thing going through my head when I saw an email or got a call. And I have to say that it's not a good feeling. I think a lot of it is because some people really don't contact their "friends" until they want something... so that's why we end up feeling this way. The complainer you mentioned... oh boy do I know people like that! It's like I cringe and try to think of a way to escape. :-) Of course if it's a real friend, I gladly listen... I'm talking about people who don't come around until they need something.

Yes, I have quite a range of friends too! For the most part I am delighted to hear from my friends and enjoy talking, texting, or even emailing or messaging on face book! I used to have some friends that made me feel like "Oh goodness what now?" but I got rid of those types of friends. It was hard enough to keep up with them wasting my time with useless chatter with one child, but now that I have two children I have a lot less time in the day to get the things done that I need to do so I'm not going to stop just to listen to someone bicker about something stupid or some useless chit chat. That is just my own personal experience anyhow. Plus I would rather spend a break on here then listen to someone yip yap about nothing!

It's not so much the phone, as chat. :D

Some friends just talk to you because they want to chitchat with you. It does have to be about anything else special. then there are those who only get in touch with you because they want something from you. These are the people i would often like to avoid. If i am your friend, i like to be just that. i don't want friendship that has to come at a price.