forever or never?
By jeremy0529
@jeremy0529 (77)
Philippines
September 3, 2010 11:14pm CST
so i just want to ask your opinion about our status of my gf if it will last up to the end or it will not? we are both 16 years old and we will have our first anniversary this month but the problem is that i will need to go to other countries for 3 years to get my permanent residence because my mom is there, so we need to be in a long distance relationship for 3 years. do you think we will last or not?
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4 responses
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Anything is possible but when you are that young it's hard to not look at other people. It's just the truth and I don't want to rain on your parade but it can go either way. You can be the couple that goes against the odd or you can join the statistics. Either way I like the fact that you are mature enough to admit it can happen.
@jeremy0529 (77)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
yeah i know, but i got a strange feeling because i like her and i love her and she's one of the two people that really knows me and i don't want to lose her, there is a part in my mind that says to leave her cause in the country where i will go there will be more beautiful girls and i can have fund with them. something like that lol
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Well just tell her that if both of you still have an interest for each other when you get back then continue to have your relationship. Be honest. My stepson got married to this girl he knew in high school. She went to college in another state. They both dated but when they met each other after several years they started to date, now they are married. Honesty is better than pretending everything will be ok. Yes you will meet other girls and at your age it's hard to be disciplined.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Hi there.., Advance Happy Anniversary for the two of you.., You are both too young and I know in three years time.., there can be a lot of changes that will come your way.., You better be open for possibilities.., but if you truly love each other.., You will have to be ready and strong in facing trials that will shake the foundations of your relationship.., Long distance relationship is not easy.., but if both of you will work on it.., there's now way that it can not work..good luck!!
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
hi.., it's good that you are aware of yourself.., so better be careful with your present girlfriend.., if you know you cannot be loyal to her while you are away.., tell her.., don't do anything stupid and don't fool around behind her back.., don't utter false promises that you know you cannot keep.., and don't make her hope on something that will turn out as nothing.., if you will have to break her heart do it gently.., and don't prolong her agony.., being honest with her is a good start.., Please do it gently..=)
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Well, I hope that it will, but you never really know. People change in three years, and things change. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I can tell you that things have drastically changed from the day that we met. We still love each other, but at the same time we have our fights, our disagreements, and we have changed careers (kind of), and we have gone to different universities. We still love each other as much as we did when we first met each other, but we are not like we were when we first met each other.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
5 Sep 10
Hi Jeremy,
You both are so very young. It's not that it can't work or won't work but to be honest, the odds are not in your favor. You both are going to go through so many changes over the next few years, it would be hard to predict if your relationship would last even if you stayed here. I would say it would be better if you agreed to see others and maybe keep in touch and see what happens. If it was meant to be then you'll find your way back to each other in 3 years. I don't think it would be fair for either of you to put your lives on hold for 3 years. What if you did that and then things didn't work out?
