family or husband?

It would really be a very IDEAL situation if one would live near the house of one's family(mom,dad and siblings). But to co-habitate with your family when you're already married, to live with them in just one house, this can complicate your married life if not just a bit, it an possible create a major issue. It would be difficult for your husband to really become the head of the family... Domestic issues are possible to arise in situations like this. So, I'd rather live with my husband than be in one roof with my husband and family. Besides, being married is a new chapter in one's life, so it's just proper that the couple should start to make it on their own. YOu can always visit each of your family whenever you both can. :)

i don't think it is a necessity to be choosing either one of them, both of them are important and already a part of our lives and they should be cherish

When I got married I made a promise to be with my husband as we are to create a family of our own. Therefore, I think it's just right to be with my husband and work together towards forming a happy family. Our siblings will eventually have a family of our their own. For our parents, we will be visiting them once in a while. If our parents will grow old, it would be best if they live near us, too.

If it is time to get married of course to be with my husband and to own a family.

I also think that if you have a partner & children I would think it's better if you have your separate house from your parents & siblings. Your husband or wife would want some privacy & to be themselves rather than always looking over their shoulders which would cause problems & can cause conflict with their spouse. Only when living together with the parents is allowed if parents are elderly & sickly where they cannot care for themselves. Other then that I would like to have my separate household with just my spouse & children because I think that's when we learn to care for our family & be responsible parents & to show our kids to be independent adults when they get to be parents themselves.

When we are married, your new family also needs privacy and special treatment and time. I will choose my husband and with my kids rather than my family back at my childhood home. You mean not to discard them for good of course, because I won't disregard my mom, dad or my brother! Never would happen in my life! Here in the Philippines, some homes allow their extended family to stay with them. I heard that our neighbor has 4 families who live in it. Incredible right?! They are really noisy and loud, but they seem to be a FUN FAMILY because they have exactly like 8 people in the house + their little children?

Before getting married to the man/woman you love, you know that you will make big and little sacrifices like leaving your family behind and staying with the one you love to build a new family. It is a very stupid and unfair thing if you would just marry your partner but live with your own family. If you can't live your own family to stay with your husband/wife then why would did you choose a married life? Settling down is a very important decision that you will make and there are million things to consider so before finalizing it, ask yourself first if you could do simple sacrifices just to make your relationship work. Of course you will not abandon your own family but having a private life with your partner and kids is more important besides your family will be more happy to see that you are already a mature person to get yourself into a lifetime commitment.

I wish I could choose both.., But sadly, I cannot do so because They are both in different places.., miles apart actually and I am currently staying with my man because I am planning to get a job in his place.., and it tears me apart every single day that I miss my family.., I wish I could be with them too.., and share their joys and pains.., I miss them so much..