Would you leave your girlfriend if she can't bear a child?
By deve_annrn
@deve_annrn (1856)
Philippines
September 4, 2010 8:07am CST
What if you discovered one day that your fiance or the girl you're planning to get married with can't get pregnant either due to a certain health condition or an operation done that will make pregnancy no longer possible.., Will it change your mind about marrying her? Will it make you love her less? How important it is for you to marry a woman who can give you a child? Is that a big deal for men?
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9 responses
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Sep 10
I will never leave my GF or my wife at any cost. For any reason i will not let her go. Even if she decides to leave me for some reason.
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@yoursjannat (839)
• India
4 Sep 10
Probabily this question is for them who has infinitely big heart.But I'm sorry to say for me,If it is only about girlfriend level I would quit and I think,the girl also shouldn't deceive people by hiding her incapability to bear a child because everybody wants a full grown family of his own.Rather the girl should marry a man who is otherwise impotent!!
@yoursjannat (839)
• India
4 Sep 10
To be serious,if in case,somebody gets married with a woman who can't bear a child,could still have a full grown family by hiring "Womb" of other ladies,able to bear child at time same time keeping fair relationship with his spouse.So there is always a solution to every problem that bears an amount of potential reality.My statements are impartial and I think,it's not meant to hurt anybody's feelings!!
thanks
happy mylotting!!
@yoursjannat (839)
• India
4 Sep 10
Thanks for your understanding.Everybody could show his unconditional love by putting them into words,the fact is that when it comes to reality most people shrinks away.Their action potentially damages their integrity of dignity.But I don't try to bear any crooked feelings,to be straight forward.I want to play fair.Thanks again.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
hi there.., thank you for responding.., i got your point and i agree with you.., if someone will end up with this kind of woman and that person really loves her that much to accept her despite what she is not capable of providing him.., what you suggested is good., having another woman carry your baby.., that's what science can do nowadays..=)
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Hello again my deve...I don't for some people but for me I would do that (leave my wife or gf)..in fact we are living right now with no child...
, but still we remain faithful with each other...
Why? Are you afraid your bf would leave you if you can't bear child?
The best thing for you to do is to have a "love check" with your boyfriend...
Cheers....
Mobhomeir here..
, but still we remain faithful with each other...
Why? Are you afraid your bf would leave you if you can't bear child?
The best thing for you to do is to have a "love check" with your boyfriend...
Cheers....
Mobhomeir here..@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Thanks again my friend.., =) I am pleased to know that you are one of the few men out there who will remain faithful and in love with their woman despite the absence of a child in you relationship.., i am aware that the essence of a woman is child bearing.., and yes.., I am afraid.., I might not be able to bear one.. but I am not sure yet.., This is probably because of the medications I took when I was still a child.., I was sickly child.., and I did mentioned it to my boyfriend.., But he said nothing will change if that's the case.., But i can't help but doubt it.., and I am praying that it won't happen..=)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Being able to bear children is not what relationships are about. If you are with someone just to have children, your relationship will be doomed from the start. A relationship should be about the love and care you have for someone. Share you hopes and dreams with that person. Children shouldn;t be the reason that you want them in your life.@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
i do see your point but some men wanted to start a family with the woman they love.., and have their own children as their ultimate goal in lives.., i guess it depends on men with how they planned their future.., =)
@sinliong (88)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 10
I don't think I would. We should realize that her condition is not something intentional. We should understand that she must be never willing to have those condition too. No women in this world wants to have those conditions. And I don't think that would reduce my love for her. In fact, maybe it would makes me love her even more, since I will surely feel pity for her. I'll try to comfort her, make her strong and convince her that I'll never leave her because of her conditions. A child's presence is important in a family since it will be a stronger bond between a husband and wife. But a child is also a responsibility for a man. And it shouldn't be an excuse to blaspheme others.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
owo.., that is what i call unconditional love.., and i admire people who are capable of giving such a selfless feeling to their loved ones.. =)
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Right.., You are very right.., if it's hard for a man to be with a woman who can't bear a child for him.., It will be twice as hard for the woman since it is a disappointment for herself and she will be afraid to lose her man because of that too..=(
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 10
No! If I really love my girlfriend, I don't really mind if she can't pregnant. And I will be able to enjoy 2 person life without to worry about children. I know you will probably say without a children, marriage life will not be complete. But to think of you have to bring the child to this world, and they have to suffer to the pressure in this world. It is something more cruel toward them. haha....So? Is it to have a child is important? Or you want to bring your child to this world and let them suffer for life?
@celsorosas (13)
• United States
4 Sep 10
i think their are so many ways to make a family and barring children is just one of them
