Am I Being to Picky?
By JudithP
@JudithP (295)
Canada
September 4, 2010 9:48am CST
It's raining today and it actually looks like fall is in the air. One of those days you want to put on a pot of homemade soup and curl up and read a good book.
With the coming of autumn I realized I've been here in Elliot Lake almost two years and I haven't met anyone I can actually call friend. I've met lots of people because I work as a cashier but I consider them acquaintances, big difference. I work two jobs and so there isn't a lot of time left over to go out and socialize. When I do have time off, I usually want to spend it with Michael.
Elliot Lake is a retirement living community now. I would say over half the population is over 60 and to tell you truthfully it's like being back in high school. This is crazy. They tell stories about each other, try and sometimes succeed in getting each others partner's into bed, and then bragg about it. Cat fights at the senior's buildings and shouting matches down at the Legion. They all moved to Elliot and regressed back to 15. I haven't met one person that I would invite over for a coffee let alone supper.
I don't know, I assumed by the time you made it to our age all of this crap would be over with. I'm just not interested in who is sleeping with who, who has a crush on who, or who can tell the tallest tale. Am I being to picky?
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Hi JudithP,
Living two years in a senior community, and you have found no one to call a friend, I think that is sad. I am assuming that you are planning to stay in this community for some time to come. So, wouldn't your life there be more enjoyable if you had a girlfriend to share fun-times with? I know you have Michael, I assume your significant other, but his a guy.
I think most of your friends, oops! acquaintances have reverted back to the youthful follies that teenagers and young adults participate in such as cheating on mates, and spreading gossip about one another.
You are not too picky, you just know what you want. There has got to be someone in the community who has the same values as you. Commonality is important when you decide to make friends. So, if you feel that you need to take your time selecting new friends, then that is whant you should do. Better to take you time, than to be sorry for a hasty decision.
True friends are precious gems, handle them with care.
Good Luck
@JudithP (295)
• Canada
5 Sep 10
Angelgirl, you are just amazing. Have I told you that I love you? You hit the nail right on the head. You just made me think of something. There's a native lady that comes into the store all the time. She's very interesting and she knows so much about my family and my heritage. I wasn't raised on the reserve. She'd asked me if I would like to go to a drumming circle with her. It's women only. I'm not sure if I'm into it but I think I may accept her invite. You really are an Angel!
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
5 Sep 10
Hi JudithP,
I love you too, my friend. I am glad that I was able to give you some ideas about forming a or some friendships. I hope you can let me know how everything is working out. The drumming circle sound like fun, enjoy.
Blessings,
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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5 Sep 10
It shows that no matter what the age of a person,some people do not change when they get older.There are lots of people that i know that have been known to sleep with married men,including the people that live next door to them.I do agree with you that some people just do never grow up.There are always people saying he says shes says,he done her,she done him,these are the people that i tend to keep away from as i am getting fed up aswell as too old for all that rubbish.I think that you are wise not to invite people like this round for a cuppa.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
4 Sep 10
No, i don't think u are being picky at all. I think i would feel the very same way. Been there done all that a long time ago, how silly for them to be still acting like teenagers. wish u lived close to me, i bet we could be friends. I enjoy your discussions & responses. Happy weekend to u.
@JudithP (295)
• Canada
5 Sep 10
I just somehow thought they would have got past all of this. Then sometimes I start to panic and ask, "Is this what I have to look forward too." Well as a writer, it sure gives me a lot to talk about.
I've tried to be a bit more selective about my friend choices this time. I've been purposely looking for others who had interesting topics and actually had something to say. I think you and I are going to be good friends. Take care dear Lady.
