Why is it that there are people that can not seem to enjoy

i cannot say that some people do not want to help themselves or accept help because i just can't. when i was in a deep sh*t, as i said above, it felt like i was drowing or i could not breath. at that time i did everything that people said as positive thinking, relaxation, counselling etc and it works for a moment only. trust me, for many years when i woke up in the morning suddently all the problems in this world come to my head and i could not not stop or avoid it. if it happened at 4.00 am then i could not sleep and my whole day will ruin. my head is like a nest to every possible problem. if this could help somebody then i suggest that people who are feeling very low or depress to take honey (2-3 spoons) plus a glass of plain warm water every morning and evening. this one maybe the reason for my recovery. after taking this honey plus water then i felt that my body and mind become stronger. when i am stronger i can do many positive things and i can handle many problems with ease. however, i can't say my recovery is because of my effort. God pulled me out from the worse condition. what had happened was one night i pray and when i went to sleep suddently i can make myself calm. it has been three years since that day and now i would do as much as i can to help people who are in deep trouble and feel very low. nice discussion by the way.

There are some people out there that do not want to do anything to help themselves,even when offered help from other people.I feel that people that constantly moan about other people should look at ways to find something todo to improve their lives,as that way they would have less time to moan.

It's good for you to found you way around it, Salam. Yes, People who are moaning every time need help and supporting friends.

So, you think that some ppl do not have huge burdens in their lives? That they have any reason to feel defeated? That they should just put on a smile and everything will be better?

That thinking is a little too black and white for me. I do understand that some ppl are just caught up in the habit of complaining. What I am saying is that sometimes there is a lot of hurt in someone's life and the complaining is a reflection of their pain. Compassion is as important as positivity is.

I think that there are alot of people out there that moan about other peoples life rather than taking a closer look at their own.I am happy with my life no matter how things are.I feel that all that we have we have paid for aswell as worked for,rather that scronged off the state.

I think the reason why some people moan is because they do not like to see other people happy.Alot of people that moan,should look at their lives rather than other peoples lives and see how they can make their lives better.The reason some people moan is due to people having things that the moaners do have,ie things that they have worked for or saved for.

We would have gone on holiday this year,but there were too many appointments aswell as other things that we had todo that were just as important.I am saving abit of money,but i can not remember what i was saving it for,how sad is that,must be old age.

so true jugs,i'm desperate for a holiday,it was meant to be this year,but it didn't happen,so it'll now be next year,i'm not moaning,we can't afford it so we don't go,s**t happens

You are right there,as that is what i think.

then i guess they must be sick of their lives that they want to destroy it but ended up dragging others,, ^^

I think that they seem to look at others lives knowing that they are making the most of life,aswell as all the things that other people have,wishing that they could have the same.I think that people can have the same as others if they were to change the way they are,rather than moaning about things they should get off their back sides and work for what they want to get in life.

They seem to look for the trappings of success Without wanting to work for that success. and , sadly they are not looking within for happiness, They are looking for happiness outside. now That I'm truly happy I understand happiness is something you can't buy in a store, It comes from within. I pity these people , they may never be truly happy. That's sad.

I think some people do let these groaning types bring them down. It is their choice though.

I think that there are always people out there that are never happy unless they are moaning about things,aswell as people,to other people and it is the other people that they also drag down with them.I think that life is far too short to be moaning all the time and moaning do not sort things out at all.

I am seeing life in alot different ways compared to a few years ago.I think that there are alot of people that moan and do other things thinking that it will make everything better,but it do not.Why waste time moaning when there are somethings that you can do to put yourself in a better mood,life is soo short.

Although indahfth maybe what you are seeing as complaing may not be complaining at all but just talking out and trying to sort out your problems?

I think that there are people like you say that try to get other people to moan and drag them down with what they are on about.I feel like we only live once,so we should try to make the most of it.Rather than people moaning they should change the way they live.

Yeah, you are right, life is too short to moan about things. If people have an issue with anything, then they should get off their butts and do something about it instead of bringing everyone else down!

I think that life is what we all make it,not our past.I think that it is a waste of a persons time if all they do is moan,rather than trying to get on with their life and make the most of it.

But it may be related to psychological thing that was grained in them since childhood. It will be so hard to break it unless they found a really supporting people around themselves.

let me rephrase the last part to "you are"... well anyway, not all of us are content but at least you're positive way can actually enhance the outlook you have on your life. I wish I can think like that as well but another set of problems crop up once I get through a tough one.

I made another error "you're positive" is supposed to be "your positive" okay enough. ^__^ But I understand how you feel...some people are just born to complain too much.

I think that these people are the people who should sort their lives out rather thgan trying to interfer with other peoples lives.Some people are always moaning about all the things that other people do aswell as the things that other people have rather than doing things so that they have the same chances as others.I think these people are just too lazy to find other things todo.

The way i see it,is that we only live once on this earth,so we should try to make the most of it.

I always think of all the people that are alot worse off health wise than myself aswell as that there are people with no homes and not alot else.I enjoy every day as much as i can no matter what.I think that life is far too short to moan about things,as moaning do not get anyone any where in this life.

I think that if bad things have happened to people then they should try to pick themselves up by doing things rather than sitting moaning to others about other people,as we all know that this do not help anyone concerned.I also have been divorced aswell as remarried and i had and have children and i think that as they get older they do tend to understand,its just the waiting until they do understand how things were and how they are now.It takes time.

Thanks for your response.

I feel like telling people that they should look at their life rather than moaning find away of improving their life,as that way they will find it alot better aswell as they will have the same things.Some people moan as they can not be bothered to work for what they want rather than sitting getting benifits from the state.I think that some people moan just to do a bit of upsetting to other people.

I think that there are alot of people out there that do not do anything about the way they live,their situation could be as good as anyones if they were to do the same as other people,like earn money and find a job.I can not go out to work and i can not get out of the house,but just like you i make the most of every day that i am here spending time with all of my family and friends.I think that life is far too short.

I have found that aswell.I find that there are alot of people that moan about others and never look at the ways that they could improve their lives.I find that some people should find things todo rather than going to other people to moan.