How to have THAT relationship with my sister

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My sister and I have always been very close. We are 16 months apart in age, growing up we shared the same friends, and unfortunately the same kind of drama regarding our mom and her lifestyle, and everything that was involved in that. I was the oldest, and for so long my sister would never talk, (when we were kids) So I did all of the talking for her. She depended on me a great deal. We grew up, I moved out, she moved out, I had two kids, she had one. We both got married, we talked EVERy DAY ~ via text, but I started to notice things for about the last three years now and some things have been confirmed for me and I want advice on how I am supposed to go about having a relationship with my sister now. When we used to talk every day and I cant keep giving her all of myself like I used to cos things cant be like they used to cos of the things that she has done. I suspected her and her husband of using Meth, for some time. I was 99 percent sure that she was and on Christmas of last year, I found a bag of meth on my kids bathroom floor supposively her husband had forgot it was in his pants and dropped it on my kids floor. His relative had given it to him so he could sell it and get some money from it, cos neither one of them had jobs. Go figure... . Mind you i threw up after this happened it sickened me. WHAT if my kids had found this, WHAT if my husband had weakened to the temptation and done it?? WHAT if WHAT IF ???? That night after they got home from my house, she called me said her husband and her had gotten in a fight and she was coming back to my house, she had left this message on my vmail. But i knew that she was making an excuse to come back and look for the dope. when she got there, my husband confronted her about it and she played dumb, but by her body language I knew she was lying, I know my sister. Just like i knew from the beginning that she as doing it. 9 months later, she is still denying it. I have actually found out about many more things that she has lied about. She lies about things that I have seen with my own eyes and KNOW for a fact she is lying about...... I know she is my sister and I do love her unconditionally, ... I mean i guess. A series of events have happened and i have to tell her no because I can t be her saving grace when she is lying to me and not walking a straight path, i have a family to protect. If love is an action, how can I love her if im not giving her all of myself anymore? How can you have a relationship with someone that lies to you? I want to know, when you go from texting someone and talking to them every day, to confirming a horrible truth about them, what am i supposed to do? how is the relationship supposed to be? Love is supposed to be unconditional, but I cannot have her drama pulling me down, and she doesn't deserve to get the best of me when she is lying to my face all the time. This is so hard and hurtful. Please give me your advice, I have a very open mind, and I need to be able to see things from a different perspective. leslie patton http://hubpages.com/profile/Leslie+Patton