What if I DID NOT or DO those things?
By joddie
@joddie (173)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 1:45am CST
I have plenty of regrets in life, (like I SHOULD HAVE NOT DONE or SHOULD HAVE DONE THESE), but all were fully compensated with. I do believe that things happened for a purpose and with that I no longer ponder on the "IF ONLYs". Irregardless of how we are born, be rich or poor, God provided us the resources as a means to change what we are and be what we want to be. However, I have just one minor "WHAT IF" in my life. It's "what if I did not join the married life after college, enjoy being single, do what I want to do, what would be my life today? Would it be same as my life now?"
Does that question ever come across your mind even in a fleeting moment?
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6 responses
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
yeah, i guess all normal people would think about that once or twice in life. Sometimes, we would reminisce about those things that if we had done differently, what would have been the NOW. However, it is not really advisable for us to think of the what ifs in our life especially those we couldn't change, since it would only hamper our growth towards the future.
fleeting as it may seem, for us to ponder on these things, but in the long run, it would create a void and bitterness in our life, especially if we are not happy and satisfied with our life right now. it would be better to look to the future and focus on things we can change for the better.
@bratel9997 (4)
• Australia
6 Sep 10
For sure Joddie! I think it is only human nature to ponder the "what ifs"
I myself have found myself in many a situation where i wonder what life could have been if i hadn't chosen to have kids so young or get married so early,
I often look back on my life and now I have come to realize that all these decisions i have made the roads that i have traveled and the mistakes i have made along the way, have all contributed to and made me the person i am today!
A strong independent and loving person with so much to give...I quite like who i am these days,
Maybe you should start thinking about all the positives you have in your life? no matter how small!
@blindmoongoddess (426)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I am not one to say that everything happens for a reason. However, I do believe that God finds a reason for everything that happens. God turns the bad things into good. I do have regrets, but I do not dwell on them because we cannot change the past. Like I always say to my friend, regret has served its purpose when it has taught you to avoid the mistakes that you committed in the past.
I also have my "what if" moments, but I'd rather ask what I would have missed if I didn't make the decisions that I did back then. I'd rather focus on the plus side. 
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
5 Sep 10
Of course! I think all people are on that same kind of mindset. It is just easy to think of past is past but we can't easily take action on it.
@paopaolar (226)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
Well we must admit that life is not all sweet and everything nice, there has to be some spice and nothing is really perfect in this world. We all have regrets in life and we do somewhat ask what if's. But what we should do is to accept the present state of things and look on the brighter side. We can't do anything to revise out previous actions but we can use these regrets as lessons so that in the future we'll no longer suffer the same regrets in life.
@EtherealEnigma (20)
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6 Sep 10
I think about that every once in a while, only my question is the opposite of yours. I decided not to get married after college. Every once in a while, I wonder what would have happened if I had gotten married instead. But, then I look back at that relationship and my life now for the answer. I made the decision to remain single because it suited my lifestyle and my long-term goals and I don't regret it. However, if I had met my soulmate early in life like some people do, I would have gotten married. I still may have wondered, "What if?", but I think the pros would have outweighed any potential cons.
