Saying I Love You to my friends
By jonnifc
@jonnifc (1017)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 5:02am CST
I find it awkward to say "I Love You" to my friends. It's easy to say it to my boyfriend. We end each phone call with it, it's the last thing we say to each other when we leave, and we even say it a lot of times a day through text. It's also fine to say it to my family. Although not that many times as with my boyfriend, but we do say it often. But when it comes to my friends, even the close ones, I find it awkward. I don't think that they will get the wrong impression. I'm just known to be not that showy with my feelings with them. But I really love them dearly. Why is that? If they say it first, of course, I will respond with it, too. But I won't actively say it first.
Am I a bad friend? Should I change? How about you? Do you say it often or actively? Or do you feel awkward, just like me?
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12 responses
@voldrox (7191)
• India
5 Sep 10
No, that doesn't make you a bad friend at all jonnifc. Everybody is different, and if you feel weird saying it then don't, after all you really do love your friends and they know that.
I am kinda silly, i say i love to some of my funny friends in a very odd manner
I mean not seriously, i hope you get what i am trying to say, lol. I am silly! :D.. Yeah, of course but i do love them. 'I love you'.. those are the ending words when i talk to my girlfriend over the phone too, and the same with text messages. ![](/Content/images/emotes/wub.gif)
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
5 Sep 10
I don't think that saying I love you would be reflected on your personality just like that. Remember action speaks louder than words, it is not necessary that you must express on how you love your friends but you can show it in so many ways by accepting despite of their flaws, understanding their personality, helping them whenever they need, you are a person that can rely or lean on and other many good traits that you can do to project that you really care and love them. It is not really awkward to tell them especially if you need too but of course you should know how to deliver when you are expressing it to the extent that it is not romantically type but you must be sincere.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Sep 10
Some People can and some People can't show their feelings that openly it does not mean you are a bad Friend also action speak louder then words
You do not need to change and I am sure that your Friends know you well enough to know that you do love them even though you do not say it often
Yes I do say it but that is me and I can be more open with my feelings but there you can't it does not mean you love your Friends less then I love mine it just means we have different ways of showing it
@JeyakumarDickson (277)
• India
6 Sep 10
it is awkward to say i love u to friends, but there some friend who cant be denied to say this,,those r the best friends forever
@annxiaoxiao (38)
• China
6 Sep 10
ok,I just said to my friends that" I miss you" .this just as a habit or the sentences, don't pay attention on it
@rustyhalo (103)
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6 Sep 10
discussing :s no love between the different sexes in the planet. because
the love = eternity
no eternity = no love
no eternity - no love = 0
no ( eternity - love) = 0
eternity - love = 0
so
eternity = love
at the end we find that the eternity = love and the love = eternity
if one of theme is not there so the equation is incorrect.
@donnaheff (158)
• Nigeria
5 Sep 10
i also do find it awkward saying that to friends. It does not make you a bad friend cos deep down in their hearts, they know that you love them. I cant say that to my mum even when she says it cos i am just not used to it but she knows I love her very much
@blindmoongoddess (426)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
You are not a bad friend. Perhaps you just prefer to show your love through actions, which is better than just saying "I love you." I don't think you should force yourself to change.
But you know what? It always feels good for me to say "I love you" to my friends. I just love the way the words roll off my tongue. Sometimes, I see embarrassed smiles, but eventually, they get used to it. I am the type of person who does not want to leave anything unsaid.
@jadmari (125)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I also had a hard time saying "I love you" to my friends, maybe because I was brought up as not a vocal person when it comes to feelings. But later on when I met a person who was so open about saying I love you to the family even to close friends,I somehow acquire the character of saying it too. I am now comfortable saying this to anyone that matters to me. One thing I realized is that it depends on the perception of the person. There are people who talk less on how they feel, but once they get mature or as their perception changes, saying "I love you" will be easier. Sometimes people have a hard time saying "I love you" because they think that these words are only for romantic lovers. They associate it intimacy, which is I think the reason why they are not comfortable expressing these words.
@jailo12 (332)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I't really is awkward to say I love you to a friend but isn't that cute? We are a bit shy saying i love you to a friend but saying those words is informing your friend that he or she is important to you. It might really depend on the person to say those word but the bottom line is the happiness it will give to your friend(s). So try to saying i love you to friends that you treasure most. I't will give a great happiness for them for sure. good day.
@AmazedSweetie (63)
• United States
5 Sep 10
I only say 'I Love you' to my besties! I have friend that are like siblings to me, therefor I say it because I do genuinely care. It doesn't make anyone bad if they don't. It's all about what you prefer.
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