Do you have selfish people in your life?
By alexzizi123
@alexzizi123 (307)
United States
September 5, 2010 10:46am CST
I have people in my family who are so self-serving...I can't stand it when I see people take advantage of the permissiveness and passivity of their friends and family. The anguish that I have seen caused in my family by other people who share BLOOD with them has made me stop, and wonder what could make a human being act that way, whom I know has other, more benevolent aspects to their characters? The juxtaposition is confusing, and the hypocrisy that some of these family members pride themselves on is incredible to me. It's one thing to know that humanity's condition is one of duality, but it is another thing entirely to be made to see that so clearly acted upon within your own family. I have made these mistakes myself, but the consistency and frequency with which some do it is staggering to me. Do you have people in your life who make you feel like that, or have you ever been guilty enough after making a selfish mistake to feel like you are the self-serving one yourself?
3 responses
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
5 Sep 10
Yes. I have met several people who are selfish.But how do you distinguish?. All people look alike.It is in their action that selfish people are different.Even in talk also we can observe some difference but it is difficult.Experience sows that self serving people are successful in their lives no doubt at the cost of others.At the same time we cannot avoid them.Let us be careful of such people
@alexzizi123 (307)
• United States
5 Sep 10
I agree completely. Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion, and that is how I find the flaws in others. Of course, I am no one to judge, as I have my own flaws, but I still have people who love me and trust me, which is why i would never try to avoid people with a certain character flaw when their redeeming qualities could make me happy, as well as willing to keep them in my life.
@mikeowl (200)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 10
I always do have some selfish people in my life. It's all about my college friends. There are always so selfish about themselves and never intended to be friends with me. I always helped them in doing team assignments while they did nothing at all. They aren't willing to cooperate or even help even one inch. I wonder why there are these kind of people living.
@alexzizi123 (307)
• United States
5 Sep 10
Every person with a bad quality usually has a good one to counter it, but it depends on which quality is used more-- that is what creates a person's character. They aren't perfect, but they do probably have some redeeming qualities. Sometimes, when I am upset enough I echo your last thought, but everyone deserves a chance at life, unless they impede or take away the lives of others, no matter how flawed. And your actions just show your character, and hopefully you will find people who actually appreciate you as a person rather than an entity to be used.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
5 Sep 10
Every man in this world has the bitter experience of facing selfish people in life, either in the family or in the school, college or working place. This is nothing new. If you go through history, you will find names of hundreds of such selfish people. So it is part of life and you need not worry for it.
