what do you do when ur guy who is a string christian suddenly became a womaniser
By Bibispark2
@Bibispark2 (195)
Nigeria
September 5, 2010 3:12pm CST
I have'nt stop crying neither have i rcovered from the shock that a guy who was very strong and sees vision suddenly became a wominser...i entered his room only to see in some corners when cleaning it some lip gloss,hair bow,val flower and some nasty pix...instead of apologising he told me not to come again since he no longer has privacy, what do i do?though he is very handsome and muscular but my relationship is four and half years old what do i do?i cant stop crying....i love him.
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7 responses
@NappyRooted (18)
• United States
6 Sep 10
You may have just discovered who your spouse really is at this moment, but you must realize that he must have been this way for quite some time before you actually found out.
You must find someone that agrees with your idea of what love is. Do not stay in the relationship and ask for change; you cannot negotiate change, a person must want to change for themselves.
Love him from a distance, and move on. You must protect your heart. NEVER love someone more than you love yourself darling. Let him go, be single, and learn how to love yourself. After you have learned to love yourself, then open your heart for someone else to love you.
@Bibispark2 (195)
• Nigeria
6 Sep 10
i believe wat u said but am trying real hard to do this but this guy has affected my life in different ways..he has changed a lot of things about me.i dont know
@NappyRooted (18)
• United States
8 Sep 10
You don't have to hate him, or dislike him. You dislike what he's doing. Maybe you two should have a conversation about the situation. Honestly take a look at what he wants for himself and what you want for yourself in a relationship. This doesn't make him a bad person. It could be that the two of you just aren't on the same page with what you want in your personal lives. If he wants variety right now, but you want monogamy; it's not a compatible relationship. Both of you should voice your needs and wants to each other. You both may have to agree that you care deeply for each other, but you are going in two different directions. Recognize the situation for what it is. You two are the only people in your relationship that know both sides of the story. It sounds to me that this is an unhealthy relationship. Contrary to what some say, love does not hurt. Realize what you want, and how you want to be treated; don't settle for less. That goes for the both of you. Sometimes you have to take time out for yourself, allow the pain of being apart to fade, and allow love to find you. Maybe your guy just isn't ready to be in a relationship with one woman at this time in his life.
I hope this helps...
@shacia17 (5)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
No one could tell you what to do...Advices- yes we can tell you, but the choice is all up to you.
I think that if you listen closely to your heart and mind, you know exactly what to do. You are just scared of the "changes" that will happen.
Ask yourself this question, "Am I willing to get hurt over and over?".
Make the right choice!
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
6 Sep 10
Leave him. Leave him and tell him that you won't put up with that. Tell him that he is not the man that you love that he has become someone else.
The man that you fell in love with is not the man that you know now. This man is a totally different man from the one that you met.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 10
Something may have changed him into a womanizer or he is a hypocrite and a lier since the beginning.
Either way, you should ask him where your relationship will go from there. If he is not interested anymore, then pick up your pride and leave him. This kind of guy will be exposed soon to the community. Better that you break the ties before people start to talk about him.
After done crying, go and confront him and be done with him.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
6 Sep 10
aww :( you mean you have a bf already but you love this guy? oh you should first break up with your bf bcs you dont love him anymore and second you should not be with this guy bcs like you saw he only care to sleep with women also he was rude to you. you must do what is right. talk with your bf and say you love other guy and second this guy doesnt seem to love you or he wouldnt had talk that way to you. he just cares to sleep with women thats all. anyway sorry that you are so sad :(
@slipz1487 (415)
• United States
12 Sep 10
you should know when to give up.. obviously, your relationship is no longer running smoothly.. you may love him, but does he still love you? the relationship will not work if you are the only one in love.. if you feel that breaking up with him will cost your 4 1/2 years of relationship, then you should think of the next years that you might waste hoping and waiting on a person like him.. he may be handsome or has a good body, but if he doesnt love you right, then he doesnt deserve your love as well.. if you love him, leave some love for yourself, so that you might see that his love is not the only thing in this world that can make you happy..
@emarie (5442)
• United States
6 Sep 10
First stop crying. Be strong and sit down and talk to him. Ask him if he's being faithful and where he sees your relationship. And from there you decide what the best option is. The worst case would be you have to leave him, and you should before he breaks your heart any more then he has already done.
Love comes and goes and it is possible that he was like that from the start but he just hid it from you. There is always someone better out there, someone who will love you for who you are.
So talk and decide. Good Luck!
