Marriage Expiration?
By kristeena
@kristeena (358)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 6:45pm CST
There was a proposed bill of marriage expiration for 10 years. The couple will renew their contracts after 10 years if they still find the love between them. According to one of the authors of this bill, because no matter what you say, there would still be couples who will go on separation or annulment and the procedure of these are too expensive. Since absolute divorce is not legal in the Philippines, why not renew the contract? If you can't take it anymore then, it is finished after 10 years. OMG!
As my stand on this proposed bill, I go for a big "NO" because marriage is not just a contract on a pice of paper but a covenant of life and love binding two hearts before God and man. Everyone's ideas and views about this one is highly acceptable. Please share yours.
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11 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 10
I think it's OK for a civil union, but I can see how it would be a problem for a religious union. Probably most churches would refuse to marry people unless they got a regular marriage license.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Haha...this is a ridiculous bills that some womanizer congressmen or legislator wanted to be a law.
It's a kind of money and disrespect for human relation between God.
It is against the constitution, and constitution, provide the protection of the family as the basic foundation of the state.
Under family code of the philippines. Contract between husband and wife is not stipulated. Meaning there is no law being made to diminish the relationship between husband and wife unless it is under the covered law in family code
Have a great day!
@everafter (378)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Marriage certificate is just mere contract. If you love each other then you can renew it. if not them just get separated. :) Certificated like that are just made by people/human. Marriage per se is from God and should be intact for as long as you live.
@mimining (203)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I am for it, if they change the expiration to 100 years. Just kidding. The bill must have been passed by a philanderer. Many people nowadays share a live-in relationship, afraid to go into marriage because of ultimate responsibilities, or for finding out if his partner is the "marrying type", or simply because of financial problems. It has been "accepted" by society, although I don't advocate it. Marriage is a different thing. It is planned, has received counseling, is sacred and is binding. So, why mess up the marriage contract with an expiration? That contract would be abused. I just feel it.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
6 Sep 10
First of all, let me say that in today’s age and kind of society we are living in, marriage might not be such a sacrosanct vow to many…
Secondly, why is divorce illegal in Philippines? And what is absolute divorce?
Two consenting adults might very well want to end their marriage if they feel that they have drifted irreconcilably apart…again, the same two adults may very well want to marry again (after the divorce) if they feel that the decision to separate was a mistake. I find nothing illegal on this.
Regarding this contract you are talking about…I really fail to understand its utility. 10 years is a long time and if the couple are incompatible, then no matter how long they stay together, they will never come together again..in such cases, waiting for 10 years might not be a good idea for both.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
6 Sep 10
Marriage is not just a civil contact it was from the beginning and it was because God knew that it was not right for man to be alone. When the civil authorities get in control of marriage, it makes it hard for everyone else. Now in Canada, we can get married in the church and the church has the authority as it always has (I am talking about all official churches including protestant ones) and we do not need to get married by the justice of the peace or a civil authority. Those who are married by a civil magistrate can also get their marriage blessed by the pastor or priest if one of them is a church member and the other is not. Or they do not have to.
But in some countries you are not considered married unless you are married by the civil authority and those are the countries one has to worry about.
If one in those countries does not agree to the ten year contact, will they be considered illegal and what about those who just decide to marry in the church. Will they be considered married only by the church members and not by everyone else/
Sounds like a can of worms to me.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Hmmm.. If they'd want to 'renew' their contract as husbands and wife, the what happens to the kids? Are they to return them somewhere if they decide that they would no longer want to be married to each other?
It's leave or take, you cannot have everything. Marriage like love is a decision. You should not do it if in the beginning you're already looking for a way out.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I agree with you 100%. Yes there are benefits of marriage expiration, but still, it's not right. If marriage were only JUST a civil right, then yeah, go on, put an expiration on it. But IT'S NOT like that at all. It's a vow, a promise, and as you said, a covenant with GOD. It's something sacred. Something as sacred as life. Ending marriages is like killing a being, the "being" is the bond that the married couples formed, because when you get married, you are but one flesh.
I think people married civil-ly really do have an expiration in their marriages, because if you think about it, a life sentence is about 40 years (? i'm not sure but i think it's close). So it follows that you are married for life, you are married for that long too.
But I think in the definition of marriage in the family code of the philippines, it's stated that marriage is not just a civil thing.
I hope this bill doesn't pass. May God have mercy on our souls!
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 10
Isn't it the same as a Pre-Wedding contract that are now are being practiced more and more? I have become a cynic in the man-wife relationship, so I think a contract would be better to bind a man from cheating. He has just to keep to the agreement of being faithful till the contract finished. Surely a woman will know when the marriage is no longer there, so when the 10 years end both of them will grab the chance to be out.
I guess, it is easier said than done. Because there will be children involved in here.
Well, what I know about good marriage anyway?