Are you able to balance out Work and Family?

@asxenon (1440)
Malaysia
September 5, 2010 10:41pm CST
As a man, it is our responsibility to keep our family happy and at the same time earn enough money to keep our family comfort. Are you able to balance out on both of these? Usually, if we want more money, we would have to work twice as hard... therefore spending more time on our jobs and neglecting our family on the other hand. How do we balance out Work and Family? Any suggestion would be appreciated! Thanks!
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10 responses
• Singapore
6 Sep 10
It is not only for a man to balance this work and family thing. Nowadays, woman also contribute to provide financial needs for the family. As for me, being a wife and a mother of two kids is really hard. I worked 8-5 job 5 times a week and that means spending less time with my kids. I just make it a point that I will now extend my working hours beyond that and as much as possible, spend the weekends with them to attend to their needs personally on those two days. It is such a joy to see them growing and missed those times that I am now with them. But I need to do this for their welfare as well. Me and my husband need to save for their future and to provide their day to day needs.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
I agree with you that sometimes husband and wife do need to work to support the family. However, my wife is also facing the same problem. She has to work from 9-6pm and often have to extend her working hours due to the nature of her job... For me, on the other hand, sometimes i will need to wait for her to finish her job so that i can fetch her and go home. Furthermore, the terrible traffic condition in my country worsen things up as we have to stuck in traffic jams for hours to reach home.... 24 hours a day seems not enough for me :D
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Hi guys! I think its not merely balancing the number of hours you have to spend for family or work. I believe giving quality time for your family no matter how short it may be will do the balancing equation here... what's 8 hours spent at home but only watching tv or doing internet and not engaging with other members?:)
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7 Sep 10
I must admit that it is difficult to balance between work and family. first,everyone has to work hard to get enough money to keep his or her family running normally.This will cost you too much time a day,which make you have less time to join family life. It is really a dilemma we face. Now I am working in a city far from my home and only have two or three times to went back home, which made it difficult to balance between work and family.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 10
Sometimes, certain reasons make it unavoidable to leave home. What matters most is to fully utilize the time spent with family. Maybe you can just plan for certain events to do together with your family when you are at home. Maybe by just going to cinema together, go out for picnic etc would be enough. The important thing is to spent quality time instead of doing nothing when you have the opportunity. Have a nice day!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
6 Sep 10
Balancing time for friends and family with also work can be difficult. I remember a few years ago when I was working for a group of hotels, I was having a hard time spending time with friends and family because of the fact that I worked so much. My husband told me to quit the job as he could see it was affecting my health. I did quit the job and it feed up my time to spend with him. Of course money was a bit of an issue but we worked through that. In any case, I am trying to find the best way to balance my time to just earn online but I find I get sleepy at night when I could be earning online. I am also trying to find a job and when I do I am going to also try to still mylot so as to save for my husband and I and our future. I would like to be able to save enough so that we could live comfortably if the economy strikes and one or both of us were to lose our jobs. I knock on wood that that does not happen though.
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@LIENROSE (910)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
time management matters here... but it is good to know that your family always support you and understand you even though you have a less time for them... thanks
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
I totally agree on that, but sometimes, family members will still felt neglected and sometimes you yourself will feel guilty not spending enough time with your family.
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Work and family are inseparable. We value tremendously the principle that NO success can compensate for failure in the home. If you are to succeed at work, you must bring your family up with you. After all, your family is the reason you are working so hard. Your success is of no consequence if the family is divided. On the other hand, you cannot have a happy family if you do not have the provisions for a happy decent living. Let us remember that work is just a means towards an end. True fulfillment is when your achievements are shared with and by those whom you love and who love you.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 10
Nicely said. Therefore, we cannot avoid ourself from balancing work and family at all. Anyway, proper time management and to increase our work efficiency is the only way out. Good day!
@romania2 (237)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I'm not married or anything, so I wouldn't know how to answer this question from that point of view. But from the point of view of a working person who still has time with her parents and siblings AND boyfriend... I'm doing pretty well. It's all about time management and constant communication. The internet and cellphones are great tools. Little surprises here and there don't hurt too.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
I do think you have good time management... however, when you are married and have children and other responsibilities, then you will find time getting lesser. Anyway, with proper planning, you may still balance out your work and family. All the best to you!
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
As far as i know, balancing work and family is hard but i don't have any children yet so i'm not that sure about it. If i learned a thing or two about time management, that is prioritize what's the most important. You can ask yourself, "why am i working?" I'm pretty sure the answer is "to support my family". Then ask yourself "why should i spend time with my family?" I'm sure the answer is "to have a quality time with them and to have a stronger bond with them". With those questions, you can immediately weigh the consequences of the decision you'll be making. If you pour more time on work, your bond with your family will grow thinner eventually. If you spend time with your family more, you can get fired eventually. Both situation has its own grave consequences and it's up to you to make your move. You don't have to choose one though so that's a relief. Balancing time can be hard but it'll be easier if you know how deep your actions go.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Thanks for the comment. I do believe one needs to balance out work and family. For me, family goes first in the list followed by work. I would leave my work aside without thinking twice if my family really is in some kind of emergency situation.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
My husband and I are working 8 hours a day or more when needed and required in the office. But I see to it that I personally prepare for my family food, clothes, etc. My phasing is this the moment I step out of the office I am a plain housewife and a mother. As simple as all concerns about the work if will not incur harm or damage to the company will be taken care of the next working day. With that I can spend quality time with my family.
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• Philippines
6 Sep 10
My husband and I are working 8 hours a day and sometimes more than if needed. As a working mom I make it to the point that I personally prepare all the needs of my family from food, clothes,etc. My phasing is this the moment I step out of the office I am a plain housewife and a mother. Simply means any calls or concerns regarding my work will be taken care off the following day and not after office hours.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Its great that you can balance work and family. Anyway, where do you leave your kids while both of you are working?
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 10
If you have a good nanny, then that is great. Anyway, it is difficult to find good nannies nowadays.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I have a nanny for my son. She takes care of everything when we leave. A little expensive but worth it.
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@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Sep 10
As far as I know, it is a difficult thing to do well in our society. Everyone want to balance out work and family, because both of them are very important to everybody. But few of people done well in their life. Some people put work as a first place, while some other people put family as a first. Work hard just want to get more money to support the family, while taking care of family just want to show their's love.I think both those people aren't wrong,but we also need to balance out work and family.Because only in this way can we have a stabilize family and a good mood to work.
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