Would You Go To The Party?

Stick around the food table Nadia. It'll keep your mind of things.

ummm..... i think what i'd do is, make a good excuse not to stay in the party for too long.... i know yeah it's rude, but find a good alibi and that should do it. i know you care about your friend, but you should also care about how you feel.... just my opinion though...

I would invite your friend and her kids over to your place for a party to celebrate their birthdays. And tell her how you feel about those people. Tell her you don't want to miss these things with her, but that you cannot deal with these people anymore.

I think io would still go to the party. it would just be common courtesy to show in a friendship. It may not be the most enjoyable experience, but your friend will appreciate your efforts.

Actually, I don't really like parties. If that party invitation come from my close friend or family, I will attend that party. If that condition appear, I will ignore her/his and just play or talk with my friend or family that I like :) That's a party that supposed to be happy time and I don't want to ruin that party :)

If the blood is thicker than the water then I think I would still go on that party for the sake of my friends. I could easily ignore the family since that is only once a year. But if the instances will be like your other friends are being rude then that is the time I would stay away from them.

you are asking for some reasons why you should not attend and what to tell your friend. well, one is to be honest to your friend but that would take a lot of effort to do. and risking your friendship. well, don't go and then, maybe just call him when it's late and tell him that you couldn't make it.

i think it would be better if you just keep it to yourself in order for you and your friend to have misunderstanding...maybe she just want to see you that is why she wants you to go...you can go if you want for you friend's sake....and if you dont really want to go just try to make a nice excuse...

I wouldn't continue to go there. What is a party meant to be? you are suppose to have fun, enjoy the evening, and have a memorable day. But it seems like it is the opposite. I would be honest with your friend. It's true enough that those people are close to your friend but you have nothing against your friend but the people related to him/her.If your friend is a true one, he/she would understand you and wouldn't be angry for something like this. Instead of telling how much you don't like their attitude, how about saying that you're just not comfortable and get hurt? You want to have a good time but you aren't. If your friend asks you why, then maybe you should tell. If you still don't plan to tell her and keep on going, how many more years do you plan on still going? i would be honest to myself and not come up with lies to my friend to avoid the party because you will have the same problem the following year and you just an't lie forever. I hoe you get out of this situation. Goodluck.

It's either you get out of it and stay in your comfort zone or attend anyway and just have fun. You see, people are really like that when with relatives. They're like this big pack of wolves preying on a helpless sheep. Situations like that can either make you strong and wiser or make you weak. You can learn from it. Find out what makes them dissect you and find out how to turn it around. I'm not saying you talk back to them, i'm just saying there are ways on how to befriend anybody. It's like mixed martial arts where you get strangled in a unique hold you're not aware of. My instructor always said "there's always a turnaround on every hold you're under". I'm pretty sure it's applicable to many parts of our lives including the situation you'll encounter later on.

nope i dont like parties they are--- even i dont have word to abut them

If I were you, I would find their weakness and strike at it. They will start to respect you and maybe fear you, too. My big Klan from my mother side are rich people. My big Klan from my father side are intellectuals. My mother went against her mother's wishes to marry a rich man and married my father instead, so my family is not rich as the rest of the Klan. We have a monthly gathering involving all kids - it was supposed to make bonds between the kids. At first, they only talked of what projects were they doing at the time and how much were gained from each project. Always money and in a big sum which my mother and her children do not have. But I know their weakness, they cannot speak English! I strike at their weakness. I was so malicious at the time. I called a Australian friend in the middle of their conversation. I talked and talked on the phone (of course using English) until I saw them ceased their boasting. Then I asked their kids if anyone does English well at school. Now they look at my mother with more respect than before and they kind of fear me. So, do not bother with their attitude. Be yourself and show them that you are above them.

No, I wouldn't. I'm not much of a party-goer, so when I go to one, it's one that I'd really like, and where the people are likeable. I'd rather stay alone than be with people I'm really uncomfortable with, and though I am a very diplomatic person, I can take only as much.

There is nothing wrong if you will just pretend even just for a while for the sake of your friend in a first place their not the one who invited it's your friend and it is her sons birthday party not them. I know you friend know her families attitude that is why she wanted you to be there so that at least there could be one person she can rely on aside from her relatives, believe your friend could sense our uneasiness with her relatives.

Hi NadiaAllStar, I won't attend any birthday party if my presence is not welcoming by the family members of the host. I would feel uneasy to know that there are someones monitoring me somewhere around I like to get along with all the people in the occasion harmoniously. I could enjoy the real fun and joy only if there isn't any undesirable persons among the us. And as what you mentioned blood is thicker than water therefore I don't want to put my friend in a dilemma situation. I would send her kid my birthday present as well as my best wishes. Happy posting

Yes i like to going in party.. and when i get any invitation of any party then i must go in that party.. because we enjoyed very much in party.. and also you can met many interesting people there..

I hate going to parties. I feel uncomfortable especially you are in another house and the host isn't your friend. If they are like that to you, then maybe you made the wrong friends! But if I am invited, it depends if I'll accept the invitation. I'll only go to the party for two simple reasons. If they're truly my friends and if the food is great then I don't care about the people there.hehe

Yes I would go to the party, afterall you are not friends with her family right? Your friend must value your friendship that's why she invited you, however I would try not to be too vocal with my criticism about my friend's family, because as you rightly said "blood is thicker than water". Just continue to be the best friend you can be, show up for the parties, and leave early if you feel like it.

1st of all you come there because of your friend not of her other guests. just pay attention to your children making new friends and mingle with those other friends you like. have you tried talking to these people you don't seem to like so much? are you not making pre-judgements? if you'd find out, try to make some conversations. if your feelings were right then you could always leave their company and stay with people you get along with. you're not the host of the party so you really don't have to mingle or entertain everyone. just enjoy yourself and don't try to please everyone you see. we are all entitled to our opinion of people so let them have their opinion of you.