Would consider getting back with your ex if he\she befriends you.?

I was on the same boat as you twenty years ago. It can really drive you nuts especially if he is your first boyfriend, your first kiss or your first on everything. But you know what? Sometimes it's better to end a relationship that you know will not progress. Leave something for yourself; learn to love yourself first and everything will fall into its right place. It's better to let go of someone while you still love him with your dignity intact. You said that he has no feelings for you already, so why stay with someone who doesn't respect you in the first place? Obviously he doesn't respect you based on what he's doing to you. Always remember this, in order for others to respect us we should also learn how to respect ourselves. You deserve to be with somebody much better than him. Someone who will love you the way you wanted to be love and who really deserves what you have to offer. Yes, it's really hard to let go of your first love, but believe it or not you'll get over him. Love is a two way street and unrequited love? Even if it's love, will always make you end up as the loser. So be kind to yourself. Try cutting your communications with him. Avoid talking to him or about him and make it possible. Don't make excuses to befriend him when you know you haven't move on yet because it'll just make you go back to him again. Keep yourself busy to take your mind off him. Spend time with your family and friends or those people who truly love and care for you. Explore, travel and meet other people. Then let time take its course. In other words, there's more to life than being with someone who will not help you grow as a person.

Hi Joygracia, I am sorry that you are going thru this. It is so hard and especially when it is your first love. Unless you want to feel hurt over and over and over again, you will get tough and break it off with this guy once and for all. Yes, it will hurt but at least you will in time get over him. This guy is using you until he finds someone else and you know it. You deserve to be with someone you loves and respects you and that can be faithful. You will never find that person as long as you are still with this guy. As hard as it is, I hope you find the strength to break free of this guy. You deserve so much better.

I had an ex come back to me after we broke up and nice as it was to see changes in him I had to recall the reasons we broke up in the first place! It sounds to me as though your ex wants his cake and he wants to eat it too! If this person is not going to give you what you want and need then move on...Cut off all communication and don’t allow him to do this to you anymore. He has to know that if he is not deeply in love with you and willing to treat you like the gem that you are, he should leave you alone. Remember that you may love this man but he is not worthy of your love and you should save it for someone who deserves it and makes you happy.

I personally could not do this see I view an ex as an ex, someone from my past. I also cannot see be befriending them also as if we could be great friends then why did the relationship not survive. God bless all who can, I do have friends that do this and it works out fine, then I also have friends that tried and it was a disaster. Think about the advantages and disadvantages and Good luck to you.

joy please dont answer that guy anymore :( you know if he really did love you he would stop looking for other girls. even more bcs you already gave him more than a second chance to show it. if he wanted to show his attitude he would had already changed it :( please just forget that guy even if is so hurtful. i also loved a guy too much we were best friends and he act bad to me and i loved him so much i even thought i could never love other guy and we never were lovers but we were good friends and he changed his attitude completely he even knew i loved him so he should had have more careful to dont hurt me. anyway i decided that he was already not caring anymore so i just let it. bcs we been then awhile without talk, i sent him a message he didnt answer. i sent other one he answered. and then i sent him a message saying i would forget all he did to me and he just ignored it :( so i wont even try again to be his friend. and you, for sure you can find a bf that value you and love you and dont find other girls^^ that guy is not respecting you at all :( even if it hurts you much forget him. you deserve better. i thought i wouldnt recover but i did bcs really i saw he didnt worth my love. and this guy also doesnt deserve yours. if you need talk im here ok? :) i understand your situation.

its a complicated one. I think you must move on girl. You're just exposing yourself to vulnerability. But i think its your choice to suffer because you love that guy much. .and there's nothing wrong with it. .its normal to be in love but its not normal to make yourself a trap. .someimes we need to use our brain over our heart.

Oh my. That's a hard position to be at in your shoes. I have been in that situation were after breaking up with that person, you try to be friends with them because you still want to be with the person regardless of if his yours or not. But in you case, you do want him to be yours. You know what? You're the only one who keeps on breaking yourself even more. The more you try to give in to whatever he wants, you're making his head bigger. Even if you love him so much that you'd do everything for him even though it hurts already, don't you think you deserve a little more better than being his spare tire? If I were in your shoes, as hard as it is.. I won't just let go of him but rather I'll set myself free from the hurt that he is causing me over and over again by finally calling it quits. Break-ups usually don't have happy endings in the case of friendships. I mean, you can't just expect to be friends with that person again after the break-up. That takes time. If you'll tolerate him hurting you, I don't mean to insult you but its either you are blind, stupid or BOTH! and you don't deserve that at all. He is not showing you respect anymore which I think is essential in a relationship , and in a friendship even. Please do find someone who's worth your love. Because if I were you, I'd walk away from people who doesn't even respect me as a person at all. P.S: If you haven't moved on from a break-up, the best thing to do is not to communicate with your ex because it'll only make your mind and heart confused over and over again. But I you have moved on and cool with the thought of being friends with your ex, then there's no problem communicating with them.

Well it depends, when both of your thoughts are different and feel if you both need no love for eachother, then your choice is right. A bond of love need trust of each other and respecting each other choices. If not, then a small gap and freedom can help grow without hurting each others feelings.

Ive been in a situation like you have, then. And i understand how you feel because you really love the guy. You feel like, you want to get even with him or think that he might come back to you if both of you stay friends. But one thing I'll tell you, wake up! that guy is just using you. You deserve to be respect and love. You don't deserve him. If he is really coming back and love you, he wont never do that to you. Pick up yourself and move on. Just like i did. Lucky me that i didn't allow to prolong that kind situation. Love yourself!

I don't know but i think it will feel very awkward looking at your gf/bf you've broken up...