Life can be so unfair...

a wise sentence that says: smile to life it smiles to you :)

Dear i can understand your feeling, because same happen with me, my father also left us before two months ago due to illness. i realy have sympathy for you. Dear you have to accept this fact,i know it's very tough for all. now tell me what to do, its called life.

Life is like a fairy tale... If you have read fairy tale stories, before the prince and the princess can live happily ever after, they have to overcome obstacles and hardship to reach a happy ending. The prince must fight a dragon, or conquer a beast.. There are always villains along the way, it could be a witch or perhaps a bad stepmother. But eventually the prince and the princess will face that obstacle and conquer them. From there, they will be able to live happily ever after.. That is life, you have to face obstacles, overcome problems. By doing so, you will surely have a happy ending and when people read your story, then they can say that it was such a wonderful fairy tale.

i can relate with your pain. it took me 5yrs. or more to get over my dad's loss. when i lost my dad 11 yrs ago, my life literally changed. It has never been the same since then. I thought i will never be able to recover from depression and anxiety but with God's help i did. always pray everyday for strength and guidance. never give up. In time you'll be able to get over with pain but for now, you just have to respect your feelings and just let things be. talk to your dad.. let him know how you feel.. he's just around watching over you.

My father also passed away a few months ago, and I have already lost my mother. It is never easy, and there are still times when I just want to cry because something reminds me of one of them. The first few months are the hardest, and probably harder than the first few days after his passing, when you are usually surrounded by family and friends and other sympathetic well-wishers. Then life goes back to normal for everyone except you. But your father would not want you to be so depressed that it is affecting your life. What I try to do to is do things that I used to with my parents, but share them with someone else who is special in my life. Or I do things that they wanted to do but never got the chance, because I believe they are still with me. And try to get back to your regular routine, before your father got sick, and just force yourself to do it--the same things every day. Routine can be very comforting (that's why they recommend it for small children), and will force you to move forward with your life. And it's ok to be sad on special occasions like his birthday, when he should be there but isn't. That's a normal reaction, and is part of healing. Let yourself cry, but also, try to celebrate his birthday the way he would want you to--maybe tell stories about him, or go to a place in his honor--something positive. Celebrate what he means to you, and it might help to ease the empty feeling. But, really, the only sure antidote is time. Time will never heal the wounds you have completely, but it does lessen the pain. And eventually you will begin to enjoy life again, not just exist in it, and your thoughts of your father will bring you more joy than sadness. It is never easy to lose a loved one, but you will feel better in time.

well life is always unfair sometimes your up and sometimes your down but in the past few days i am always on the down part of life but no matter what happens dont give up on life because life is a wonderful gift that we must be thankful

I can understand our feelings as i also lost 3 of my beloved relatives in last 10 days. But what can we do in front of will of GOD except patient. This is a part of life a person who came in this world should have to return to his GOD.

Sweetheart, it's going to take time to get past this kind of pain. It doesn't happen over night. Gradually you will start to remember all the good things about your dad and it will make you smile. It will get easier. You just have to give it the time it needs. Your Dad will always be with you. You'll carry him in your heart and keep him close.

I know how you feel I lost my dad as well. Time will help. Remember, you are part of your dad. Though he is not around, he will never really be gone. Keep busy. Find a way to help someone else. The results will make you better.

I can't help but notice your statement "..because i think of him everyday." I take you think of the day he went away and not really him. If you really wanna think of him, then think of how he lived, not how he passed on. I'm sure this'll be of some help.

I have not gone through anything like this, so I wouldn't pretend to know how difficult is it for you. But I have interaction with another myLotter here who went through something similar. So, this much I know, the pain will never go away. It will always be there, specially on occasions where the memory makes it more painful. But like they say, time will help heal it. And it will get better. The pain won't go away, but you'll learn to deal with it better. I hope you still have a happy birthday!

Go pick your father picture and wish him a Happy Birthday. Then tell him that you love him and miss him very much at the moment. Tell him everything that you are feeling and what happened in your life after he's gone. It's okay to tell him those and have a good cry. After you calm down, tell him that you will be a strong girl and make him proud, even if he is no longer there with you.

Hello there my friend.., My condolences to your family.., I know what you are going through as of the moment and I can understand how it must have affected with the way you perceived life.., What you are feeling is a normal response to extreme loss.., I hope you''l be able to deal and live with it someday.., God has his reasons.., and sometimes it's hard for us to fathom.., He has better plans to each one of us.., You will have to go on with your life and I know that's what your father wants you to do..Take care..

the title says it all

I can't help but notice your statement "..because i think of him everyday." I take you think of the day he went away and not really him. If you really wanna think of him, then think of how he lived, not how he passed on. I'm sure this'll be of some help.

I can't help but notice your statement "..because i think of him everyday." I take you think of the day he went away and not really him. If you really wanna think of him, then think of how he lived, not how he passed on. I'm sure this'll be of some help.