When Should a Friend intervene your Personal Life?

@Sphinx30 (286)
Philippines
September 6, 2010 9:10pm CST
I have this Friend, We've been friends since highschool until now. I treated him like a brother to me and most of the time allow him to intervene with my personal life. But I have this doubt if it is right that I should allow him to intervene my personal life? or When should be my friend intervene my personal life?
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hanizah
@hanizah (255)
•
7 Sep 10
I thinks it is right to let your friend intervene in your personal life as long as his advices are good.But you can let him stop if he is not giving you the right advice and he is getting to personal.
BlueAngelRS
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I think it's all about what you feel comfortable talking with your friend about too..
Sphinx30
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Certainly, for some any matters I feel so comfortable but for personal? I don't think so...
sid556
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
8 Sep 10
Ok so I don't think you should confide in him things between you and your wife. Your relationship with your wife is special and between the two of you. If I were your wife, I would not want you talking to your friend about our personal matters.
BlueAngelRS
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I think when you can talk to friends about what is going in it's great but i would stop if they started telling me what to do and not advising me....And only you can really decide what you feel is comfortable to reveal to your friend or not....
Sphinx30
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
yeah, same with me here, I don't feel comfortable someone dictating me about what to do, its a big turn off to me... Maybe if he assures me reasonable advise, I could let him intervene.
Sphinx30
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I agree with your thoughts...
sid556
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
8 Sep 10
Hi Sphinx, You have to set boundaries for yourself and only you can do that. If your friend is getting involved to the point that it is uncomfortable for you or irritating then you have to let him know that it isn't his place.
eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
By definition, friend means someone you are close with, someone you are comfortable and chummy with, someone you can relate you emotions, dreams, secrets with. If you think that someone is intervening with your personal life, then that someone couldn't possibly be a friend. For a friend is someone who can go with you through thick and thin. You can give your four cents worth to his personal dilemma and vice-versa.
Sphinx30
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Yes, By definition about a friend is true...I've agree about your thoughts. But for some certain personal matters I must say it depends on how personal it is...
len1415
@len1415 (195)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Others say that a true friend would even know you better than you know your self. It could be true. So when your friend somehow feels you're kinda lost, confused, frustrated and bothered, he/she tries to make a way for you to find the right track again. And if he/she really is a friend whose always gonna be there for you no matter what and if he/she is concerned about you, trust him/her, cause he/she might be an angel who could lead you to making the right decisions for your self.