Have you ever felt?
By Aaleexix
@Aaleexix (2290)
India
September 6, 2010 10:46pm CST
It is a specific question. Have you ever felt guilty..... For something wrong done by you in hurry.
After your award of Best Response Have you ever felt that you have done something wrong? The real best responses comes later after your selection.
I have felt that in many discussion the best is not selected as best. In many discussion BR are awarded to some discussion but the solution of the discussion are in other responses other than the selected.
In some discussion some specific problem are raised and BR are awarded to those response where specific solution are given.
Thought BR is solo right of the author of the discussion, but is it not our duty to select the real best one. If we are not aware to the standard in selection of our BR, would it not injustice ?
Your opinion is solicited.
1 person likes this
6 responses
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
hello there alexix!
i have felt that way before. i think i have been rushing on giving best responses award.
that's why sometimes i take a lot time to think about before giving out the award.
well,there are times i can be satisfied well enough for me to give the BR award,but then there are still good responses attending.i really do feel guilty because of that.
well,there are also started ones which i find it hard to give out BR.
i don't know,that's why i happen to prolong the discussion before i give out the award.![](/Content/images/emotes/rasp.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/rasp.gif)
1 person likes this
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
Yes it is common to almost all that some important and excellent responses come after BR is awarded. The only solution for that problem is to keep patient in awarding BR and don't to be hurry in this matter.
In many discussion so many valuable responses come that it is very hard to select one best from those. We have to read all the responses thoroughly again and again to select the best one. Because it is very hard to be a judge. It is a hard task that mylot offers us.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
yeah,we really have to be patient and take time to read those responses before giving out award on which is the best for us. there are times i do get excited that even if i haven't read all those responses i already give out an award when i happen to read the different from others had said.well,that's the hard part of starting a discussions. that's why sometimes i don't like starting new ones cause i may not always be there to comment back and give out an award for those responses i got,and that's what i feel guilty about.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
8 Sep 10
I usually wait about a week before giving out a best response and I can relate to feeling guilty because there are so many great responses and choosing one can be difficult and yes, I hate receiving a really good one just after I awarded a BR! I like to think I choose as carefully as I can…It is a personal choice as to what resonates with the discussion starter and no one else can be the judge, I think…
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
In the midst of so many great response it is really very hard to select the best. It is a very critical task. And I personally feel that many time I fail to give the proper judgment to the responses.
It is individual right of the author and no one can question on the selection of BR of anyone. But we feel sorry when we have done any wrong in our selection. Moreover that when the excellent responses come after BR is awarded it annoy more.
Thought no other has the right to judge our selection of BR, But it is our own responsibility to be careful in this matter.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Sep 10
hi Aaleexix the thought of best response will be different for most of
us so please do not interfere with someones given br as its only up to the owner of the discussion to choose what he or she thinks is the best discussion. I am trying to say thar what I may see as the best response may not be what you think is the best one. so for goodness sakes do not berate the giver of a best response. look we all here at mylot are just doing the best we can and not make a super big deal out of it.its just a one time thing,I rarely see any brs that I feel are not worthy of brs. I just move on as that's strictly the business of the owner of the dicussion. I think most of us here really do try to seek the best to give a br to.After all there are few of us who are English profs and are holding things up to college standards.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
I am not trying to interfere the right of any author for selecting BR. It is the facilities offered to the author of the discussion. So I am agree with any selection. I just here want to raise the haphazard in due course. I just discuss about the complexity of selection. In many time we find some haphazard situation in selection.
1. Some extra ordinary responses come after BR is awarded. In that situation we we have some guilty feelings to our own selection.
2. Some time some discussions are crowded over with best of the best response. In such situation we have faced perplexity in selection.
3 Some time we select some interesting but far different response to the discussion. Some time we are effect with the affection. Very hard to be neutral in the time of selection.
Selection of any field is one kind of judgment. And it is not a easy task.
I am not criticized any one but want to say that how must we can select the best it expresses our quality. But many times we fail to select the best properly. It not any other persons fault but it is our fault that we are not justify the matter properly . And improper selection means injustice and any injustice by us make ourselves unhappy. I just ask here to my honorable co-myloter.... Have you ever feel bad after selecting any BR?
It is right that we all are common people. And common people has some limitation. But we can try hard to make our best with hard effort and labor.
All the best you all.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
Yes one very important point you have raised here in your response. wrongly done thing can't be changed So before doing anything it is best for us so that we can minimize our wrong. Done is done can't be undone. I think it is best for us in every part of life. So that we can maintain the life and live the life as best as possible.
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
I think as human we will make some wrong things but the best we have to do is to say it.
Yes committing errors is the nature of human. None is there who never commits any wrong in life. It is best to confess any thing wrong done by us and need to take any wrong as a lesson of life. There is no contradiction in doing wrong it is contradictory if we can't learn anything from our wrong. So wrongs are the lessons of life. It is every individual how we deal with it. You are welcome...
@Aaleexix (2290)
• India
8 Sep 10
Thanks for your response. But only new is not any measure of selection of BR. But it is really one of the best response I have received in this discussion. So I can assure you that in the time of selection BR I will must bring your response in the panel list. So you can keep hope.
![](/Content/images/loading.gif)