How much of religion do you allow to control your relationships?
By pandapig8
@pandapig8 (362)
Philippines
September 7, 2010 10:05am CST
My church teaches that one day you will meet the person gives you as His best for you and that you don't have to look for it. I believe that what they're saying is true. My question now is this... How much of religion do you allow control for your relationships? How do you think is it affecting the other person you're in a relationship with as well if ever you do have someone special in your life?
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7 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Sep 10
Hi Pandapig,
I don't subscribe to any organized religion. I do have my own beliefs and I do not let them in any way affect my relationships or friendships. They are my own personal beliefs and I believe that each of us has the right to believe or not believe what we will. I don't impose my beliefs on others. I think we find our own true belief system through our personal life experiences. Religion definitly doesn't control anything in my life.
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@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
what I like about your response is that you see humans with the power of choice. I believe that we all have choices to make and that ultimately, in the end, it is our choice to believe or not. I choose to believe :p
@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Cheers to you! I believe the same. I think a strong foundation for family is the Lord of our lives in the center of it all. :p
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I am a christian but I do not let religion control my relationships, I believe alot of what you are saying as I've heard this even outside of religion that you will find your love or significant other when you aren't looking for it.....I do have someone special in my life...My ex husband and I are working things out...
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@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I'm glad that you have found the one person that you'll love for the rest of your life. If you love each other that much then I believe that you do deserve each other :D
@shira0524 (482)
• United States
7 Sep 10
I am not a religious person at all. I'm spiritual, but that's it. So I welcome my friends and family to have whatever beliefs they want to have as long as they don't expect me to subscribe to the same. In my past relationships it has been the same. Freedom to do as preferred, and it's never been an issue. I don't think I would remain in a relationship if religion was something that came between my open-minded views and those of my significant other. We should each be allowed to do as we please in regard to such a personal subject.
@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
The thing I ike about your response is the respect for the belief of the other people involved. Respect is very important in a relationship... at least for me that is.
@rameshprabhu (190)
• India
8 Sep 10
well i cant get your question with that given example , but for the religion is like what steps i follow in life , that always has a connection on relationships , and understanding the relations and different relationship could make your religions steps different , i wont it would change the religion but , the way we see that would be different and that all cause from relationship
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@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
8 Sep 10
Religion has no direct control over my relationships. Both my fiance and I are atheists, and I really wouldn't want it any other way. I know I would be unable to spend my life with someone who is religious because they'd be living in a state of delusion. I also would question their intelligence, and the drive to increase one's knowledge is far too important to me to be with someone who I didn't find very bright. So religion may have influenced my choices in that sense, but that is all.
@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I think you have a misconception that religious people do not have the drive to earn more. Religious people have that insatiable thirst for knowledge, it's just that these people know their limits. I know that they are not delusional because they have a different faith as you have. yes, even if you are atheist, you have faith... although it is different. Is it then fair to say that you are delusional too because you try to find more answers that are far beyond your understanding. There have been scientists who are religious and even non-religious scientists have said that the bible is a source of great evidence that there is a divine entity if you do not call that divine entity "God" as I do. I understand your point of view, in fact, I was an atheist before. I never would've imagined myself being this religious. You are a wonderful person, I can tell by the way you describe your fiance. I was more close-minded than you because I did not even believe in the concept of love but I have been proven wrong. I just hope and pray that you continue to be a better person, though you have a different belief than many people out there. Thank you and hope you have a happy marriage. :D
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I think this would vary depending on the belief of the person. Religions are just like our guide in our decision making if it plays a big role in your life. But if you don't have any religion then probably you have a different belief where you pattern your decisions. Religions shouldn't control us because we have our own free will to decide. Now if you choose to follow what was being thought in your religion then it had been your choice to do so.
I guess relationship works better if the same beliefs are shared by two people in love. In this case there are less compromises for the 2. Now if in case you have an opposite belief then I guess respecting the other is very important.
In my case now, I'm a born again Christian and my husband is not. I have been inviting him for sometime now to join me but he said he is not yet ready. As respect for his choice I don't want to pressure him to go with me, to worship, to read the bible. Religion or without religion the most important thing is to respect your partner on his/her choices too.
