how will you deal on anger?

Philippines
September 7, 2010 11:28am CST
there are times when someone is too angry over something or sometimes to you. I have a friend who often express her anger to the point of yelling at me or to anyone she can vent it out with. Most of the times, I just stay calm and let her do the venting, but sometimes I want to yell back. Do you think it is important to defend yourself to an angry person or just ignore it until the situation cools down?
7 responses
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 10
I get panic easily sometimes, but I try hard not to express my anger in an excessive way..I just go away for a while to control my temper
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@bulbub (119)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
For me, i just ignore it and when he/she done and cool i talk to her private and calm. No shouting. I hate shouting. If don't agree, so i went out.
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@cbjones (1147)
• United States
7 Sep 10
I don't like to waste anybodies time when there's an anger filled debate going on. I like to wait until everyone has calmed down before I step up and defend myself. you can't get through to people when they have allowed rage to overcome logic and understanding. It's an uphill battle, that consists of boulders and banana peels. you'll fall down more often than not. Everybody loses their tempers. I get get that. We are all human, and therefor we have more similarities than differences. I have been known to be a stubborn guy when i used to get angry growing up. You couldn't tell me anything. I thought everyone else was stupid, and I was the only one on the planet who know anything. I know people know who tend to have that same bias and distorted mentality whenever they lose their cool. I understand it, and try to defuse the situation by calming them down(agreeing with whatever few valid points they may be able to come up with while ticked off,) or just giving them much needed space. I know that arguing with them will only cause pain, and I don't want to lose any friends over something like that. I've lost more than a few as a kid due to my stubbornness.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I sometimes deal with anger by keeping it in. I really dont like that though cause there comes a time when I really have to burst out every emotion kept in there and the result is not usually good.
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@wiggles18 (2506)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I always found that exercising was a good way to get rid of anger. Especially when you are using a heavy bag.
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@gharah (49)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
It's always best to deal with an angry person after he/she cools down because when you respond to him/her during that moment when that person is very angry, you might say things you would regret saying in the end and might even make matters complicated. When you're angry, you tend to say all hurtful words but when you calm down you end up feeling sorry for what you did. Like when my mom shouts at me and i just stay quiet, the next day she becomes extra sweet to me (maybe her own way of saying sorry for the shouting).
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@creed30 (127)
9 Sep 10
i been in that many times its not advisable to join the anger nothing will resolve try to calm or just left her. then after that you will talk to the person compose and explain your side.