What should I do in a misunderstanding?

Philippines
September 7, 2010 11:53am CST
(It's short, just read the first two paragraphs and help me please) To sum it all up, I am in an awkward moment with Chem because when Kat heard my conversation with Ms. Park and told Chem that I said her work is confusing. What I told Ms. Park was the program is hard to get used to, not Chem's graphs. The problem: 1. How can I straighten out this misunderstanding? I tried to explain it that time but Chem was too angry to hear me out. And explaining further will only make me sound questionable and suspiciously lying which is not true! I have a firm respect for her and I treasure our friendship. 2. I think Kat intentionally made that false conclusion since she kept bad mouthing me since first year. I feel this uncontrollable anger, is this justifiable? THERE IS NO NECESSITY IN READING THE NEXT FEW PARAGRAPHS, IT'S JUST DETAILS. If you're interested in the story then go on and read: At a group term paper, I was assigned to do the interpretations of graphs. When I gave it to Ms. Park, she told me that there were several errors in the graphs and interpretations. Chem made these graphs so I quickly pointed out that it was Chem's work not mine so as not to gain her credit. I apologized to Ms. Park for asking her to change some graphs from pie chart to bar graph and some graphs spelling errors. I wasn't able to change them because I am not used to MS word 2007. Kat, who was eavesdropping on my conversation with Ms. Park misunderstood what I said. She thought that it was the graph itself that was confusing and wrong. She told the Chem, so she was furiously angry at me. After all, those graphs were hard and it really looked well-made. There were other times that Kat bad mouthed me and I can't help but feel angry at her for causing the misunderstanding. I think she is very competent in grades and class standing so she keeps attacking me from behind. I am fairly one of the highest in the class especially in major subjects and I kept feeling paranoid that she'll do everything just to drag me down.
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@limlobin (103)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
Summon a vicious Demon to attack Kat. Done, problem solve with that SHE DOG.... As for Chem, E-mail or text her. A written explanation is easier give. And WHEN she is cool enough to talk with you, do talk to her personally. You do not need to persuade her that what you are saying is true. Let her decide. Just be honest and sincere in this misunderstanding. If she believes you, then she is your friend. If not summon a vicious Demon again. Note: The vicious Demon summoning is only a joke. Please don't do it, it sounds so nice and easy to do so, but a terrible mistake for you. Just think of a better way to deal with Kat. And for Chem, if she don't believe you, then you know that she isn't really your friend.
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• Philippines
22 Sep 10
Thank you limlobin. This is very inspirational..and your joke made me feel better from this situation. I agree that a true friend would understand things, and that I really do need to find a way to deal with people like Kat. About summoning vicious demons, I think I'm better without doing so.. :P lol Sometimes in some way things will go around and give people the justice they deserve..whether it be punishment, reward, forgiveness, joy.. ^_^ like karma.. I don't think I could judge Kat, since maybe in some reasons, Kat acts like that from, umm..trauma? paranoia? mental illness? Anyway, thank you again. I will settle this and find out for myself if I really should summon like you said :D ~just kidding :3
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
7 Sep 10
Why don't you print out the discussion you started here , (which very clearly points out your position on this matter) and send or give it to your friend. Maybe if she reads it, she will have a better understanding of what actually occured perhaps she will see this as a misunderstanding.Sometimes it's harder for someone to explain things verbally to another person especially if they're angry. Reading waht yoiur intentions were wil give her time to take it all in.
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
That sounds nice and it will surely clarify things out. But after saying that 'I think Kat is intended this misunderstanding' might cause a greater problem if she finds this out. (Which would be possible because we're seated next to each other in class. And it's quite hard since I feel awkward when I'm talking to her now. Maybe because that was the first time Chem was furious at me. Honestly, I don't have the guts to talk about this again, but I can't help feeling terrible because of this.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
7 Sep 10
I think you may try to understands to Chem.. about this.. if you understands them politely they they will understands.. your problems.. and misunderstanding will destroy..
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• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I tried telling Chem the truth, but she was so angry that time that she wasn't listening to me explain so I think she didn't understood. When you talk to someone and they acted like they don't care at all you'll feel like you just have to let it go since it doesn't matter to them at all. Unfortunately, it matters to me because it's my friendship is on the line. Thank you anurag, I'll try explaining again if I had the chance. It's just, it's so hard and awkward I can't do it maybe because I fear it'll get worse.