What would happiness look like?

Wow it has been so long since I have been happy that I hardly remember what that is like. Due to my circumstances I have taken a hard look at my life. I am trying to weed-out the negatives and just continue to try and survive. Once I get back on my feet, If that is even possible, even with enough money and things I feel that as a person I will never be the same, so happiness once again for me will not come easy. I am simply waiting on the day that we can comfortably pay rent, buy routine groceries and lay to sleep with peace.

They say that to achieve a goal, it has to be defined. I guess this is what your discussion is all about. To be happy, then you have to define what happiness looks like. And the problem for a lot of people is that they could never define what their happiness because they keep fighting fires in their everyday life. Well, at least this is true for me. And I guess the sooner I define mine, the sooner I will realize it!

Happiness to me would be to win the lottery so that I would never have to worry, stress, and get myself physically sick over being broke all the time. The saying says that money can't buy happiness, but I'm pretty sure whoever said that wasn't sick over being so stressed about financial matters, and laying in bed awake at night instead of sleeping worrying about financial matters!

I think it's very bad to say "If only" or "If I could just" because it makes us feel even worse. What we should do is make goals for ourselves based on what we are feeling and how it's affecting us. We can make goals to do things to make us more happy. You could add an extra five dollars to the amount you pay on for your debt for instance, or sacrifice one thing that costs money a month and use that money to go towards the payment of your debt. You will find that while the sacrifice is great the reward after your debt dwindles down and is eventually gone is better. I had debt before I met my husband and it worried me to no end. We got rid of it before we were married and now it's off our shoulders. I had to go to the hospital one time for an anxiety attack, and I had no insurance. We finally paid that off not too long ago, and it helps and makes me happy. Even little goals here and there for online and offline stuff helps. I guess distraction is key.

I think no matter what everyone thinks they'll be happier "if only". For us it's if only we had more money and less stress. I keep looking forward to the day when all my kids are in school and I can get a part time job.. and I think that might make me happier. I doubt it though... there will always be problems, complications, obstacles. I think happiness is more or less and attitude. People in worse situations than us can be happy even though they don't have much. Many childless couples think I should be ecstatic because I have 5 happy, healthy children... though there are days I envy the childless couples, lol. I think it's just being thankful for what you have and counting your blessings and appreciating how good you have it.. even if it could always be better.

A large smile, I suppose. As for what I am waiting for to make me happy, I hae no real ideas. I know what would get me out of debt, but I may not necessarily be happy.

hi aurorastorm you are human so thats why. I have for one yr and a half said I will be so happy when I get the hell out of this boring retirement center back into an apartment with my son.he lost his job, we got evicted so that's why I am here and he is in a gov.sponsored apt with three other men. we do plan on getting back together now he has a job it will take awhile to get enough money together to get back into an apartment. but right now I am now going to be happy here.

Happiness is merely a choice we all have the power to make. You will be happy only when you choose to do so.

Hiya aurora, Can see what you mean. Will I be happy once I have achieved and got what I want. Is it what I really want? I don´t think there is just one answer for that as we are all individual and we all have so many secret hopes and goals. I am just happy living the moment right now I could not ask for anything else right now. But I do have secret wishes and goals being happy right now does not take the other ideas away. They are still there when I get up in the Morning but till then I am living the now moment.

i don't know what happiness is . but i know it's happy when you live with your family and your wife your children . but now i have no gf ,no children . so i am working hard for that. and i think i will have one family asap . nothing for happyness . just feel it around you . don't want too much. or you will miss so many good things in your life. good luck .

Indebtedness should not cause worry. Who is not indebted. Even Govts are indebted.Deficit budget is a sign of development say economists. Happiness is in the spirit of taking things in the right spirit. We should not think too much of our debts.we can repay them all in course of time. one day we may be in a position to lend to others. Happiness is in contentment.If you are satisfied with what you have there is no need to go indebted.

I feel happiness is loving and staying peacefully with your partner.But sometimes I feel no one is happy and contented with whatever he has.When a person is in a good job he compares himself with others in a more better job and then again he is unhappy.When someone has built up his home the person who hasnt will envy him again no scope for happiness.Happiness should be such that if you are staying merrily with your family members depite of less money than others it should be real happiness..But very few people understand the inner core of happiness

i feel happiness when im with my boyfriend, he gave me that happiness that my family cannot. He is my happiness and im satisfied of him

No one can get happiness if he/she runs for happiness. Happyiess lies within one's heart. Be contended with what you get out of your utmost & sincere efforts. Smile at your neibours, they will respond. Help the needy ones, you will feel contended. Read a book you like and you will push away the grieves.Look at the poors, and feel the mode of happiness! Ask yourself, "why I feel trapped in this situation? What is my role to come out this mess? " Happiness lies in your own answers.

Happiness is something where all your problems are gone. It is when you are satisfied.

for me?happiness is like heaven....it makes you go blind