Feeling deeply
By aurorastorm
@aurorastorm (1131)
United States
September 7, 2010 12:13pm CST
When you have a friend whether on mylot or any other type of friend if they are struggling does it make you feel bad? I have a friend on here and a friend at work that are both really going through hard times, and I am as well but not as badly. I find myself thinking about them all day and ways that I could help them, but it just gets me depressed and I know that being more positive would be a better place to be, but I just can't get the thoughts out of my head. What do you all do in this situation? How do you try not to let the weight of other people's problems weigh so heavily on you?
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Sep 10
Yes we are both the same, when I read many of the problems so many myLot members have it makes so exhausted and depressed I begin to cry. There are some days I have to walk away from the computer and curl up in bed and tear until I fall asleep.
Each night I lay to sleep as I pray I always ask God that if any possible way I am to receive a single blessing to please do not give it to me and share it with the people I wept for the last couple of days. Sometimes this makes feel a bit better as I feel that since I can't monetarily help the least I could do is divert anything good for me to the people who may need it the most.
I have however promised myself that the day I can get back on my feet I will be donating myLot earnings to those who truly need it as the members here are so comforting even though they too share turmoils.
I wish I could offer better advice, but truly asking God to help others really does wonders.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Your words truly are a blessing and that is all I pray for I thank GOD everyday for allowing us both the opportunity to become a bit more than just myLot friends as we share each others feelings.
Thank you girl, I Love you for that, see that is all I ask for, no sympathy, or material things, just wonderful loving people who we can trust and learn to love as people like you are hard to come by and I thank the Lord to have bumped into you here on myLot.
Two days ago a complete stranger myLot member asked for email address and sent me this wonderful email that proves to me what I have not able to express out loud, that it is not what I lost have lost but what the new found life I have gained, of which I have to accept and learn to live and appreciate the Lord for everyday. I may never be able to be and or have the life I once had, but now the Lord is telling me that this new found life I must accept, carry on and feel blessed.
Kisses and hugs! 
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
11 Sep 10
Not to be too much of a lovefest on here, but I am so happy to have met you on here and one day may we both be in better places and meet up. For now keep plugging away, and I still want you to send me your e-mail. When I save up a little bit I want to make a donation to your paypal account.
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Hard working gurl, do you recognize yourself in my original discussion, you are the one on mylot that I pray for and wish beyond wishes that I can help!! I have become to know what kind of person you are, you were not someone who is living beyond their means, and that is the kind of person I want to help. The fact that you are on here everyday cheering the rest of us on means so much to me.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I care about the friends i have very much. It does not matter if they are online friends or not. When a friend of mine hurts I hurt too. I hate to see a friend of mine in pain. When they are in need, i am right there with them feeling it too. We will go through the trial together. That's whay friendship is all about.1 person likes this
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I really appreciate you writing this, it makes me feel like I am not crazy for caring so much about my friends. That is very true for me, I feel deeply and if someone I know is hurting, it hurts me as well. I guess that is what true friendship is all about.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
7 Sep 10
You let the weight of their burdon's bother you because you are probably a kind and caring person. But like many with the way things are we have all we can muster to take care of our own obligations and needs. The best thing you can do is offer support and a shoulder to cry on when needed.
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I do this with all of my friends, sometimes it becomes a little too much. You are right I do have a lot of my own burdens as well, otherwise I would try to help them more. I think the fact that I can't help more really upsets me.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
yeah... I can feel their worry . These people influence me and shared their memories with me so if they feel bad I can feel it too. If i can do something no doubt I am going to give it to them. If I am also struggling I can give them wisdom and strength, i'll pray for them too.
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I am glad to know there are so many kind hearted people on mylot. I am giving them my ear to listen to whenever they feel like chatting. I am also giving them my prayers and hope someone will hear them soon.
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
That is true, neither one of these people would ever ask me for help and that is why I want to help them more. Financially I can't help, but I am always there to listen and be a good shoulder to cry on.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 10
It seems like you are really a soft-hearted person. Anyway, what we can do is to help in capacity we have. Don't over-help someone and make your life more miserable. There are always other people around that are able and more capable to help out your friends. Don't put other's responsibility to yourself. Just do what you can to help out if possible but do remember that charity begins at home.
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I really am and in some cases probably too much. In the case of these two that is the thing, neither one of them really have a good social support group to no fault of their own. So I am going to help in the ways I can right now and if I can ever help in a bigger way that is for sure what I will do.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
yes,this is very true when we feel empathy for our friends,could it be online or in real life.
Feeling what they feel really affects us if we consider friendship as true friendship.
I always try to figure out whatever help i can offer or any favor that i can extend,becoz i can't avoid thinking or getting worried with a friend who's having some problem.
And,that is one great purpose for having friends and being a friend to our friend,to help them in times of troubles,to make them feel we are always there to understand and give a hand.
That's what friends are for
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I think you are right, the fact that I care so much, shows how much I think of their friendship. I am trying to be there for them and listen to them. I would like to help them financially as well but I am unable to do that right now unfortunately.
