a long-distance relationship
By michaelxy
@michaelxy (33)
China
September 7, 2010 9:28pm CST
do you have a long-distance relationship at present or once? what are you feeling about that? do you know how to keep it well or better? do you like it? if you were a boy,what do you plan to do with your GF?and if you were a girl? what do you wanna get from your BF? PS:if there is any mistake in my english,i hope you write down the right ones after your respond,pls.
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13 responses
@Cargoleta (723)
• Spain
8 Sep 10
I've had a long-distance relationship for almost two years now (he's from Sweden and I'm from Spain). We talk every day over webcam so we can actually see and hear each other, and once every 2-3 months one of us visits the other. We want to move together eventually, but we don't really know how we'll manage yet.
So far it's been working well that way, even though we can't help but miss each other a lot (especially after being together and then one of us has to go back home) and feel a little sadder some days... but we manage :)
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I was once in a long distance relationship. It reached us to more than 5 years of relationship. We are then engaged and I thought it is working out well. But something happened. I think, it requires trust, time and communication to make the relationship last long. We had no issues or problems then, but it is really different when physical affection or intimacy is lacking.
@michaelxy (33)
• China
10 Sep 10
phtsical affection and intimacy is lacking maybe are tow big problems.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
8 Sep 10
im a girl and i had relationship like that before and we broke up bcs i was always caring more for him than him for me^^ anyway this could had work well if he had cared more ^^ one thing i can say is that if one cares more than the other it cant work. i say this bcs i always felt im the one caring more and my feelings started to disappear. i told him this and he tried to change but was too late already. my feelings disappeared bcs i was always thinking i care more. i was the one waiting him in computer till early in the morning and had school next day and sometimes he didnt appear, i was the one always doing sweet things to him. i really did love him, i would go to his country, a dangerous one by the way if you are girl and go alone, and i would go. just he didnt care enough for me thats why didnt work. he later on wanted me back but i didnt accept. now i feel nothing anymore. so michael^^ if you are or will be in a relationship like this always care for your gf ok?^^ that way she will care for you for sure and wait you^^
@michaelxy (33)
• China
9 Sep 10
i am not good at english,so i have a little problem to understand you.but thank u all the same
@richard03 (133)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
long distance this is a very hard situation trust and patience is on the line. if yo don't have a big amount of these 2 your relationship wouldn't work. just imagine when your together there are still trust issues, and its hard to talk about it with your partner, what else if your partner is long distance, i guess that's 20 times harder to solve...
@michaelxy (33)
• China
9 Sep 10
maybe more and more communication will work it out,don't you think so?
@ynahh1 (454)
•
8 Sep 10
having a long distance relationship is hard.the mere fact that you will miss the person and you wish shes here beside you to comfort and cheer you in the most memorable experience in your life.the thing that you can only offer to your love one is your honestly,why i say so because there's a lot of factor that can be greater affect your relationship.temptation is there,of course we are just human and have needs.What good in long-distance relationship is that you miss the person,the greater you miss her the bigger the possibility to love her.
@ardzhin (1)
•
8 Sep 10
for me, long distance relationship really don't work.. i'Ve experienced that and it's really hard to maintain an effective relationship with my Bf because he's too far from me , i really don't have the eyes to watch what he's doing. I didn't build up a large trust to him and with that, since i have these many suspicions i decided to broke up with him. Many relationship has been broken even if they are having this close communication, how much more in long distance relationship?? Im sorry my english is bad i just want to share my experience, im new to mylot and im very willing to learn a lot of things here..thanks!!
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I've been in a long distance relationship once. Initially, it was OK. We communicated through text and calls, sometimes we did chatting. But as the days goes by, everything is falling deep into the pit holes of break-up. I was even in denial, but we were not doing great. So we decided to stop.
But if you're in a long- distance relationship right now, and if you feel that you really love that person then go for it. You will not know what its like in that relationship if you will not risk it.
@rustyhalo (103)
•
8 Sep 10
having a relation ship with a girl and we don't believe in love concerning my case it's too hard :(
@winstonbaltazar (355)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Initially, what do you mean by long distance relationship,how far do you mean it?
@michaelxy (33)
• China
9 Sep 10
the tow people do not live or work in the same city
they can not be together night and day.
@earnwithme99 (30)
•
8 Sep 10
A few months back i was working away and had a Girlfriend in my home town 180 miles away. It was not the other end of the world but as i was working alot i tried to get up and see her as much as i can but could only come back on certain weekends as i was working as a chef in a busy hotel and they would need me for emergency callout's
It was not working for us at this point as i was coming to see her only once a month or 2 if she was lucky.
Then one day i decided that i missed my girl so i walked out of work.
It was the best thing i have done with my life... we are now living together in our new home and have our first baby due in January next year...
Everything worked out fine in the end.
Thanks
@ilovemoney143 (5)
• United States
8 Sep 10
a sucessful long distance relationship
can do exist. It will survive as long youre willing to work it out. show what true love is ...