"Life Only Begins When You Become a Parent." ( a rant)

Hi Sarahruthbeth, I think that not many think like those that you described. I hope not anyway. I know a lot of people that don't have kids and they are perfectly happy and productive people with a lot to offer. Marriage is definitely over-rated. I've tried it and it wasn't all that great for me. In fact it was a nightmare. I love being single. I do have 4 kids but they are grown except for the 16 year old. I am pretty sure that my life is not going to come to a screeching halt in a couple of years when she too is grown and on her own.

Okay, you are not worthless because you are overweight and don't have children. I am 25, slightly over weight, and I don't have children and I don't consider myself worthless. I am still in college right now working on my degree. My degree, to me, is first and foremost before getting married and having children. As for losing weight, start out slow, and just keep going from their. Start by cutting a few things and walking around a lot. Within time, you will start to see those pound come off, but you have to keep working on it. Okay, there are a lot of people who are not married and don't have children and they do not think that their lives are worthless. In fact, without children, you have more freedom to do what YOU want to do. You can plan your own schedule, you can go where you want to go and have to strap kids into car seats, and you can go out with friends without having to worry about a babysitter. People who have children, are usually tied down until those children are older. They have to plan their life around their children because the minute you have children, they are you sole responsibility. You have to plan everything around them. I know people who are seriously unhappy because they had children, when they didn't want to have children, and they had to plan their entire life around their kids. I have talked to many women who have children, and often times wish they hadn't.

I have friedns who got married in may and thye say when they start having kids their life is over! That is a bunch of bull! Your life changes because of the kids! It doesn't mean life is over! Yikes! With you don't worry about it! So what if you haven't or want to get married! Big deal! I never have and never will! I used to let it bother me but now it doesn't! I had one child but I gave him up for adoption almost 21 years ago. I just never had any other kids and I am grateful I never did! It doesn't bother me! If other people can't except that it is their problem! It is your chose not anyone else! Screw those people!

Hi Sarah. Although some may think you've become 'worthless' because you didn't marry and didn't have kids, I don't believe that this way of thinking is true for a most people. In fact, I think this statement is more like a 'cry for help' for those that just recently become parents. As soon as they get their babies, they soon realize that their carefree-self is no more! And their tons of responsibilities begins. And their lives truly begins! Well I know this is true for myself.

I won't say that life is worthless when you are not a parent and/ or married. Maybe it'll just make a less meaning because if you are going to look at the cycle marriage and becoming a parent includes...well it's maybe our choice, so still it's subjective.

It's of your own choice to decide wether to get married or not. Like wise, it's also of one's own choice to decide to give birth to a kid. Personally, I think kids can enrich our life greatly, I never regret for one second to be my daughter's moth

Hi sarah, I guess this is my time answer this question... No Human considered worthless friend... we are here for different purposes, we are here all unique, if a woman could not bear a single child, or do not want to bear a child, then there is no problem... it's is up to you Sarah, we ourselves make the value of our own life! We ourselves set the worth of it! So stop thinking about that okay?

Precisely what I was thinking too..wow.. lol.. If like that, then there are lots of sad people around.. since life begins only when he or she's a parent.. hehe.. Just don't care, Sarah.. if they have half a brain in the first place, they wouldn't utter such things. Just saying..a rant too..

By that logic, Mother Theresa was worthless. I just don't listen to that stuff...

I am remembering now the words of one of my old teachers, Little Crow, who said that every woman is a mother to every child and every man is a father to every child... You need not be a mother or father in the flesh to care about the children or to want to meet their needs or to want to insure that the Earth remains pristine for them... It is within us all to do that. Whether or not you ever marry or have kids, whether you are fat or thin, you are sacred and far from worthless. I am 50-years-old, unmarried and without children... I work as a marriage and family therapist and help families with children and without be more happy. I have seen much in my years of doing therapy. I have seen those who got married and who wish they were not married as well as the ones who are married and happy. I have seen people who should never have been parents and the parents who are good at being parents... I admire anyone who has the courage to be a parent but that does not mean that I have any less courage as a single person. We all have our own pathways and destinies and contrary to public opinion, no person is greater or lesser than another. We are all equally sacred, equally worthwhile, equally good.

It's true. Only when we become parents then we'll understand what it's like and we'll reflect on our bahaviour towards our parents, from young till now.

I don't know that life begins as a parent, but it will definitely change. There are a lot of situations that you don't have to face unless you are a parent. Parenthood is a whole new world. It can really open up your eyes.

Chances are the people who said those things to you are married and are the ones mesirable with their lives because of the responsibilities caused by the thing called "Marriage". . So if i were you i would just laugh it off. Don't get me wrong since i'm married too but there are things that are better appreciated when you're single such as freedom. When you're single, you only worry about yourself. So dont get affected, when you're meant to be married you'll be someday so enjoy what you have right now because when you tie the knot you'll surely miss all those things. I bet all the people who said those things to you, miss those things a lot.

This is ridiculour! Can you imagine the number of singles who are not alive then because they are not parents? What about couples, married or otherwise, who can't have children for one reason or another? What about them? Forgive me but I think it is arrogance to claim that only those are are parents are alive.