How often do you do things as a family?
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
September 8, 2010 3:32pm CST
I find that we don't spend enough time doing things with all four of us because of the fact that my husband works a lot of hours for his job so that we can keep a roof over our heads and also those other creature comforts that we are used to.
However, we do try to dedicate at least one day a month to do something together. In the fall it ranges from things like a family hike to a trip to the pumpkin patch. We all like to hike throughout the year and we've also recently made our first family trip to the ice skating rink.
So, I wonder how often other families make the time to do something together. What kinds of activities do you like to do with your family. Is this something that you find that you all really look forward to?
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@caud8708 (29)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
my parents, my siblings and I do not usually go on out-of-town trips. but i would say that we are able to spend good times together here at our home. though it is as simple as eating together, watching television together, these simple things suffice our need of each other. the whole day at home, conversations just spontaneously occur and we are able to bond through all these simple things.
i guess it is really good to plan for out of town trips or major activities to do as a family and gain new experiences as a family. but it is better to take every opportunity even just at home as a bonding moment for the family.
..i look forward in every waking moment that i would be spending the rest of my day with my family! it just feels so good! :D
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Our family hasn't been able to do an away from town trip for quite a while now, but that is okay because I really feel like we more than make up for it by finding neat things that we are able to do that are closer to home.
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 10
Hi,
Since my husband is working on weekdays Monday to Saturday,then only
Sunday will be our family day.
Nothing much we do,sometimes we will just laze at home,spend time
together with our son or just go for a walk.
Of course, during weekdays, we still do spent time together during dinner time and
after dinner time.
Since I am not working, so most of my time is with my son.
But for my husband, of course, he has lesser time spent together with our son,
therefore Sunday is the best time for father and son to have bonding moments.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
11 Sep 10
We always make sure that every night we all sit at the table and eat as a family, and we do try to do something after supper as well but usually hubby is tired as he works anywhere from 8 - 11 hour days! He's usually pretty wiped in the evenings! Weekends are definitely "family time" filled! I feel it is important to all of us especially the girls (4 year old and 11 month old).
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I don't work either so it does tend to be the case that I have more time to bond with my children than my husband does, but I do like to have the opportunities that we are able to take to bond as a nuclear unit.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Sep 10
We typically don't try to do things during the week because my husband works long hours as well. In addition to that, my oldest is also in school so she has homework and things that she needs to get done.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Sep 10
The kids b*tch and moan about a lot of the things we've been doing. Sacramento being in the middle of CA gold country, we've done a lot of gold panning, visiting gold mines, caves, old gold rush towns, etc. Apparently they are thoroughly sick of gold, silver, gems, minerals, etc. lol They do like going to the movies, the arcade, mini golf, things like that....
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Casinos make for a great place for family bonding once all of the kids have grown up. I know there have been a couple times that we've gone to one with my mother and my siblings. I always think that it is fun.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I think that you probably get a lot more quality time out of the gold panning, etc. than you would going to the movies or the arcade (I didn't even know that arcades still existed, we don't have any around here anymore).
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@parrot2010 (812)
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9 Sep 10
Me and my family of four whom I live with will usually try to spend at least one occasion together whether that is going out together just for shopping or going to the cinema or restaurant or some other place of entertainment lol
This mostly happens on the weekend because during the week we are all very busy with school or work and by the time we are back we are too knackered to do anything... XD
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
As is the case with your family, most of our quality time that we spend together is during the weekend as well because that is the time when we have more time on our hands.
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@ynahh1 (454)
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9 Sep 10
AS a mother i always do the best and the right thing for my family but i have some trouble making on how to please my husband to go on out together..He was so hard to please,all he wanted id to get out with my son without me.How can i call this a family i know his only here beside me just for the sake of our son.How can i please him..family supposed to have quality time together but bit so happened in my family that this part was missing.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Sep 10
You most likely are quite right about this. Good luck.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
That would be very difficult for me to deal with because of the fact that my family while I was growing up always did a lot of things together. I couldn't imagine having a spouse that didn't want to be involved in family activities.
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9 Sep 10
I am the youngest girl of six older brothers - my parents had a nightmare getting us all together once we hit the teenage years!
When I was younger we used to have to eat evening meals together and would have to go around the dinner table describing the best and worst thing that happened in our day. Obviously, the oldest of us began to leave and the dinner table got quieter and quieter.
Now for Christmas my parents buy us all a diary/calendar. In the middle of December we have to tell Mum of all important dates to us in the next year so that she can write them in everyone's diary. As Christmas presents we must all organise one day's activity for the whole family on any day in the following year. Each sibling announces their activity day on Christmas morning and we all write it in our diaries. For the past three years I have organised a family trip to horse-racing, a day watching cricket and a tour around our favourite football club. My brothers have organised spa days, city sightseeing trips, music concerts and theatre trips.
This means that whatever happens we have at least seven family days together in one year (and I'm in my twenties now) - they are days to look forward to throughout the year and that have continued despite the arrival of my brother's partners and children.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
That is a really neat tradition to have with your family. I might have to suggest something like that for our family as well, I think it would be nice to be able to look in advance and know for sure when you have something that is planned as a family day.
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@roberten (3128)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Family is an extension of oneself. My family spends lots of time together because we simply enjoy each other's company. We are all very busy in our own right but always manage to find time to spend with each other. If there is a significant other involved (none of us are currently married) they too are included in family activities. To be with us is to me one of us.
The things we do may be modestly simply but they are the vehicle to us spending more time together as a family. We shop together, clean together, watch tv and movies together, take trips together and just generally hangout. There is no special thing that we plan to bring us together, we use whatever opportunity that presents itself and make the best out of it. Family is very important to all of us. We love each other and love sharing time with one another.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
You are absolutely right about significant others being a part of the family. In fact, my grandmother passed away about four years ago and when she passed, my husband was in the room with all of us and it seemed that he was more impacted by the loss of her than he had been of that of his grandfather a year and a half earlier.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Sep 10
We still do a lot of things as a fsmily. i find that we did more together as a family when the children were younger. We seemed to have more family fun times then,
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I do think that it will be more difficult as the children get older. However, I also think that even when they are older it will still be important for them to set some time aside to do things together with each other and with their parents.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
My dad is away most of the time for work.., and when he comes home every six months.., we see to it that we make for the time we missed bonding with him.., We watched tv and eat meals together.., clean the house together and goes to church together.. we go out on family picnic.., road trip and swimming at the beach., i love it when we are all together..=)
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I couldn't imagine to have to deal with that kind of separation from one of my parents if they were both living. I lost my father when I was a teenager, so now I am very attached to my mother and I try to do things with her all the time.
@gzadlawan (76)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I also find it in my family.. We do not have enough time together because of the kind of job we have.
We just do some roaming around the town together, going to the park, talking about what our kids do the whole week in which matters most for me; to know their activities and concern.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
To me it too is important to know what is going on in my children's lives. I think that if we build good values with children that they will last throughout their lives and then they will be able to pass those same good lessons to their children.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I'm glad to know that you do enjoy spending time with your family even though it may not be as frequently as you would like for it to be.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
9 Sep 10
It's been a long time since we last do anything as a family. My father is always working from noon til late night. WHile my brother is studying and working part time. My mom is a housewife, spending most of her time at home doing chores. As for myself, i rarely spend more than 8 hours at home. I'm too busy with work, shuttling everywhere. The only time we get to be together, is only during chinese new year, and everybody has no work and school.
WHen there's such a chance, we will be eating steamboat for sure, but not talking much. Though we are a family, but we seem like strangers to each other.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
That really makes me sad to hear that to you your family feels like a bunch of strangers. In my family, we've always been very close and grew even closer to each other after my father passed away when I was a teenager.
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@yoganandht (125)
• India
9 Sep 10
Rather than leaving home, it would be better to stay put and have a nice time at home, if you need some quality time with your family. Just doing some household chore with the members of the family can itself be way of bonding. A trip may not possible always periodically due to prior commitments hence fun at home can equally be enjoyed
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I think that it is possible to do a nice mixture of both staying at home and getting outside of the house together. We do spend a lot of time at home, but it seems that the greatest memories are created when we are away from home.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I do think that it is a part of growing up that you don't have nearly as much time with your family. However, I will always maintain that the family that eats together will stay together and that is one thing that I will only budge on when my children are moving out of the house.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Even now while my daughter is still young, there are times that it is difficult, but I think what we gain from it is well worth it.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
8 Sep 10
We try to do something as a family every Sunday. It may not always be anything exciting.. we might just go to a playground, or just hanging out at my father in law's.. but Sunday has always been a family day and it's always the day we go out and do something. We can't always afford to do the things we want, unfortunately. There are a lot of things we want to be able to do sometime, but just don't have the money to right now.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Trust me, I most defintitely understand not having the money to be able to do some things that we would like to be able to do. However, I do think that it is a great thing that my family is able to get so much out of so little at times.
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@Ruby722 (796)
• China
9 Sep 10
My family distribute in three different city.we only have a chance to see each other in the end of the year.So we dont have time to do thing together.I wish i could spending more time with my parents.And doing thing together with my brother
I aslo wish we could traveling together sometime
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I'm glad to know that you are at least able to get together with your family at the end of the year. I imagine that is something that you really do look forward to.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Sep 10
I must admit that we also don't get to do much together as a family. We also hardly find the time, with me being a bit workaholic. So it was a surprise yesterday when I was ablt to get home earlier than usual. We were sitting around in the living room when I realized that I had a couple of hours free time. So, I dragged the kids to a hike in a nearby hill. It was a great afternoon.
Once a month, we also get to do a thing for the family. For the past couple of months, it has been to the movies. It's a bit expensive, but the quality time is well worth it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Once a month is a good amount to shoot for as well, in my opinion, because that way you don't burn out on things.
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@richard03 (133)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
hmmm, when i was young we use to do a lot of things as a family, going to church eating dinner outside, going to the beach, parks, going to the relatives arty, but now that i'm at my 20's we seldom do those thing together, instead i go to the beach with my friends going to parties with my friends going to church with my girlfiend. kind a sad if your'e reminiscing the past the laughters you shared going out together as a family.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Well, I'm in my thirties now but that doesn't mean that don't still take time to do things with my siblings, mother and nieces as well. We came from a family that was very close despite the distance between us and I hope that we will be able to pass that on to our children as well.
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@cthetruth (4)
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9 Sep 10
My family used to do a lot together both of my parents were truck drivers so I spent the first 16 years of my life on the road with them so we have a really close family but in the last 2 years we have gone from living within half an hour of each other to living 10 hours apart so we really only get to talk on the phone now.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I couldn't begin to imagine how difficult it must be for you to live that far away from your family. I only live across town from my mother and sometimes even that is too far for me.
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