Nagger Wife: How you handle this kind of wife's behaviour?

Hehe , you are lucky enough that you have such a lovely wife.i think if she loves you she would talk to you continuely.if she doesn't love you any more.she will silence and go away.so if you love her.listen to her or don't lisen to her with your earphone cover on your ears.don't lose your temper.

Okay, well, wives do that, and they do it for a reason because you men just won't listen to us. She is trying to tell you to do something, to get off your butt and do something, and you won't get it done, so what do you think she is going to do? Also, you knew what you were getting into when you got married. Think of your mother and what she used to do to your father. Yes, this a lot like that. The minute you do what she tells you to do, then she will stop nagging, and if she is not satisfied with anything that you do, then maybe you better rethink being married.

I am a wife but my husband used to be the nagger when we were first dating.:)He has so many insecurities and he slightest disobedience of his words makes him feel disrespected.That's why we often had a fight then. Of course, I was always the one giving up. I have no patience with naggers.:( There were times in the past that I learned how to nag as well. Why? because he keeps on doing things that I told him I do not like. Like littering his used clothes and other stuff. He's a certified lazy and slob, too. I ran out of patience so I didn't help myself from nagging him.:( THen I get tired also of telling him how he can help me lessen the burden of doing everything just by cooperating.I realized it was useless, so, I stopped. I don't talk to him when he does something like that again. And it seems working on him.:) As for your nagging wife, do you realize why she is nagging you? Why don't you listen to her first. The reason why wives keep on nagging because husbands are so hard headed .:) Goodluck.:)

I've been observing people and their "style" of responding/reacting. And I think there is physiological basis why they are behaving the way they behave. One explanation is related to adrenalin. This hormone triggers a fight or flight response. For timid people whose brains are sensitive to adrenaline, a flight response is usually triggered. You can see evidence of this when a timid person becomes quiet or his communication center shuts down. This is understandable because you really don't need to talk if you will just be running from a threat. On the other hand, if the fight response is triggered, every human function seems to be amplified including the ability to speak. So naturally, a person in fight mode will have a very sharp tongue. On this occasion, coherent thinking is not required. This is understandable because you don't need to be poise or formal when you are fighting. As long as you can hit your target, it's fine. So, in my opinion, a nagging wife is just a person in fight mode fueled by an ample supply of adrenalin. I think the best response for such a person is to actually be calm and not appear threatening. Since the body's feedback system is fairly automatic, it should cause a corresponding response. Of course, one managed incident won't stop your wife's urge to nag. Long-term results do not happen overnight. But if you condition her often, I think she'll probably not switch to fight mode quite readily.

Now this problem is actually a lot easier to fix than you think. First off, your wife knows she is annoying you. Instead of coming right out and saying she feels insecure lately, or bored; she is deciding to get out all her frustration by antagonizing the day lights out of you. Below is the cure for the female nagging disease in a relationship. Let me know how it goes! 1. Leave her a note. Leave her a sticky note on the mirror that says, "I love you, have a good day." Thats all you need to write. It isn't overly cheesy to write that nor is mundane or impersonal. Even if you don't feel very loving towards her at the moment, you still love her at the end of the day. Everyone needs to be reminded that they are special sometimes, even if they are projecting immature behavior. To add: Repeat the sticky note routine about once every three months. Mark it on your personal calender if you have too. Remember make the words on the sticky note personal without being overly cheesy. Also, don't write a phrase like, "thanks for cleaning the house so beautifully this week," or, "your meatloaf was wonderful." Make every little sticky note have words that reminds her about why she married you in the first place. 2. Help her out a little more even if you don't feel she deserves it right now. Do one extra annoying chore that she hates to do every three days. When you give people no reason to complain, they usually don't. Even if this doesn't help you immediately; it will in the long run. Even though one extra chore seems small, it will still relax her a little more and she will be less irritated. 3. Don't sit there and take the nagging. When women see their significant other roll there eyes in the back of there head while there trying to get a point across think they are not being heard; because there not. She feels like she needs to repeat herself so much because she doesn't think your paying attention; even if you are. When she is speaking, keep eye contact with and don't nod or play games on your cell phone. There is a less likely chance she will feel this constant need to repeat herself if she knows she is being heard. 4. Show a little more affection. Every couple tends to fall into the "too comfortable," spot and forget how important physical affection is. Don't overdue it and try to make out with her before breakfast; an extra hug or kiss a day will do wonders. 5. Hang in there. Everyone goes through phases in their life where they execute less than pleasant behavior towards the ones they love the most. I hope you use my ante-dot for the female nagging disease, I promise it is worth gibing a shot. Before you know it, your house will seem a lot quieter.

I am not yet married but I think girls do that often times. If I'm in your situation I think I'm gonna need help to. Having a nagger wife is not that easy. Isn't it? I also see it when my sister-in-law and my brother fought. It seems that my brother is afraid of here wife. I suggest that you and your wife should talk on it and if does not work then thats the time that you should ask for help for professionals. Good luck.

I think you are not taking her seriously enough. Don’t get me wrong, but I’ve seen many husbands like you, who don’t think that the wife’s problems are serious enough to get a patient hearing. Most guys give the excuse that these are woman’s issues, girlie way of looking at things, wives are like that, there’s no serious problem at all…only woman’s imagination and pettiness or…I’m too tired after office, I don’t want to be dragged into such petty family squabbles etc etc…please do understand that you wife is an individual too, who has her own understanding and handling of things, which you must appreciate. And what you take as nagging, is her way of drawing your attention to things which are very important to her! You too must be discussing your problems with your wife…how would you feel if she thinks you are nagging her, instead! So next time she nags, do sit back and listen to her and then try and discuss the problems amicably.

Hello mob... nice be here today with this topic of yours... Been away for months.. Well, why would she nag, and what is she nagging about? Maybe, there are things that you need to talk about, heart to heart. Ask her what really is the matter, so that you two could understand each other. I hope you two could talk and fix things. Be happy together. Happy mylotting!

Hello mohbhomeir, This is an interesting discussion. And it reminds me of something I read about what people in ancient times did to wives who nagged. Yes, nagging wives were punished during ancient times. But I guess this type of treatment didn't help in making wives stop nagging. I used to live with a mother who nagged all the time. And I always wonder if there wasn't a better way for her to air her feelings. How do you differentiate between nagging and the need to talk? What do you think? Sometimes when I tried to talk to my husband, he would feel that I'm nagging him. Then I would analyze what it was that I said which made him feel that I was nagging. And I realize that I was being accusatory. When I accuse him of doing (or rather of not doing something) then he feels that I'm nagging. So I always try not to sound accusatory if I had to talk to him. I guess I'm not much help with how you can handle a nagging wife but you should know that no wives like to be known as a nagger. So I would really suggest that you talk to your wife nicely that you don't like a nagging wife. Perhaps, you can talk about your mother who nagged you all the time and how you hated it. Don't get angry when she nags because you cannot fight fire with fire. You must remain calm. And perhaps your wife would on her own realize that nagging doesn't solve anything. Good luck.

Hello there again my friend.. I am a girl and I am perfectly aware that being a nagger annoys men.., and it's a definite turn off.., and there are times really.., in certain circumstances that I cannot prevent..,and I can no longer control my temper.., I can be a nagger.., but out of my awareness.., i tried to change ways.., so whenever I have something I didn't like with my boyfriend.., I keep silent..and he'll notice it..=)

I am a wife and i don't nag. I wish i could talk to your wife so i can give her some piece of advice. How do i manage not to nag... i am simply so tired for that.. there are so many things to do at the office (by the way, is your wife working? maybe she's bored). and there are so many things to do at home.. cook food, wash the dishes, do the laundry on weekends, not to mention the children, of course I have other activities to do... i am just too tired to nag. And i don't understand what is it in nagging that most wives find fun in doing it. It's sooo stressful... you see my husband is not a very straight guy, he comes home late, he comes home drunk, he comes home broke, and sometimes he comes home late, drunk and broke... but i don't care. I dont know why i don't care, i just dont... but you see, we've been married for 15 years... and we have no problem. I can go out, he can go out.. i can be with my friends, he can be with his friends.. we have fun together and we have fun apart of each other.. i dont know why we have no problem about that, but we don't have problem about that. Maybe the secret is trust and should i say self-confidence?