cancer!

That really is a difficult situation to be in and I don't really think that there are any words that are adequate for saying what you need to say to your friend. It really is sad that he has cancer and there really is a big part of you that wants to tell him that, but I also imagine that there is a lot of you that wants to tell him that you are there for him if he needs anything and you want to give him encouragement. My friend, I'm afraid that there really is no right answer for the dilemma that you are in.

I don't envy you ann. There are times in life whenit is nearly impossible to find the right words, and I'm sorry to say you are facing one here. All I could possibly suggest would be to express love, and that you are thinking of him at this time. Mike.

This is a nasty illness and I would tell him that I know this and that I would be there for him, if only just to listen. Sometimes this is the most needed thing. The person who is ill often finds themselves puting an unbelieveable amount of energy into reasuring others to make them feel better. If he can have one friend that is willing to face reality with him it may be the greatest gift you can give him. Blessings

hi tigeraunt, i know what you feel now, 3 weeks ago my 65 yr old dad had a stroke. im the eldest daughter and im the one who arranged all things as in everything. and i can say that it was a very hard time for me. as the eldest daughter i cant show them my emotions. i cant cry infront of them.. when my mom and my siblings seems to feel so down i need to be strong for them and tell them some happy things to make them happy and strong.. but when im alone ofcourse i cried. then after that i smile again. i need to move on and be prepared what ever things might come out. in your situations just make your friend happy,talk about some happy moments that you had shared before... the important thing also is for him/her to be strong physically for the operation... novelcai

I'm sorry to hear that your friend was attacked by cancer.As we known, this disease hasn't a good measure to cure as far as now. Though you felt sad to the news, and you should face with it in a strong hearted. Lying in a coma,you and his family should give he a happy time. Don't think too much about the disease.

Hi Tiger aunt, Sorry to hear your friend has to go through that. I too have experienced someone very close to me who was diagnosed with cancer, my husband. Treatments have come so far today too, my hubby was told 10 years ago that there was nothing they could do for him. He is not cured but he's still here with us and he at home where he wants to be. One of the hardest things we had to deal with was being left out of social activities, etc. We were in our early 30's when hubby was diagnosed and many of our friends and family dropped away from us, many I think because they didn't know how to deal with a friend or family member being seriously sick. It is very hard to deal with a life threatening illness and you need the support of all your family and friends. The very best thing you can say or do is to just let him know you will be there for them if he needs you. There really are no special words to say, except to offer your assistance if needed. Something as simple as a drive to the doctor's or the hospital tells them that you care enough to help. In the end actions speak much louder than any words spoken.