Would you continue with a guy whose family disapproves you?

If he is worth it, meaning if I love him enough to stay with him, then it will not matter if his family approves of me or not. My uncle's family did not approve of my aunt, but she married him anyway, and had a son with him, and these days, his family really doesn't care anymore. My family doesn't approve of my boyfriend, but I really don't care what they think because I am the one who knows what is best for me, not them.

how about friends? hehehe.. i'm dating this guy and it's us against (almost) all odds -- somthing like that but it's okay. i'm having fun and that's about it. i have never met his family but some of his friends, yes i did.. i hope once i encounter his family, it'll be ok..

I know that it is hard when your lover's parents don't approve you.When you hang out with this guy,and you really care about him,it is no doubt that you want him to be happy.However parent's disapproval is tough to your partner.On the one hand,he wants to hang out with you;on the other hand,your partner may not want to break his parents' heart.So it is not easy for him to make a choice. As far as I am concerned,when this happens,you should not escape.Instead,you and your partner must face the situation bravely.Love is about two guys and you should let your parents know that you two are happy together or to let them know you two are suitable to each other.Besides,you can do something to change his parents' attitude.Even though it is different,you should at least give it a try,like inviting them to have dinner with you,making your partner's parents understand you slowly.However,if things can not be worked out till the end,maybe you should think seriously about this relationship and whether it is worth to be with him anymore.

ohh im sorry for it :( you gave up on him bcs of his family :( this is very sad story i guess you got much hurt but for sure your bf was sad too :( anyway i read here in mylot a story of a girl that she said that her bf parents didnt like her either but he chose her and now they talk with her even not much she knows they still dont like her much but they talk. anyway she continues with him bcs he always been there for her^^ anyway im sorry that your story didnt end well but maybe if you had continue with him they could change their minds about you^^ if you still love him i wish he finds a way to proof his love to you and you can accept him again^^ and that if this happens his family likes you^^

Normally a sign that a family approves is the way they treat you and accept you in the family. Sometimes they criteria fall on something with regards to a particular background they are looking for.

been there done that... i think its time for your guy to earn some balls, if this guy really love you, then you shouldn't worry, he'll come back at the right time, i been in this kind of relationship for long, i've try to be a martir coz i love this guy so much, it didn't last last long, i left, gave him time to realized im the one, now these guy is asking for my hand in marrage.

Relationships are never easy.Minds are too complicated.When you love a person a lot there will definitely be a lot of hindrances.It all depends on how we play the waiting game and stand the test of time.If both of you are strong and the guy is not ready to go for anyone else apart from you there will be a time when his parents will have no other go but to go by their son's wishes.After all there is no parents who wants to see their parents sad.

This is so many peoples story and its really hard to know what advice to give as it can be so personal to the situation and so many different factors to influence your choice and theres no real way of knowing if everything will turn out for the best... But i will ask you to ask yourself how you feel? Can you deal with the issues for the sake of your relationships or is there also other reasons why the whole situation could be to draining to continue forever anyway. If you are truly inlove then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You and your partner need to works this one out on your own without caring what anyone else thinks.

Hi ergfortes, my situation is the other way around. It must be totally terrible for my boyfriend to be in that position you had. I know it's not easy for him. It is also our 5th year together. I couldn't really fight for him to be accepted by my father for now because my father gave me one condition and that is to go abroad and secure myself economically. I'm actually processing my papers and hopefully that would solve the problem.

i will have to judge the situation first, if he can protect me from his families then why not?? coming from me as an only child i would not want to get involved in a relationship wherein it will create lot of differences

it depends~if my bf decided to be with me and we are all love each other so much , then i think no one oould seperate us. But U said his family disapprove U too,your bf was also hesitate ,sounds it is really a little hard to continue. but I still feel sorry about you two . after all 5 years is really a very long time, I suggest you to consider it for the second time. bless U ~~and have a happy day~~

Definitely a knotty problem.In most cases,the results turned out to be breaking up.After all,you have maintained your relationship for 5 years,which proved that you did your best.To some degree,i could feel the pain you suffered.I love a girl who doesn't love me.I've persisted for years.It is her former bf that fill her heart.Recently i'm thinking it's time to give up,just like you.

My answer to your question really depends on a lot of things, but for the most part... no. I will not continue with a guy whose family disapproves of me, especially if the guy does not have the balls to stand up for me. If he is strong in every sense of the word, family disapproval could be swayed or ignored. I think you made the right choice. I hope you find the right guy!

I'm a new comer.I think you are right.But it is him who you will marry,not his parents,so if he loves his parents like that,he will also love you as he loves his parents.