is it wrong to be angry..?

Hi Slipz, Whatever their father has done to you, it is not the fault of the kids. I am guessing you are going through a divorce or a breakup? That is really hard emotionally and your anger and hurt is not wrong. Blaming the kids for it is. As hard as it is, you have to work to make sure that you don't say negative things about their dad to them or around them and that you don't show your feelings and let them believe that this is their fault. Hope things get better for you real soon, Slipz!

after all, they are your kids too and how can you show anger towards them for their father's sin? Instead, you should seek for another good partner for your life to share everything. Yet, I can't deny the fact that some kids have a face like their father or have some mannerisms like him which could trigger your emotions.

Hi slipz1487, Yes, it is wrong for you to feel this way toward your children. After all, they were made out of love between you and their father. Just because things did not last between you and their father, and he is not anywhere around so that you can take your anger out on him, gives you no right to take it out on the innocent children. Loving your children, inspite of what their father did or did not do will only bring more blessings your way. Harm them, mentally, physically, psychologically etc. will only bring more pain in your life. Children are to be nurtured by their parent(s) Even though you may think that you cannot let go of the anger that you feel toward this person who hurt you, you must think about what this anger is doing to yours life and your children's lives. The longer you hold on to the anger and unforgiveness the more depressed and self-absorbed you will be. You will not be much good to yourself or your children. You do not want to give your power to unforgiveness. To forgive this person doesn't mean that you have to be, or can be friends. Forgiving him just means that you will not render your mind to the negative thoughts about the situations. And you will began to live your life and share happy times with your children. If you cannot find room in your heart to forgive, then be anger with the one person who caused you pain. Don't shift the blame and the pain onto the children, who will surely grow up and remember your treatment to them. Yes, they will remember! Blessings,

Hi slipz,It's not wrong to be angry if someone done a wrong thing to you. But to be angry with your kids because of what their father had done to you, it's absolutely a mistakes. They are innocent and besides You can't have your children without their father so how bad or angry are you with your husband you have to accept the fact.

Hi there.., whatever the father of your kids did to you.., I think It isn't right to project your emotions to your innocent children.., If they did something wrong that needs to be corrected,, let it just be plain anger due to that wrong deeds and not because they are the children of their father.., It is unfair to them..=()

Hi! I think it is really not good to put the blame on your children. You must look at them as your most precious gift rather than see them as the painful reality that happened between your past relationship. I know it is sad, but we must look forward to the best of our abilities and choose to be happy. Life is good. You are so blessed.

Hi, It is not right to take your innocent kids as the person for you to release your anger. They are your kids and not a toy. Therefore,always give them your attention,and never release your anger to them again. Try to control your emotion and try to have a good chat with your husband to settle up the problem straightly. If your husband treats you badly,then both of you guys need to have a good chat and try find the problem hidden below. Why he treats you bad? Only when the main problem is solved,then you guys may have a happy family.

It is wrong to be angry with your kids just because of what their father did to you because they have nothing to do with the mistakes of their father. It's not proper to blame them or to pass them your feeling of anger towards their father, it's not their fault, they were just your kids who we're longing for your love, care, and attention. Despite of what their father did to you, you should love them with all your heart and never let them suffer for the mistakes of others.

It is not wrong to express your emotions especially your anger. If you cannot release it, that anger will only consume you. However, it is not fair to vent your anger to your children. Whatever issues or disagreements which transpired between you and their father are not reasons enough to direct your anger towards them. It is also not healthy for you and your children if you openly display your animosity as this might only cause resentment between you and your children.