Don't you think arguments are an important part of a relationship?

If I am not wrong, I have read in one of the science journal that the timely arguments between couples keeps the heart problems at distance. I think it is very important that there are few of the arguments in the relationship so that there is no surprising act in it. It makes people spell out their frustration and expectation which helps in boosting confidence and making the relationship lovable. However the arguments should be more of constructive one and there should be a level of agreement in it.

Sometimes I think argument is can be a good thing in a relationship. when you have argument with your partner or friends you can really say the words in your heart and get your problem resolved. However you do need to control the argument. Don't make it too much and finish the relation with people. although it's good for a relationship I still wish I have less argument with my friends.

HI, I do agree with you that argument will bring the relationship even closer. During my dating time, I did argue with my boyfriend once a while and something we just argue over a small issue,but then as a girl,of course, I refuse to talk to him first and most of the time my boyfriend will say sorry and talk to me first. After a day,everything will be fine and we start talk to each other again. Not to forget , we will hug each other and our relationship are getting closer. Even after married, I still do argue with my husband once awhile. we can argue over small issue and we won't talk to each other for a day,showing black face,but it won't last for long. The next day ,everything will be fine again. I do believe that argument make both parties to understand each other better and definitely we will love each other more.

i believe that arguments is part of talking to each other. it's part of getting to know each other.

Arguments are ok, depending on how you handle it. You may be cooler in handling situation like this but your partner may be not. Some people take other's opinion personally. It also depends on how frequent you argue with each other and what are the issues you argue about. Do you argue about the color of your shirt, or his haircut or your make-up or some heavier issues like a call from an old boy/girlfriend, postponements of dates.... I don't feel it's alright arguing about things that really should not even matter (like for example, his haircut.. i mean, can a hairstyle kill you?) save your effort and debating ability to some serious matters, things that matters to your relationship. I am married for 15 years, if he tries to open an argument over petty things (why cheddar instead of parmesan cheese), i'll cut it off by saying "alright, do as you please, it doesn't matter".. i only argue if the issue is about raising the kids, how to discipline them properly.. The last argument we had to exchange recently was about where to send our eldest daughter to college... he tried to prompt me to argue with him about what car to replace the one we are using, i said "it doesn't matter, as long as it is road worthy and we all fit in, no problem" so he stopped and said OK...

i guess u guys need to have a good vacation then talk about ur problem. cause it normal to agrue with ur partner in life but not much talking is not healthy. maybe one of u have problem already that u guys need to talk about straight

ARGUMENTS is a part of a healthy and alive relationship though! That is one of the best spices! I do not believe that there is an existing relationship with no arguments! It just happens as we all know that no person is alike! Thus we have different outlooks, we have different views, we have different values... so couple sometimes argue on things... and by that, they can really see to it which is good and not, because they can able to examine it and choose the best! Good luck and God bless!

When two people are involved in any kind of relationship, there will be times when you don't agree with each other. This can often lead to misunderstandings and arguments. sometimes something good can come out of the argument when it helps us to see somrthing new about ourselves that we didn't see before.

For me the important more is patient and understanding to each other the arguing is not good to a relationship.

I think it also depends on the kind of argument you have. There are times when I am sick and tired of arguments and i hope that everything will just be okay. In my situation now, I am really tired of arguments. There's no need to argue especially if you are arguing with someone who has pride.

Constructive arguments is one of the spices of a relationship, that i agree with. It keeps the flame going and makes you express things which you normally keep inside, for lack of opportunity or perfect moment perhaps. However, arguments which intends to hurt our partners and not resolve the matter at hand, will likely hurt the relationship or worse, ends it. So, even though arguments are somewhat needed to keep the love alive, the couples should always bear in mind that engaging in such is for the solution of the problem, and not lash out at our partners, expressing ourselves with all the anger, intending to let our partners pay for hurting us, because that would create a vicious cycle which would do more harm to relationships than we could ever imagine.

..i do..arguments is part of the spices in a relationship..it gives more color on it...also, it will test how strong your love with each other and will settle differences between you and your partner....what's good thing about arguments is when it is done and resolved...the more stronger your bond will be...

yes, thats true it should be an open communication betwen couples. and its a healthy start , building good communication is the key success to any relationship. i preferred more conversation that is healthy than with the one that is so sad and boring.

Well,arguments make the relatingship stronger than before.For me,my father and I love each other,we also make some arguements.when I am argue with him ,I wii stop at once.After a few days ,we will make a deeply talk in a evening.I think it is a right way.Giving each other some time to think about what happened and deciding what to do.

Yes arguing is good because it adds spice to the relationship. If a couple doesn't argue, then that means that something isn't right with that relationship. You have to argue at least once in a while to indicate that that marriage is still alive. Some people think that a relationship is just love all of the time and just comfortable, but that makes the relationship boring. My boyfriend and I argue sometimes. That's how it is.

Hello mavericcherub4u, At times arguements are good to air things out when they been building over time such like months and to make sure we are same page in values and life in general so we do not blow up later. I am doing better I do suffer from apssive agressive behavior. With my new boyfreind it seems easier to talk to him so there things are building up like in my past relationships etc... He loves to talks and even gossip about stars on Tv or neighbors in his neighborhood. He is really a nice guy. Thanks and have a great weekend Sincerely unique16

I agree with you. Arguments make the relationship stronger. It is a challenge that needs to be overcome. And we all know that challenges make us strong. But always in an argument is not a good sign of a healthy relationship. That's really a big problem. That calls for a really long conversation between the partners.

My boyfriend and I have some arguments once in a while, but like you said, afterwards we always end up all lovey-dovey as well. I think it's good to be able to let things out and talk about what's bothering you with your partner, even if sometimes things can get a little heated up. But as long as you talk through it and manage to solve the problem, it should be ok :)

Hello, Im glad that it works out in ur relationship. i deffinately think that everyone in a relationship should learn how to deal with arguments. Its important for ech of them to know how they react and how they best handle situations, and to talk to each other about it. That way, when they do argue they know how best to argue "fairly". Tat way it doesn't tear them apart.