talking in a relationship

Well I can see it from both sides. I'm a stay at home mom and I can see the need to have some basic conversation with someone. But woman like to talk, men don't always like to talk unless it's relevant to them. That's pretty much the way they're programed and it is something we as woman have to learn to live with or work around. But I'm just talking about basic conversation though. If it's important to you both as a couple in your relationship, it's something you need to insist on. If you notice he like to talk about himself more, join in on the conversation more. Keep asking questions and so fourth. Learn about him. If he doesn't feel your day is relevant, then don't tell him. You don't have to tell him everything and someday he might actually ask. You need to be patient with men. They're slow learners when it comes to woman, and sometimes they never do learn. How long have you been married? Over the years I seemed to have learned to deal with talking to my husband. Most things we talk about are things that are relevant to him, our kids, or our relationship. We also talk a lot about religion and politics and even entertainment sometimes. But as for personal feelings, I know it's a touchy subject for him to talk about. If you just want more basic conversation because you've been stuck home all day, a good suggestion would be to just get out of the house. Are you required to stay home? If not, go out and meet people, talk to people and have some conversations with people other then your husband.

did you ever try to talk to him about the fact that you don;t like it when he doesn;'t listen to you, instead of telling your friends this kind of things. maybe he doesn;t realise that you think that he doesn;t listen to you, that's why you have to tell him. or maybe he's that kind of person who likes to talk alot about himself and he doesn't like to listen to what others have to say. anyway I think it's your mistake that you didn;t solve this problem while you weren't married yet

Wow, that's infuriating. I would be very annoyed and upset.

Talk to your partner in a way that gets them involved. Get them interested in what you have to say. Communication with your partner is is so vital in a relationship. If you lose that it can be difficult to find your way back to each other.

Whether a guy is your boyfriend or your husband, they all have the same agenda and attitude about "talking". For women, talking is both listening and sharing, but with guys, it's a monologue. It's quite unfair that way, since we women are naturally seeking to confide with a close friend or mate. I had this experience once, with a strict boyfriend. He was a sweet guy, but somehow, he managed to keep me from sharing my thoughts with him. We talked, but I always had the role of listener, and he filled most of the conversation. When I couldn't stand it any longer, I asked him why all he could talk about was himself. I questioned him about our relationship (as calm and respectful as I could) and if he gave importance to my feelings at all. It kicked in, I guess, because since that day when i said how hurt I was, he actually made progress. He allowed me to talk first and then he would add about HIS day. SO I guess the bottom line here is that communication is very important in a relationship. You could start by preparing a nice dinner for him when he gets home or cuddle with him for a while. The when he's in the mood, you can open up your feelings. It really helps to make him feel he's loved before you open up, so that he's in the mood. Hope this helps!

he not like you or his work load.you are not good looking like his mind setup.

Men are fickle people. They'd rather talk about themselves and things they like etc, then listen to someone else. So I've learned in my own experiences anyways. The only thing I know that has worded for me, is ask him open questions and try to squeeze what you did in with asking him how his went. I'm not sure if this will indeed help, but I have used this method in the past and has worked for me.