Lack of motivation to talk?

I believe sometime we get very overwhelmed with many things in life to the point where we sort of want to be left alone. In order to continue to remain healthy and happy we must find the inner strength to fight against the feelings. Sometimes it is best to take a break for a few days where you can clear your mind and rejuvenate then come back and jump right in full throttle. I see you are fairly new - Welcome - Welcome to myLot -

You sound like an intelligent person, and I cannot imagine why you wouldn't want to socialize. You write better than most people on this website do, and you could go very far in the online world. Of course, if you are really shy, you are going to have to work on that. My boyfriend used to be shy around me, and I can guarantee you that he wasn't shy for long. Also, to get anywhere in this world, you have seriously got to learn how to socialize and how to speak to others. Social skills really are everything in this world, and believe me, I hate to admit that. When I was a child, I was told to talk to people and socialize because I would get further along in life if I did. I don't have this problem because I learned how to socialize, but I do know people who do have this problem and you just have to learn how to get over. Baby steps, start with casual conversations. Simple things, and then go into deeper conversations.

You are not the only one that feels like this! I have definitely been going through this myself! I used to be very active online in terms of creating discussions and chatting with others but you just lose the interest and everything seems mundane and tedious all of a sudden! In relation to myself I guess I have been going through the same routine day in day out and I guess depression slowly starts to set in. Thankfully I'm still in control and I try to keep myself content by doing things that I enjoy like regular swimming and cycling. I'm not that sociable when it comes to real like anyway! I don't have many friends and that's ok. I think over the years you become accustomed to a way of living and I guess I have found my little niche in the world! That's not to say that I don't like to chat to others I just don't make a huge effort to try and make conversation with others. If they chat to me then I will respond as it were! Andrew

Hello mcharney89, I believe i am fairly big mouthed here. I love to talk actually. But in real life, one needs to break the ice for me. Before that is done, i am going to be cold and hard, LOL. It just takes me some time to open up to people but after after the ice breaks you could be surprised to talk to me hehe.. So think about it.. I hope you find this place great and have fun posting here friend. I am sure you would make real nice friends here. Lotting lotting, happy mylotting!

Well I think its kind of natural. When we become very much active and regular on such online forums, and we posts so much and interact to a lot of people and we actually enjoy doing all that. But this is kinda human nature that if we keep doing something for a long time we start loosing interest in it and starts feeling boredom with that. Just like initially when a song releases and we like it so much that we listen to it several times in a day but after a couple of weeks the same song sounds so much irritating to us and we no longer are able to enjoy it. So its nothing wrong with you, its just about human nature. Although we can get rid of it. One thing that is important is to maintain a balance between everything like your social interaction online and offline. Find time for your family, relatives and offline friends also, and give your hobbies also some time so that it can make you happy. Some calculated breaks at specific time can make you deal with such situations and you wont loose your interest in them. So the thing is to understand and maintain the required balance between your all activities. Take care :)

I was taking care of my Dad for the last 4 years after my Mom passed and social sites have been my only means to the outside world...I lost Dad in July and now able to go out and it feels so weird talking to people in person again...I'm a huge people person and I can talk anyone under the table lol, but I can sorta so relate to what your saying...i'm here if you ever need a friend :)

Hello mcharney, maybe you are not ready or doesn't have a plan. or more importantly, you lacked practice, have you tried talking to the mirror. i believe that's one of the good effects for a better way of talking to other people. it's not easy facing real people, as of try my advice. as for mylot, maybe you can think of things that can be productive.

I'm not a terribly sociable person, but sometimes I enjoy being online and sharing ideas. Other times, even when there's something interesting to respond to, or someone sends me an email, I just don't want to be bothered. It does get in the way of networking, and of making money on sites like Mylot. My problem is that money has never been enough of a motivation for me to to do anything, even when I could really use the extra money. So, sometimes I'm very active online, and other times I just read and don't say much.