what are the reasons to hide their matters?
By Rams mylot
@rameshchow (4426)
India
September 11, 2010 6:01am CST
Actually we(college students) have many friends in our colleges, eventhough we never talk to them about our family and other financial matters,
Always majorily we talk about Our college matters only.
Once i tried to share my personal matters with my friends they just listen and leave it. When i ask about their family or financial matters they asked me "why?".
I strongly believe that we must know about our friends because they hide some problems in their heart only, how can we know that?
And when ever i have any happy/sad thing i immediately share with them?
But
some of my friends are not open? why.............
Ofcourse they came from different family backgrounds, eventhough they are our friends, so my feeling is they have to talk openly and share their views in a practical manner.
I would like to mention a simple example here "There are two friends in my classroom, they are close friends from the past 3years, but they don't about their family backgrounds of each other. And they never discuss about their problems and happy moments...." How can we say that they are good friends? I mean as per global openion friendship means sharing more than a mother, morethan a father, morethan a teacher, morethan a lover,,,,,,,,,,,,,more than all other relations.........
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4 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Sep 10
Friendships are unconditional. Meaning to be a true friend one must unconditionally with restrictions love and honor their friends.
It does not come so easy with people anymore as so many have been hurt by so called friends who perhaps shared their secrets with others.
Continual honesty and unconditional love allows the friendship to blossom.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
...we really cannot force people to tell us about their personal information, their family and things that is happening in their life...when you shared your personal matters to them, it is your own decision that you did that base on the idea that they are your friends, however, on their part, i think they needs sometimes before they can disclose those information or perhaps they are the type who prefer keeping it a secret within them...i agree that friendship means everything you mentioned above, but it is not true to everyone..sharing something to someone needs trust, so when you shared your info to them you trust them...so we are not sure if that is the same case for them...if i were you, examine more whether they see you as a friend just like how you see them as your friend..in that way, you can have a full picture of the situation..
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I have a few friends in college, but I don't open up too much to them because just like high school, if you say the wrong things, people will say things about you and it could haunt you for the rest of your college career. I have learn to stay away from some people and learn who to talk to and who not to talk to.
There was this one women in college who said things about my friend and I that weren't true, and I ended up having to defend myself and him because I wasn't going to take that from her. Also, this is college, that can wreak your reputation. I didn't want that. I had to set that woman straight and fast.
You have to be careful with whom you trust in life.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
11 Sep 10
When I was in college, I never thought about talking to my friends about family matters. I usually kept everything to myself. So when I went to college, I did the same thing. When I was younger, finances was never a problem because my parents handled them. I agree with you that friends can share almost anything with each other, but that was never a problem with me then.
