Some people just jealous that you are better him/her
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
September 11, 2010 9:49am CST
In real life, some people actually have malicious mind. They might treat you like a friend if you are not excel them in any way, or they thought you might not be able to surpass them in anyway. Once, you are better than them either financially, or you find a love of your life, and they do not. They got jealous. They might say something mean to you, or have bad comment about your current situation. That is what people really are sometimes. I have see many of them like that. They don't really truly bless your well - being, instead, they would comment on your situation in malicious way. I just hate those people, and I would never regard them as true friend. What about you, have you ever encountered such people in your life?
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16 responses
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I dont think ANYONE is "BETTER" then anyone else, you can do something better but that doesnt mean your "BETTER" I ignor people like that who think they are "BETTER" then me hey more power to them, but I know what I can and cannot do and i'm happy for my friends that do exceed me..I mean truly happy!!!!...your TRUE friends will accept you for who/what you are and all the rest can..well you know hehe!!...hmm not sure if that answers your question but.............
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
12 Sep 10
and might I also add...people who bring others down are THE most insecure people..see when they brng YOU down it gives THEM a FALSE high...because if one is TRULY secure with themselves they dont need to knock down someone else they will be happy for them..is this making any sense lol
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Sep 10
I know this usually happens. I used to be skinny and shy as a kid. I lacked confidence and the day i gathered my wits and confidence and rose to the peak. My friends and relatives started getting jealous of me. I had people in my previous office who used to be jealous of me and used to call me by different names. But it is said "the less you hear the people say about you, the more you succeed in life."
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I would disregard these people normally. If they were my friends, I would keep my distance from this relationship ever again. Do you what I am saying. If a true friend, they should give you true blessing, instead of get jealous on you.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Jun 11
Hi, kingparker. I am sure that I have been around and is still am, around people like this. Friends can be your worst enemies. That is why I am so careful about whom I make friends with. I call these people slithery snakes. They act as if they are your true friend, but all the while they are planning to steal what you may have, that they don't have. I believe that is how many people feel about me. I am thinking that I have done something to them of why they are being so mean to me. But, I have found out, that I haven't. They are just jealous because I have something that they don't have. It is nothing that I have done wrong at all, it is just only them that has major jealousy issues.
@mikeowl (200)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 10
Jealousy just happens as in someways humans always hope to be better than others. When you think properly, if someone can do it, why can't I? It actually depends on yourself how you think about it. In reality it sure happens and the fact that it doesn't change much things actually. I sure have seen it very much and even sometimes I am jealous of someone also. This things do happen somehow but just see it as a normal thing that happens in life and don't care what other thinks about you. The most important thing is that what you think about yourself. If you think you did your best and satisfy with what you have done. Don't care about how other think about you. That's the most important thing and how I see things.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Sep 10
Well I don't know if that is about jealousy or insecurities that you are talking about since you are expressing about the comparison. It all means that they are backbiters as well if that is the case.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
12 Sep 10
Yea I do encounter it at times. The most 'memorable' incident which I would not be able to forget is a friend of my mother's, who live 2 stories above mine. My mother and that friend who I addressed as Aunty, used to compare my grades and aunty's son's grades. Her son was my friend at that time. It went on and on until a time when his mother was jealous about something---my grades surpassing her son's. She couldn't take it and said something to my mother, and that was the last time we lost contact. I couldn't figure out how somebody can get so jealous.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
It is innate in man's nature to be envious of someone for the things he doesn't have.:(
Sometimes, it is difficlut to accept that what we really wanted so much seems so easy for others to achieve like a great job, a beautiful family, a happy home and living a luxurious life, to name a few...
These envious people are also difficult to deal with because n matter what you do they will always find a way to put you down.
I have dealt with those type of people in the past and they had nearly ruined my trust in humanity. Thank goodness they no longer exist in my life...:)
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
11 Sep 10
I wouldn't develop a hate for "those" people. It's only human to be "jealous".
It's how you deal with that jealousy that will determine whether I want to stay friends with this person, maybe not.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
Thank you for this nice topic and I will have the chance to share what I am currently experiencing. I have lots of friends right now, some of them are really true and some of the are not (which I know definitely). For the people that I know getting jealous of me in a real obvious way, I just act very friendly and super nice to them. If they are doing nothing against me, it should be fine but then if they do something bad against me then I will just continue being nice to them so that they will soon realize that what they are doing is not right. You just don't have to retaliate to them in a bad way. But if is is something really serious then they just have to wait for my turn.
Kill them with kindness.
@yeyelee (370)
• China
12 Sep 10
It's a pity that i haven't encountered such people in my life till now.haha..I just wanna see all kinds of human being whatever they really are,it's not that i like them.What a marvellous world,just as the saying goes:"big woods,what birds are." In your case,i wouldn't recognise them as my friend too.Friendship should be based on mutual respect.
@cinjhoxmyltc (334)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
As human, we are bound to have such bad character. If we will trace our roots, Cain kill Abel because of jealous mind. Yes, most people around you got jealous whatever you do bad or good one. When you do good things, they will praise you but after you turns your back they begin to bite at your back. I think we have to program ourselves that we cannot please everybody even if we give your 100% of your personality, they're still there at your back trying to make you life being worse.
@ivo_shkafov (399)
• Bulgaria
11 Sep 10
I don't know of someone being jealous of me,because I don't have a high oppinion of myself,but even if they're jealous-It's a free world,what's bothering you
@sunilpaul (173)
• India
11 Sep 10
I encounter these kind of people every day in my life. I am good at my job and therefore I excel in almost every assignment...which my colleagues don't welcome it...they turn green with jealous and start a character assassination campaign. I know I am a good orator and when provided with an opportunity, I give board room lectures which pisses even my superiors...This goes same with personalities..I walk into a restaurant and woman notice me....and the men accompanying them turn green...crazy as it may seem....acting like a vulnerable fool sometimes gets me through situations with the help of the envious people around than being my normal self.
@ktmatunog (912)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
I will not definitely not treat them as a friend too. And I will also disregard them. I don't care what they think and say about me! As long as I am enjoying life.
I don't wanna be with negative people. They will just drain my energy for the day. We should be friends with more positive one so that they can cheer you up. They give you a great influence in your mood and might help your health too! =p
