do we need to be somebody to please someone?

Philippines
September 11, 2010 12:50pm CST
is pretending the answer to please someone? or is that the right way to be friend with somebody? do you choose people to know you as what you are? I am not asking this for my sake, im just curious. Many of us sometime do things like this to know someone they like or to please people.right? if you ask me? i want to be me...the real me, i don't really care if they'll like me or not, as long as im being true to myself and not hiding anything from anybody.
10 responses
theplanner
@theplanner (298)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
It's better to let people know your true colors than be disappointed in the long run if they found out that you are not the person they think you are. For me I'd rather let others know the real me,flaws and all than let them be impress for the person I am not. It's even better if they saw the worst in me and then discover at the long run that I am a good person than let them see a good side of me and then be disappointed that I have some flaws.
theplanner
@theplanner (298)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
sorry I double posted. I edited the first one and thought I didn't posted the other one.
ellyse2003
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
it's ok
curly90
@curly90 (46)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
nah...being urself assures that u b comfortable with urself and not only that, bulid up ur self confidence.. u'l also find true friends that u can relate to rather than bein a poser n fake thats make ur life feel miserable..
ellyse2003
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
to all who have responded....yes, why we should do it? many of us are trying to be loved by someone else, people are looking for people who will love them for who we are but sometimes it turns out differently, so they pretend to be somebody.we cannot blame them...they want to be loved.right? but they should think about it...they cannot hide from someones shadow forever....they have to reveal their real personality.
Dominique
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Sep 10
I don't really think that pretending to be someone else is necessarily the answer to a lot of things, if anything. Personally, I think that it's better to try and be yourself as much as possible.
ellyse2003
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
two thumbs up!
nophie
@nophie (2336)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 10
off course not my friends..you just do whats the best in your mind and never think to please somebody else...
theplanner
@theplanner (298)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
It's better to let people know your true colors than be disappointed in the long run if the found out that you are not the person they think you are. For me I'd rather let others know the real me,flaws and all than let them be impress for the person I am not. It's even better if they saw the worst in me and then discover at the long run that I am a good person than let them see a good person in me and then be disappointed that I have some flaws.
ellyse2003
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
you are right
fraulein
@fraulein (12)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
first of all, we arent born to please someone. we are born to please God. why should we change the person in us just to please or to make someone happy, where in fact we are not happy with it? it's tiring to wear a mask and trying all our might to please someone. well actually, we really cant fit ourselves just to be acceptable to someone. for me, all i just need to do is be comfortable with myself. be happy with it. make myself happy and of course make God happy. :) adios!
hestylim
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 10
No, you never have to be someone else to please someone. Why should you? I just think it doesn't worth it. Don't be someone else to please others. You don't love yourself for that. You start to torture yourself that way..
Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Sep 10
I don't think we should pretend to be other person just to please someone else. One way or another you will be in harm if the truth about a person reveals. As it says that you can't really please everybody. I used to please everybody but of course by not pretending to be someone else but always doing their favor that I thought they could accept me or something. But I was wrong. At least I've learned that we shouldn't really please everybody unless if that is your job, example in sales.
len1415
@len1415 (195)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
We all know that we cannot please everybody, so why bother? Stay true to yourself and to other people and you will find true ones as well.
yeyelee
@yeyelee (370)
• China
12 Sep 10
This always happened in a relationship.The boy tried the best to show his advantages to attract the girl.And then he make it.But once his shortcomings were displayed and the girl couldn't tolerate them,and then she leaved him.haha,just take this for example,I would be myself too.It is meaningless to pretend and please others.Why to do it?