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@ReadingFairy23 (66)
United States
September 11, 2010 3:09pm CST
I have always prided myself for being a good, effective listener. However, I feel that when I talk or try to explain something to the people around me. They don't want to listen. Is it me or is it them? In your opinion, what is a good listener and how do you get people to listen you, and have more than one word agreement? Are you an effective listener or do you like people listening to you? Do you think listening someone expressing themselves is more important than what you want to do? Why or Why?
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Hi. ReadingFairy23. A good listener is someone who hears well and can repeat what you have said to them. They know how to summarize the main key points in a conversation to you. To get people to listen to you, it is always good to make decent eye contact with them. I enjoy people when they listen to me because when they, do it shows that they are interested in what I have to say. I am a very shy person but I will express my feelings when given the opportunity to do so. It is not you, it is them that is just not listening. When someone does not listen properly, they miss important facts that could cause problems down the line. Paying attention when someone is talking is very important when it comes to effective communication.
@Chengran (60)
• China
1 Oct 10
I think a good listener means he can listen and understand what another people talk to him,and sometimes,he can give some suggestions to the another people.I am a good listener,but sometimes I have the same problems with you that I can't let other people listen to me attentionly.I think good listener always show that they respect others,and it means they are impolite.So, I think it necessary to be a good listener.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I think a good listener tries to understand what the other is saying and has interest in life. If someone is just interested in letting others know only about what they have to say then they can't listen at all. I end up asking questions even because I'm so interested but if it is trivial stuff, I may just sit there. I don't talk unless people are really interested, because it would be a waste of time for me anyway.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I have learned that I can talk all I want but if people do not listen I can't control that. I am a very effective listener and caring person.
It does get frustrating sometimes, so if I notice someone is not listening I know exactly when to stop speaking.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
If you think the person you are talking too is not listening to what you are saying then stop talking immediately! 
There must be something wrong in what you are saying. It is either they are not interested in what you are saying or you are not clearly saying it. Another reason is maybe you are not listening well when they are the one are talking to you. Just try to evaluate yourself or ask a trusted friend for advise. 
There must be something wrong in what you are saying. It is either they are not interested in what you are saying or you are not clearly saying it. Another reason is maybe you are not listening well when they are the one are talking to you. Just try to evaluate yourself or ask a trusted friend for advise. 