What do you feel after somebody does you a favor?

I feel the same as you Bounce. I do favors for friends and do not expect them to reward me in anyway for doing that favor. When a friend does a favor for me, I am sure they feel the same way I do, but I just feel like I need to either give them a favor right away or buy them something. This of course becomes a vicious cycle.

If I felt that person has sincerity of course it is an overwhelming feeling to the extent that I would be grateful. It is up to me if I want to return the favor. But if the person let me feel that he is helping me then I don't think I should be overwhelmed about it to the point that he is just waiting for me to return the favor.

I feel kind of the same way as you do. I seldom ask somebody to do me a favor unless I really need his/her help. Whenever I asked someone to give me a hand, I keep in mind that I need to do something to reward him/her. Some people may think it natural that we ask for help because no one can live only by himself. But the proverb "There's no free lunch in the world" always holds me back because I believe no one wants to serve you without being rewarded, especially in nowadays when people are becoming more realistic and attach greater importance to material satisfaction.

Sometimes unsolicited favors can be kind of tricky..especially if you haven't asked for them..I don't like the feeling of being in debt to someone..It places you in a corner and sometimes its a priviledge that is mostly abused...I am a very frank person..So if someone does me a favor..I always stress or say that I have nothing install for him/her or them..I will be kind to give something or a service back, but on my terms, because I haven't asked for their favor...But if the favor is more like helping, genuinely, I will do anything to compensate for the action...I do sometimes take advantage of favors that are given to me...But all in a good way, and in the possible way too...I don't abuse of the favors...especially if they are from my friends..(^^,)

I think its natural to want to reward a good deed but don't let it get to you. A favour is something someone has done as a statement of there affection for you. Its not always intended that you can return a good deed strait away but more that you dont forget who these people are who have done things for you when you do get the chance or hear they are in trouble.

Favors are surprises. Some are pleasant and some do tend to leave you with that feeling that you owe that somebody something. It's your own decision whether to what kind of response to give to the one giving you the favor. If it feels enjoyable then enjoy it but it it leaves you an ill at ease feeling then the favor done is not worth suffering from tummy upsets :)

It really would depend on what kind of favour had been done for me. I like to try and think that that person was doing it out of the goodness if their own heart and that it's not really necessary for me to owe them a favour back but I am probably more inclined to want to help that person out if they have something that they need some help with as it's nice to always return a good turn from someone.

It might depend on the favor. I do prefer doing things on my own. I am a somewhat independent person. However, if someone does me a favor, one that is helpful or something like that, then I will appreciate it and will try to show this appreciation for this favor.

I have a lot of pride so I feel offended or annoyed. Especially if it was something I wanted to take care of myself. It would burden me too to return them a favor too.

I am too independent and pig-headed to ask for favours. With unasked for favours, firstly, I feel suspicion. Not used to people doing things for me, I will wonder what is in it for them. Yes, I feel obligated to repay the favour, whether I asked for it or not, as I don't like feeling as if I "owe" someone. Last night, before I left a party, someone said they had some meat for me. I am well able to feed my family and wondered why it was offered. Thought it may have been meat for my dog. I asked why they were giving me 10 pounds of ground beef and the answer I got was "It is for you to eat. I can get it all the time". While I didn't really want it, I didn't want to offend, accepted the gift and thanked them profusely. Got the meat home, opened the bucket and immediately smelled that the meat was "off". Neither my family or dog would be eating it. Putting my suspicious nature to the side, I'll assume the giver did not know the meat was off - and that they are under the impression they did me a favour. Despite knowing the meat was inedible, I will STILL repay the "favour" in some way so as not to appear ungrateful, knowing that THEY think I am beholden to them until I do. Another point on this is friends keeping score. Some people only remember what they have done for you and forget that it works both ways. When a (former) friend wanted something that really pushed the bounds of friendship, and I baulked, she reminded me she had done something for me. Taken aback, I reminded her that I had minded her 3 children for an entire weekend in addition to my own 3, that I had driven her around for a week while her car was off the road (and she refused to do the same for me because she was "too busy"). Now, I would not have mentioned those things except that this woman thought that because she had done one thing for me, I was beholden to her - completely forgetting how many things I had done for her. Truly, I would prefer if noone ever did anything for me because it seems I have to pay it back tenfold.

I will thank him, and return favor when time comes.

It all depends who the favor is from. Some people will do you a favor with the intention of having a hold on you. In my friendship circle we normally help each other out from time to time. We don't expect to be repaid for the favor we did. The only thing that we expect from each other is that next time one of the guys needs a favor that someone in the group helps him. It doesn't matter who helps who. Thus way we repay each other by keeping the circle of friends strong.

there are a lot of kind people in world.sometimes they will offer some helpnfor some strangers. but whoever you are ,you must accept the help.don't think it is a kind of load ,which must pay back."help isn't equel to purchase goods" helpers never think they want to get something someday.

I feel guilty if they help me when I don't ask them to, so I tell them, I don't need help. If they still carry on, I get a little rude and tell them I am not in need of help.

Don't do that. A Real friend will do you a favor out of the goodness of their heart! They are not looking for Anything in return. It is a expression of love. Just accept their help and thank them! Don't stress about it.They want to help you , not hurt you! They are doing this because they like and love you. You Do not need to rush to return the favor. Just wait for the perfect time to return the favor. Me? I am usually surprised and grateful when people do favors for me. I am Always grateful. And I try to return the favor the best I can.But sometimes it is what I call a random act of kindness. Like a Gentleman giving up his seat for me . Or a stranger give me good advice and then walking away.Since I can never return it to the specific person , I do a good deed for a stranger.Hopefully it will return to them like a commerical I loved. One person does something kind that makes another that makes another until it comes back to the first person!

I don't like asking favor even from my very close friends and family. Whenever they do something good to me I thank them for it. I also want to reciprocate their good deeds to me.

The same thoughts exactly, bounce58! Whenever that person did anything favorable to me which I did not request, I tend to feel so overwhelm with gladness. And just like you, whenever somebody do something favorable to me whether I asked for it or not, I'm happy and uneasy at the same time. I feel like I have to return the favor that was given to me at the soonest possible time. I'm the person who always grants favors to other people but if it is the other way around, I'm happy but in a hurry to return the favor in another form immediately if possible. "The takers eat well but the givers sleep well."

I don't feel uneasy when someone does a big favor for me. Instead I feel grateful for the good deed! But I do feel obliged to do something good in return. If I am not able to return the goodness to my friend I will find other ways like giving a simple gift as a sign of gratitude.

...i am overwhelmed and i feel i owe that someone the same favor in the future which i actually plan on giving the favor back...i don't really like to owe someone a favor, i prefer doing the favor for another person than them doing it for me...