What will make you betray a friend?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
September 12, 2010 12:06am CST
Ever had the feeling that you were betrayed by a friend?
You know, i feel i have had this situation where i think a friend has betrayed me. we were still in school then and she knew all about me (and some of these are general information that everyone else knows in school - my family separated, etc).
i felt betrayed because when we had a misunderstanding... she was using another person's phone or cellular phone and was sort of texting me anonymously and was telling me, "i know your family's background, blahblah..." i was not worried but i felt angry that she even went to that extent to only make me feel bad or scared??
i mean what kind of a woman - or girl would even dare do that to a friend who's been with you everyday for the past 4 years?!
we never talked anyway after college and i never even did try to contact her, or everyone else that she knew... she's just not worth it.
Will you ever betray a friend who's given you so much trust and friendship? What will make you betray a friend?
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14 responses
@yeyelee (370)
• China
13 Sep 10
I won't betray my friend no matter in the past,for the moment or in the future. Even though this condition unluckily happened,i believe it was never my intention, and i would explain, apologize to him in the first time,even make up for it if needed.It is so hard to establish a friendship,so cherish it.Maybe till the day you will die,you have just owned one or two real friend.
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@theplanner (298)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
At least you know that kind of friend is not worth keeping at all. I have my share of betrayals and it hurts especially because you invested time, trust and friendship. But I learned my lessons well. As for me, I would never betray a friend. I still believe that "what goes around, comes around".
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@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
your title not coincide with the topic, well what i want to know is that what did you guys have done and you both ended up hating each other? you had mentioned you were together for four years? i hope you will still be able to patch things up
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@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
leave her. She is not worth it. You already wasted 4 years of your life with her, do not waste some more years or time with that kind of person.Cut everything with her, change your number. By using other number means she is a wimp! she cannot face you personally that she still needs to be anonymous.Wimp is what she is! :)
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@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
In just a slipped of the tongue, a secret can be revealed. Betrayal is painful especially if your closest friend did that to you. If she can do it who else can you trust? I was betrayed before and when I think about it, it still hurts. I don't want to say that I am not capable of doing it, but I hope I would never get into such kind of situation again. So, if you can just keep your secret within yourself, try it or just don't give details.
@fraulein (12)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
first of all, someone is not worthy to be called a friend if she will betray you. after all the trust and honesty you've given her, she acted like that in return? if i am asked, i will never betray a friend. i will never waste the relationship we had built. i will never loss her trust and i will never do anything that can break our bond. misunderstandings and little arguments are not enough reasons to betray someone. well, based on the the she acts, it just signifies that she is not a true friend or even worse-- she is not a real person. she keeps on gaining your trust and yet she just wasted it. tsk. its her loss not yours. :)
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
U have experienced betrayal from a friend more than once. However, I think the worse betrayal was with an officemate, whom I treated as my friend and sister to me. I do not want to go into details what she did to me. The thing is that I gave her all my trust and friendship only to find out in the end that she used me and abused my generosity to her. Worse, she tell things against me and come up with stories which are not true.
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
12 Sep 10
Hi chiyosan,
Never say never, I would hope that my integrity would not allow me to betray a friend. When a friendship is going well and everyone is happy-go-lucky, sure you think, " I can tell this person all my personal business, because they will never betray my confident." Well, I would never tell all my personal business to anyone, ever.
Friendships come and go, and so does your personal information that you have shared. Depending on how vindictive the ex-friend is, your business could get posted, via the internet or picture phone, all over the world if they have a mind to do it.
Trusting your friends is not a bad thing, that what friends do. However, something are not to be shared. It doesn't mean that you don't trust them, just not with certain information.
Your ex-friend will, someday, get her just desert.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
13 Sep 10
No i will never betrayed my friends.. because i know this situations is very very bad situations.. and sometimes misunderstandings is a reason for breaking to friendships.. so i never betrayed to any of my friends.. and try always to not face this problem anytime..
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Sep 10
This world never runs short of backstabbers...you find them in friends,never the less as a partner as well.I had such experience with a couple of friends few years back and i hate them and never had see their face again.On the other hand there can be some retarted ones as well who make fun of you in every possible way and offer their hand to be good friends shamelessly.these kind aren't trustworthy for sure.great day.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
I never betrayed a friend. but I felt that a friend of mine betrayed me. I dont know what made her betray me. I guess she was plastic and I was sad that I trusted her and considered her a friend. I still see her this days but I dont trust her anymore.
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@smilepleeeaz (784)
• India
12 Sep 10
No I will never betray my friends ,ever. Because I know it hurts a lot when someone you trust so much betray you, and forgets all the love , care & promises of friendship they shared. I have been betrayed many times by people whom I used to trust the most and who I thought were the last person on earth to do so, but I was wrong.
But later on I learned that these are all just the lessons of life and so now I choose my friends very carefully and try not to attach to someone so easily. But still I am kinda emotional fool and thats what I hate about myself.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Sep 10
Actually I did that to one of my friends who became my boss before. Oh yeah he could say that I am a traitor to him but the story here is that he does not want to pay me for the job that I have done for him. And the salary is over due. Until now he does not want to pay me since he is a kind of a person that he does not want to shell out money but he will cheat other people for his own advantage. Until I called the previous employer that he referred me before as graphic artist that I only knew he has unsettled issue over there to the extent that he was missing in action to other employees. He got angry to me since I was able to reveal the whole truth to them.
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@msdedicated (25)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I would never betray my friends. I dont have time for the drama that will come from it. if one of my friends betrayed me. I will stop talking to them and cut them off, Because if they were really my friend from the start they would never have betrayed me.
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