it's not easy being a mom!
By ABHY14
@ABHY14 (15)
Philippines
September 12, 2010 3:35am CST
before i was a teenager, i thought that being a mom is easy, you would just raise up your kidz, prepare food for them, something like that,.. but then when i got married and our relationship was not working out, omg.. i feel so regret that i wish i died that very day, ashamed of myself.. i fel piety..and no wonder i just remember what my mom says that the guy i married was a monster.. and i realized that it was true.. i couldn't get up and think i feel worst.. i have no friends.. but then when i talked to someone with 6 kidz and she's been left by her husband, i feel relieved and realize that i was not the only one suffering from marital problems...and then i realize that i lost my way to God.. from then on when i have a big problem i always talk to Him and i feel relieved..
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13 responses
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
You are right ABHY. being a mother is not easy task because your like a robot that all things you make a possible even the impossible just for your kids.I can relate those mother because every time I saw my mother , I think and felt that she is tired of us but she have no choice because she loved us . your story about a mother of 6 kids are not easy and it is a problem because you didn't explain if the mother have a job. If that mother have no job and her husband left her , it is very complicated and hard things for her. How can she raise her 6 kids? Maybe she should ask help of her family. So, for those children ,. you must know that being a mother is not easy.
@ABHY14 (15)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
the story of that mom with six kids, she left her kids with her bestfriend, she went overseas to work as a domestic helper and now, i think all of them graduated from college.. see i think she is a superstar coz. she raised her kids with her own, and with the help of her bestfriend...thats why i told myself is she cant why cant i...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Sep 10
You are definitely right that it isn't easy to be a parent. I've got a seven year old daughter and a three year old son, and to this day I am learning something about being a parent on a daily basis. I never really thought that it would be easy to be a parent, but I also never thought that there would be nearly as many challenges attached with being a parent as I have faced. I wish you the best in being a good parent.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
13 Sep 10
I think being a mom is one of the hardest things to do. Being a mom comes with so much responsibilities it can make your head spin.It is one of the most stressfull but yet gratifying role one can ever play.So it is very important that we have strong support, and there is no stronger support than GOD.I truly believe i,ve made it through some of the most difficult situations raising my kids only because of him.
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Being a mom, dad, parent is not easy by any means. We all have our struggles with being a parent. When we were younger and teenagers we thought our parents were wacked out and didn't know a darn thing, but once you become a parent you realize my goodness, my parents knew exactly what they were talking about. Being married, takes work, and alot of it. You have to be able to compromise and make things work. Everyone has their own issues, and problems with in the relationship, so don't feel your the only one who's ever been there.
Being a parent, means you have to put yourself to the side and strive to give your kids everything they need, and if that means you have to give up something you want, then that's what it makes you do.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 10
Hi,
I agreed with you,not easy being a mother.
When I was young, I don't really bother about how being a mother's life.
I don't even know how difficult is the life being a mother.
But now, I myself is a mother of one son and I only know that being
a mother is not easy.I have to spend my time with my son and not much
freedom in my life. I can't do things like previously.
I have less time to sleep and have more works to do at home.
I have to cook food for my son,educate him and train him to be a better person
for his future.
Of course, I am glad to have my husband always at my side to support me and give me
a hand whenever I need.
Don't be sad...your life is still long way to go and be strong and always
think positively.Although your husband is NOT GOOD,but you always have
your family to share your sadness and do have a chat with your friends.
Try to be more outsource and then only you are able to see the outside world and
not keeping yourself in your own world.
@asja1388 (131)
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12 Sep 10
I too assumed that being a mum is easy. But whe giving birth I realised that since that day your life is completly changed. Almost everything is based and done for the well being of your child. But its not only that, what really brings me down are all the worries especially when I hear some bad news. I had a period, which was particular hard for me where I worried not being a good mum. Gladly, I dont have this problem anymore.
I am happy that you found your way back to God! You have someone to trust, and He is always going to be there for you, giving you all the strength you need.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Sep 10
Actually there are so many single mothers around the world, that sometimes I really felt so pity for them because of the cases that they were abandoned by an irresponsible person who can't be man enough to handle his obligations. To the point that others are planning to have an abortion. Good thing about it there is actually a counselling center for single mothers or for the early pregnancy so that they would be ready to face the consequences outside world.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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12 Sep 10
You are certainly not the only person who has marital problem. I think all relationships have their low points, but it's how you deal with those that matter. Somtimes if a marriage is in an unhappy state or is violent and fear ridden then the best and only thing to do is walk away from it. I know it may seem hard at first and there is a lot to be fearful of being a single parent but if you can have the support of your friends and family you will be just fine.
Teenagers have a very rose tinted view of adult hood and having children when infact becoming a parent is a full time job in itself.
@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Sorry to hear about your relationship with your husband. Sometimes, we do make mistakes in life but what is done is done. You can never go back to time and undo what you did. Just take it as a challenge and by no time, you'll be able to cope with things coming along. If relationship really isn't working out, you would need to find a solution instead of just complaining and blaming yourself. Be strong and everything will be fine. All the best!
@BRIIENA (23)
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12 Sep 10
I was a teenage mom of two and graduated with my high school class on time. Yes absolutely being a mom is tough at any age. I can say this from experience becuase my older kids are grown now and I had two more which are in elementary school, and guess what? it is no easier. Actually I wory more about the adult children than I do the ones in my household.
The relationship I have with my children is not influenced by my relationship with my husband. (We have been separated for 4 years) I can always find joy in their faces and touch. Finding God is the way to finding peace in your life.