Do you think boy and girl can become best friend?
@luukimlong2000 (658)
Vietnam
September 12, 2010 8:37am CST
Hello everyone, I want to know something about the relationship between boy and girl, can they just become a best friend. I am in the trouble with this sentence. It means that, my best friend and I have a very close relationship, but I don't know it is a love or it is just a normal relationship between boy and girl. I am very happy when chat with her, talk with her, send message to her, I sent more than 10.000 messages to her, and receive about that number, do you think we can become boyfriend, girlfrined, or just a very close friend. thank for you advice.
We known each other for about 5 years.
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@khoikhoi (93)
• Vietnam
16 Sep 10
In your situation, till now that is a good friendship no doubt. That was proved by many your activities before between you and her. I think you know clearly yourself, you know who you are, what you do and so the remaining portions for which you want to get knowledges belong to your girl friend.
To understand her most there is only one way that you need to do is talking straightly to her, asking how she feel, what you mean for her and what she need about you to find the final truth. Whether was a good ending or you would feel really shock when you knew the fact but you have to do it sooner or later with your bravery, faith.
No matter what you would get, I always hope you to achieve the best as you wish.
Good luck, anyway :)
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
16 Sep 10
I have't ask her about it. However, I ask her something like this, what do you think about our relationship. She said that, you are one of the few of my best friend that's really important to me.
WHat's her mean?
I am going to find the answer.
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
16 Sep 10
I hope so, I hope I know what I really want.
I don't want to lose because if my lose my will hard have a chance to be bestfriend again.
I will thinking carefully before make a final decision
@khoikhoi (93)
• Vietnam
16 Sep 10
ok, I think it's a good signal. It isn't too far to say that you had an important position in her heart. So you could ask her only once again about "what is the most important thing in her life ?" and "Whether your relationship between you and her could go further ?"
I can guess that 90% you will have the final answer ^_^
I have faced that situation before... but I will keep some secret due to some private reasons :|
I think you will get a better result, really believe that :)
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@winjayoma (186)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
Most of the cases like that it turns to developing their feeling to each other. It is not friendship anymore but it became Love.
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
Are you sure about it, is it because we known for a long time so we have a special feeling about the other.
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@winjayoma (186)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
Not all the time brother... but often times. 90% it will develop to loving each other specially if both of you cares for each other.
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@ikechukwu1000 (8)
• United States
12 Sep 10
well, it depends on wat you mean by being best friend.if thay re just kids they can really be best friends but when they are matured to adult,i really think they might be starting something when they get close to play ah!ah!ah! you know what i mean dont ya?
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@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Sep 10
As far as I am concerned, I think it can be best friend for the girl and boy together. For me, I think I am an example. I have so many friends who are girls. The friendship is so pure.No other emotions between us. I enjoy making friends with the girl who are usually so careful to you and help you do some thing in your daily life.Have a nice day!
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@adhirchi (7)
• India
13 Sep 10
A friend never see difference between a girl and a boy . Its just a friendship . And it never means that a boy or a girl . Nothing can measure a friendship . We feel happy when we talk to our friends . nothing that if she is a girl , we get happy . Even it is a boy we feel relaxed and comfortable when we talk with each other .
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@melodizachavez (51)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
hmmmmmmmp... have you ever came up in a thinking of wanting her to be your girlfriend?? or would you be happier if the relationship between you and her would be not just a friend? but more than that? AND... did you ever felt sometimes that she also wanted more than that...?what i am trying to point out is, if there is love (likes), whatever it is, that is truly different from the love (likes) you've shared from your other friends,,, as long as both of you agrees,,then why not...? go... if that would make you both happy... :)but just keep in your mind, that when love between you as lovers fails, you might not get back the friendship... so in short you are putting the friendship at risk... so its all up to you..... :) God Bless
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
thank so much. Because I know about it, if all the things is good, it is ok, but if it has a mistate, I think we can be friend any more. So, I will thinking clearly about us.
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
16 Sep 10
You are welcome.
we are friend now, please enjoy with my topics
@melodizachavez (51)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
you are sooooo welcome... :) thanks for adding me as your friend... as obvious i am new to this site... :)
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I think that it could be just a really close friendship. It all depends on what you BOTH feel. If you don't know what you're feeling right now you two might want to sit down and have an adult conversation. The best relationships sometimes come froma very close friendship.
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@livvy092002 (1032)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
I think it is possible for a girl and boy to be bestfriend. However, in your case, i assume that you no longer want friendship but a relationship more than friendship. It is just okay if the both of you would want the same, that is, to get to the next level of your relationship by being boyfriend-girlfriend. This means that both of you will commit to each other. There's only one way to find out if that relationship will be possible. That is to ask your friend if it is okay with her if you court her. I think it will work out for both of you and you are lucky you are in love with your bestfriend!
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
thanks for your advice, it is helpful. I will find a chance to discuss with her about this.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
12 Sep 10
There can always be good friendships between boys and girls. It doesn't have to always be a romantic situation between them. There is every possibility that a boy and girl csn be best friends. We find different qualities to admire in all of our friends. We choose a best friend for what they mean in our lives. it can certainly happen between a boy and a girl.
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@smilepleeeaz (784)
• India
12 Sep 10
Well its always a hard question to answer because in most cases a girl and a boy cant be just friend , and at some point or other they do fall for each other.
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
yeah, it is so hard to answer. now, I don't know what to do. I think time will give me the answer.
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@MTElemiaC (65)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
of course they are. bestfriends has no limitations weather a boy or a girl. it's up to a person by choosing his/ her bestfriend. as long as she/he have. it's not bad even if you're having a friend who is boy while you are girl.
@paiiii (39)
• China
13 Sep 10
I think you like each other,otherwise it's impossible to send so much messages in such a short time.your relationship is so ambiguous it may be.This ambiguity can be transformed into love necessarily,or this relationship may be the most suitable for you.But perhaps you can go further,it takes time to prove!
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
13 Sep 10
thanks for your adive, I will think it clarly.
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@misalax (307)
• Ireland
13 Sep 10
My best friend is a guy, and it's just really friendship on both our parts. Girls and boys can share the same interests and hobbies too you know, and that adds up to possibilities of a close friendship.
On your case maybe try getting a hint if she also feels the same, or maybe you can confess but tell her that if she isn't interested, still keep the friendship and forget about what you said, because sometimes confessions ruin a friendship =/
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@fraulein (12)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
having a best friend relationship with someone is regardless of the gender but if you love her beyond the line, just make sure that your friendship will still remain the same. for me, its a good a idea that lovers started from friendship. but it takes a lot of effort and extra care for your friendship. :)
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
13 Sep 10
yeah, It will take a lot of time to keep our relationship.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
Hello there! Like you, my bestfriend is a guy. He's my friend for almost ten years now and I also came to a point where I got confused about my feelings. I once asked myself if I am going beyond friendship with him or not. Lucky for me because I got the answer soon enough. When he got a girlfriend, I checked myself whether I am feeling jealous with the girl or not. Because if I am, then that means pass over the line of friendship, but I did not feel any jealousy and what I felt is a genuine happiness for him that he found the right one. I then conclude that I got confused maybe because I've grown too close to him.
So, about your question, I believe that a guy and a girl can be best of friends because it is happening to me. There will come a time when their relationship will be tested and it is up to them how they will surpass it.
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
Thank for your sharing, I hope you can find the right one too, in this situation, I think all people will confuse about their relationship.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
13 Sep 10
Yes why not.. i think a boy and a girls can become best friend.. yes i have also a friend.. like girls.. she is my very good friend.. but i can't say her as my girlfriend.. I shared everything with her.. and she also.. but we never treat as a boyfriend and girlfriend..
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
13 Sep 10
Do you contact with her everyday, when you free, don't know what to do, do you send her message. I do it everyday, I don't know why?
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
12 Sep 10
If you are falling in love with that person to the extent that you already accept her for who and what she is then I think it is possible that the two of you can have the relationship.
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@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
Hello! Yes, its possible that a boy and a girl could became best of friends and eventually became lovers in the end. Well, that's how Ive seen others who had this kind of relationship. Best friend that became best of lovers. Its a good relationship I guess because friendship is a very good foundation of love. Sparks and romantic inclination may diminish or totally disappear among lovers or married couple but friendship will never fade no matter what, so you could expect that the respect and mutual understanding between you and her will never end for as long as the friendship is there. Yes, I think, you and your best friend may fall in love with each other or you maybe have it both already but afraid to admit it. Go on with it, if ever, its best to have a friend that will soon be your lover... Good night!
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
13 Sep 10
thank you for your opinion, it so great, I will find a chance to finish all the things one want to know for a long time. Oood night.
@shearry18 (118)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Sep 10
It's really good to know that you've been very close friends for 5 years now. If you love her then just let her know. I'm sure she would understand. You said you've been friends for a very long time and being honest to her regarding about your feelings is important. Open communication is still the best. Let's put it this way, what if she likes you too and she is just waiting for you to make the first move? No guts, no glory my friend. the best couples that I've known are best friends at first because you get to know the person that much.
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
thank you for your advise, but I don't know my feeling yet. Should I ask her, or just still a close friend....
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@handy91 (113)
• Thailand
12 Sep 10
it's hard to talk about other people feeling, you should feel that yourself, if you really love her, you should find out whether she loves you or not. Because I think, when you tell her your feeling inside, you two hardly can be normal friends again. Anyway, this's just my opinion, the decision is up to you. Hope you will be happy with your love
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@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 10
Thank you, because I am still don't know I feeling yet, is it I love her, or becasue we are close friend for a very long time, so have a very close relationship. I will thinking it clearly before I talk to her.
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