Do you still think about your ex?
By gxnfly
@gxnfly (1147)
China
September 12, 2010 9:32am CST
Recently I always think about my ex-boyfriend from time to time.Last night I even had a dream about him,he said he still loves me and asked me to come back.It was so vivid I can just feel it.The truth is I have a boy friend right now,and we are good with each other,he treats me well ,to be frankly.I don't know what's the matter with me.I really missed the past days,it was so naive and pure,but I know I just can't go back.It was me who broke up with him,broke his heart.Maybe we can just be common friends.I want to do something for him,I feel quite sorry to break up with him.We were together with each other for almost five years,he is live a family to me,I even want to do something for him to make up.I don't know if it's right or wrong.
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17 responses
@peachmom2369 (131)
• United States
12 Sep 10
i still think about my ex from time to time and still have dreams about me and him getting back together eventhough i am married with 2 kids. but i wouldnt try to talk to him or make up for anything i did in the past because it might make your current relationship might suffer for you trying to fix what you did in the past
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
12 Sep 10
That's normal, I think. I still think of and dream about my ex-boyfriends because I loved them and love doesn't die easily..after 19 years of marriage my husband and i divorced 5 years ago and I still dream and think about him a lot. I'm wondering if it will ever stop, I wish it would.
Don't do anything for your ex except leave him alone. If you broke up with him it might be painful for him if you contact him. Let him live his life and leave you in the past. If it hadn't been you who broke up with him, someone else would have and they probably have! It's part of life that we have to live with so don't open old wounds. Just treasure your memories and wish him the best in your heart.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
15 Sep 10
IT's normally to be thinking about our ex. After all, both of u hve been so lose to each other in the past 5 years. With him being in your daily life, doing things together etc. Though u have a new bf now, but the feelings both of them bring to u is different.
U cant be comparing the both of them. Besides, i guess u dun really love your ex now, it's guilt u are feeling. Like u say, u broke his heart. If u really want to make it up to him, leave him alone. Let him move on in life, instead of wasting time, trying to forget what u did to him
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Hi. gxnfly. I still think about my ex boyfriends. I will admit. I only think about them because I am experiencing the pain that they has caused me and my heart. They took my love for granted. Now they have moved on with other women. I know that they are only with these women because they can't have me. But I would never take them back if they got on their knees!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
13 Sep 10
but if you still love your ex, also if were you that broke up maybe he still loves you^^ just be honest with your bf and tell him^^ and talk with your ex and see if things can be like before^^ if you say how you feel to your bf he will be sad sure but he will understand. sure he wont want be with a girl that still loves her ex. i understand you say this new bf treats you right but thats not enough to choose a guy as our bf^^ we need to love him and is clear who you love is your ex^^ so please dont waste more time and talk with both^^ or it might be too late when you decide to do that and your ex found other girl already. so please do this now^^ then tell us how it was^^
@jules532 (38)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I still have dreams about one ex in particular. I always wonder why or what triggered that to come up in my dream. In this case, I did not break up with him, he broke with me, but I think part of me still wonders what might have happened if things worked out.
@fherfher (259)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
Yes i did. I always think of him. Before going to sleep and when i wake up in the morning. Maybe because we just broke up and still mending my broken heart. I told him not to communicate with me, for me to move on and he did. But i can't help myself to think of him always. But i still believe that if we really are meant for each other. Destiny will meet us again.
@AMQArbasC (46)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
For me, what you did to your boyfriend is so painful, because, both of you have been in five years, and it's so difficult to move on.It's right to break your boyfriend if you don't have any feelings for him.But it's wrong to break your boyfriend if you still love him, because the feeling still their.
@abhinav7175 (126)
• India
12 Sep 10
..not often.. but sumtyms .. wen i feel lonely.. or try to think of my skul lyf ..and hw we frnds used to hav fun.. then my ex comes into my mind .. then i recaptulate ..all the sweet memories ...she was not exactly my ex..tho..i loved her .. but she said that she dint.. so it was a one sided love.. ryt now i hav a gf ..nd she loves me so much .. that i dnt need to think abt my past and get sad .. cuz m much happier ryt nw.!!!
@The_Mechanical_Turk (208)
• United States
12 Sep 10
hey! sometimes I still think of my ex but not making me realize that I miss her. It's just happy to know that someone like her just come to my life.
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
13 Sep 10
I think from him from time to time because I'm still worried (i think i scarred him for life or something) because of what he's doing now. I've been told that he still hasn't moved on and that he has immediately changed personality and stuff. Other than that I don't have any more reason, I'm happy with my current boyfriend here :)
@bebang0915 (93)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
No, because I have moved on. I found a very special someone who helps me get through the pain. But because he was part of my life, I cannot erase the memories we've share before but not to the extent that I will think about him.
@chinkai28 (114)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
Yes I believe so.. I remember the good relationship we have had.. we've been the very best friends. If only we can still be good friends despite the break up, although we are still friends but it's never the same...It's too complicated.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
I never think about my ex since I read this article.I think if you still think about your ex boy friend time to time then your not that fully move on.Just like you still have some little feelings for him.As for now,I am just thinking with my husband time to time and I think it means I fully move on about my past and continue the present time.
@Mandabear203 (61)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I think about my ex everyday and it's not in a good way. We have a 2 year old son together and he treated me bad and took his own son's things when he was 1 month old. He disgusts me. It doesn't help that I have to see him 3 times a week when he comes over for his supervised visits with my son. It makes me angry thinking about him. I agree with the others when they say you shouldn't do anything when it comes to your ex. It could open some wounds for him and he might resent you for it...Unless you are thinking about trying to get back together. But I would be honest with your current boyfriend about how you feel if you haven't told him already.
@aabhimannu (7)
• India
12 Sep 10
u have not written y he ditch u.anyways forget the past n concentrate on the future.....becoz if anyone do it for first time then there is possibilites of doing it again..i also remember my ex as a gud memories..i often dream of her.but it is pointless of getting back.so think of ur future.wht happen about the guy who supports u ,when u need anyone extremely.so gud luck