Afraid of being rejected!

I we want to successful in life we need to handle rejection. Getting rejected happens more frequently than being accepted. So there is no avoiding it. We have to live with it. We can use it to our advantage. If you have a really good idea which you want to put forward to you superiors in the office. Go ahead and do it! Do not be afraid of the rejection. If your proposal is accepted, well, you are a winner! This will motivate you to put in better and better ideas. If it is rejected, you can always ask for and get an answer as to why it was rejected. You can use this to think out your ideas in a better way to gain acceptability. Once you get into this routine of analyzing and coming up with practical and useful ideas you will have a higher strike rate. This way you would have handled your rejection in a positive and constructive way. Remember an idea needs unbiased thinking, dispassionate analysis, understanding of the situation and good, acceptable and relevant presentation to be accepted. You will need to develop patience and persistence to carry through you concepts forward. Both the confidence from a success and the disappointment from a rejection should motivate you. That should be your goal.

I do understand your predicament... Everyone of us hates rejection, I guess.The pain of being unaccepted is so unbearable , isn't it? It gives you the feeling of being unwanted, unneeded and unloved... Worse, it makes you feel like you are a worthless garbage... But in our lives, we have certain strengths as well as weaknesses. Sometimes, we just don't fit in, but that doesn't mean we are a lesser human. It is just that it isn't for us. So, whenever you are rejected, smile and move on. Because out there, there are more people who need us than reject us. Believe me, everybody needs somebody.:)

Its normal psychology for everyone to be afraid of getting rejected. But what makes you different, handling it. Also you would have heard a phrase "Try and try until you succeed". Never lose hope and I bet you would see yourself successful someday down the line. Don't worry much about getting rejected, be courageous enough to face life as is.

Well my friend, there are things in life in which we really have to fight for it and face it. There are obstacles everywhere in life, we have to fight it, jump over it no matter what. I was like you last time. The moment I was rejected, my face will change and I'll slip down into an upset mood, thereby affecting my confidence and I wasn't able to stand up for myself and defend for myself. I had to keep relying on others. It was until an incident that happened that made me change my thinking. The thought of fighting for myself and overcoming my fears, made it possible for me to counter this fear of rejecting. So I hope you'll do the same. Have more confidence and you'll make it eventually. Good luck!

Hi ggeeta, Whether you get rejection from a job or personal relationship, it can be a most painful situation. However, you cannot just look at the rejection as a failure, you can also look at it as a learning tool, which could make you stronger. You have to know that we don't always get what we want in life. When I get rejected, and we all get rejected sometimes, I look at the situation from a positive angle; there must be something or someone better for me. If you let rejection rule your life you will live in a depressed state most of it. You must take rejection lightly, as part of life. Sometimes you will win and sometimes you will lose. How would it look if you were the only person on the planet that always got what you wanted? Believe me, you are not in the rejection boat alone. If you are living, rejection will come into your life. How you handle the rejection is the key to survival. Everyday I awake, I said, without fail, "something good is going to happen to me today." Then I move on through my day accepting the positive and negative. After all, that's what life is filled with, positives and negatives learning experiences.

Hi, First step you need to do is start thinking positively about yourself. Start doing things without thinking if they would be rejected or accepted. You will find that many a times it is just you who is thinking about these things and there was no reason for it. If at all you are rejected dont loose hope. Everybody is special in their own way and have a very special place and role to play in life. Keep trying and you will succeed.

Hi geeta, first of all you should realise that all of us go through this in some form or the other in life. It is only when you make up your mind to not mind it and move on can you overcome this feeling of dejection and do better,Be analytical and dispassionately look where you are lacking and try to make amends in that particular area.Also concentrate on your interests and any skill that you might have and try to utilise that. Just to give you an example, One of my relatives is a software engineer having worked with Oracle for 4 years earning a fat salary.After she got married and had a child ,she had to give up her job having moved to another city.She was frustrated for sometime, but now she has another job which is not so demanding - she has hired a cook and is supplying packed lunch to bank employees and others ...She is a good cook and is utilising her talent and earning..all the best and happy mylotting

I believe that we all can relate in so way to the fears of being rejected. Nobody wants to face that. It can be a crushing blow to the ego to be turned away. Life is hard enough without the failure of rejection looming over our heads. We can'r really do anything about fearing rejection except to face it, accept it and move on.

Yes sometimes this situations comes to in our mind when we are in a new jobs.. and the dear of loosing jobs.. so we try to best commitment from us.. as possible.. i think it is good for us sometimes.. for saving jobs.. because we efforts good. and we get good response. of it..

I must admit the fact that I am so afraid of rejections as well as I felt that it makes me less as a person. But then it challenges me for so many times in many different aspects especially in job. That skills is not fitted to them. But at least now I really learned that you can't really please everybody so thus I am not afraid of rejection.

Everyone is born afraid of being rejected.Someone just grew more braver after so many rejections.What you should do is be more confident and try to show youself.

hello ggeeta! everybody is afraid of being rejected, others are just good at hiding it. Noone wants to be rejected, noone normal that is. So don't fret, you belong to the majority. However, you can do much to improve your outlook in life. You must learn to accept that no matter how good you are, there would always be instances where you will be rejected, not always because you are inadequate, but because there are others who are more suitable for such positions, or their ideas are much more viable. but it does not mean that it would always be like that. The thing to do is to find your own niche or expertise and improve much on that area, be an expert on that field. Learn to tell yourself that when your ideas are turned down, it does not mean that you are much less of a person, or much of an expert. if your ideas don't get accepted, just learn from it and move on.

Do not be so hard on yourself. Rejections make us feel as if we have failed somehow and this is not entirely true. Although some can succeed right off the bat, God Bless, but for those of us who do not succeed on first attempts, we must take our lessons and learn from them. What we learn from rejection is how to brush up on skills. You must tell yourself that you truly tried and at the moment they cannot appreciate your skill and or attempt you will not allow this to get you down as there plenty more areas where your skills can be appreciated. In order to survive we must always just and give our best shot each time.

May be you are afraid to face humiliation if you are being rejected or that is what you are thinking, that you might get humiliated if you are being rejected. Or maybe you are lacking of confidence to your self?